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Nora Judith 7/2/06 Miles Chauncey 4/20/09 born with Trisomy 21 - Down syndrome
Update re: my dad
Thanks again for all your support the other day.
My mom, brother and I sat down with him that afternoon and he told us he actually had his first drink in 30 years about two years ago, and it's gotten more frequent gradually since then. Once every few months, then once a month, once every couple weeks and recently every weekend.
We were floored. He did tell us he planned to check into outpatient treatment the next morning and knew he needed help to quit again, which was good. That's primarily why I went, to let him know he DID need help to quit and try to convince him to go to rehab if he wouldn't.
Unfortunately, my mom asked him to stay at a hotel or a friend's house for a few nights because she needed space and time to think, etc. I'm not sure that was the right thing to do, looking back, because we haven't heard from him since and he's not returning our calls.
So we have no idea where he's staying, if he's OK, if he's actually in treatment or if he's on a bender somewhere.
It's been pretty awful. I can only hope for the best, but sometimes it's hard not to think about the worst and want to curl up and cry.
Nora Judith 7/2/06 Miles Chauncey 4/20/09 born with Trisomy 21 - Down syndrome
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Re: Update re: my dad
oh cooker! I hope it all works out. I'm so sorry you are all going through this.
I'm really hoping so. And, of course, we can't call and find that out because patient information is confidential!
Nora Judith 7/2/06 Miles Chauncey 4/20/09 born with Trisomy 21 - Down syndrome
Kaden William 11/4/06 and Dawson Michael 6/30/10
Dawson's first birthday - at the zoo
big hugs...
I'm sooo sorry!!
Keeping him and your family in my prayers.
thank you for the update. I'm so sorry you are going thru this.
(((((HUGS)))))
What does your gut tell you?
Would he really check in somewhere and not tell anybody where he is?
I truly hope it all works out and that he gets the help that he needs. You and your family are in my thoughts.
Unfortunately, my gut tells me he's feeling bad/sorry for himself and doing something self-destructive as a way to "punish" himself. It sounds crazy, but that's the way he is. And, unfortunately, we think alike.
Nora Judith 7/2/06 Miles Chauncey 4/20/09 born with Trisomy 21 - Down syndrome
I am sorry you are going through this. I was wondering what happened. I am hoping your Dad is in treatment. I am wishing you all get teh strength you need.
Oh, cooker, I hope he's doing the right thing.
(hugs)
DS - December 2006
DD - December 2008
Oh my! Yeah, not a good move on your mom's part. I hope you hear from him very, very soon. Are there treatment facilities you could call and check up on to see if he's checked in anywhere? I am sure you probably thought of that already though.
ETA - patient confidentiality. nevermind on that...
I can't even imagine how worried you must be. I'm so sorry. I hope he's okay.
(((hugs)))
Alex (11/14/06) and Nate (5/25/10)
"Want what you have, do what you can, be who you are." - Rev. Forrest Church
I am sorry you are going through this.
I think your mom did the right thing though. Her feelings on the matter are important, more important than yours, IMO. She lives with him and deals with the disease every day and is on the front lines.
It is not easy. My dad was an alcoholic too (my whole life I never saw him sober for more than 30 days in a row, it was terrible).
I hope you have some support where you are. Al-Anon is a good thing.
I'm so sorry you guys are going through this.
Have you called his work to see if he is at least there?