push present?

BananaSD

I had never heard of a "push present" ever, but a couple days ago my DH was with his mom shopping and he told me he got me one.  I do not need any presents at all, but I though it was cute of him!  Are these common??

MrsRebecca

I think it's a pretty even divide between common and uncommon. And I will never understand why this is such a flameworthy topic around here.

I am not getting a push present (to my knowledge) but I have absolutely zero problems with men who buy their wives something to celebrate the birth of their child. 

dunvilles

Personally, I think its really sweet! Sounds like you have a really thoughtful hubby!

I think they're becoming more common.

sleepingbeauty825

Ironically, it's a bit of a hot topic around here. Personally, I have heard of them, I'd take one if given in and sure, maybe I have dropped a few hints to my hubby! If he didn't get me one, I wouldn't be mad though.

RACox

DH and I joke about it. Because I told him he could get me a new car. Obviously he said no way. But now that its getting closer (and we have more space... we are in the process of moving to a bigger house) he wants to get something for both of us, like the glider I wanted for the nursery.

shimmerairbrush

Like PP's have said, this topic is a biggie around here.

Last night DH took me out for my birthday dinner, his present to me was an overly indulgent Tissot watch. I got a little miffed at him because we are obviously trying to cut back so I can take all my maternity leave. But he said it was a birthday/push present and that I could get as mad as I wanted but he's not taking it back unless i agree to put LO back in when he finally gets here! LOL.

NastyAnnie

I think the "hot topic" of push presents surrounds the entitlement some women seem to feel in response to them. The whole, "I carried your baby for 9 months, get me something" thing. But if your H just got you something to be a sweetie, that's nice. Maybe you could get him a little something as well?

I think Bun and I might exchange little gifts when Jack gets here, just because it's a time to celebrate, and we'd like to celebrate each other as much as our little one.

sleepingbeauty825

shimmerairbrush:

an overly indulgent Tissot watch.

*jealous*

anabell0920

NastyAnnie:

I think the "hot topic" of push presents surrounds the entitlement some women seem to feel in response to them. The whole, "I carried your baby for 9 months, get me something" thing. But if your H just got you something to be a sweetie, that's nice. Maybe you could get him a little something as well?

I think Bun and I might exchange little gifts when Jack gets here, just because it's a time to celebrate, and we'd like to celebrate each other as much as our little one.

I agree about the entitlement. Also to me a little present is sweet but a brand new car or something is extreme. JMO. There is a website that has personalized necklaces that are not expensive that I told dh I would really like with LO's name on it. I would just like it period so if it comes later that is fine by me.

BananaSD

NastyAnnie:

I think the "hot topic" of push presents surrounds the entitlement some women seem to feel in response to them. The whole, "I carried your baby for 9 months, get me something" thing. But if your H just got you something to be a sweetie, that's nice. Maybe you could get him a little something as well?

I think Bun and I might exchange little gifts when Jack gets here, just because it's a time to celebrate, and we'd like to celebrate each other as much as our little one.

This is exactly what I was thinking...I want to get him something too.  Also, there is no way what he got was a pricey gift...I am sure it was something little...we dont have the $$ to be spending on gifts, but I think he was just trying to be sweet. 

NastyAnnie

BananaSD:

NastyAnnie:

I think the "hot topic" of push presents surrounds the entitlement some women seem to feel in response to them. The whole, "I carried your baby for 9 months, get me something" thing. But if your H just got you something to be a sweetie, that's nice. Maybe you could get him a little something as well?

I think Bun and I might exchange little gifts when Jack gets here, just because it's a time to celebrate, and we'd like to celebrate each other as much as our little one.

This is exactly what I was thinking...I want to get him something too.  Also, there is no way what he got was a pricey gift...I am sure it was something little...we dont have the $$ to be spending on gifts, but I think he was just trying to be sweet. 

Something small, budget friendly and tasteful to celebrate your union and the fact that you just brought a beautiful baby into the world is more than acceptable, I think. GL on your gift hunt, and be sure to tell us what he got you! The surprise is always the best part!

flgator

I had never heard this term until a couple of months ago.  I collect teddy bears, and DH got me a teddy bear from my favorite artist.  The bear had DS' initials and birth date embroidered on it.  It was a surprise, and I thought it was sweet.  I didn't expect anything and wouldn't expect anything this time either. 

acaudill042106

That is soo sweet.  I told my dh that if he HAD to get me something this time I wanted a cake in my favorite flavor for my shower.  There is a lady locally who makes cake sculptures as yummy as they are beautiful.  Totally inexpensive and all i've talked about since my friends insisted on having another shower.

mejumpmore1

For Christmas my DH gave me a Chamilia bracelet with a "motherhood" charm. He plans to get a birthstone charm once little one gets here (sort of a push present) He didn"t feel comfortable getting a birthstone charm in advance because we aren"t certain when LO will come. I"m due Feb. 3 so it could be Jan or Feb. I"m sure that LO will be coming after my due date...but you never can know for sure until they are here.

RJBWife

DH and I agreed that in May we would take a trip with the kids to Disney World.  We're going to celebrate having our son and the end of tax season (DH is a CPA).  Having a good time with our family and getting away from it all sounding like the best gift to eachother!

Ruggerkitty

I bought myself a push present! It's a bracelet with LOs birthstone (I'm really hoping he doesn't come too late!). DH got me a ring for Christmas that represents the baby, I think it was supposed to be a push present type of thing but he didn't want to wait to give it to me. I think it's sweet and romantic for SOs to get something for a new mother, but it could be any type of gift, card, etc.

When my grandmother passed away this year, we cleaned out her house and found a vase with a note taped to the bottom that said "Harold gave me this vase full of flowers when we brought our son home from the hospital". She had saved it all these years. So sweet! 

northernkate

I just want flowers - I love fresh flowers.

scubaspot

NastyAnnie:

I think the "hot topic" of push presents surrounds the entitlement some women seem to feel in response to them. The whole, "I carried your baby for 9 months, get me something" thing. But if your H just got you something to be a sweetie, that's nice. Maybe you could get him a little something as well?

I think Bun and I might exchange little gifts when Jack gets here, just because it's a time to celebrate, and we'd like to celebrate each other as much as our little one.

This. For me it is the entitlement that some women feel towards the gift. "I carried a child for 9months and gave birth therefor you owe me a diamond necklace."

If someones DH or SO decided to commemorate the birth of their child with a gift then that is sweet but if the mother thinks it is owed to her I get really annoyed. After all the fact that we are the ones giving birth comes down to simple biology. It isn't like we all sat down with our DHs and had a conversation on who should be the one to carry and deliver our child. We are not doing this out of the kindness of our hearts and in the end we too also get the gift of a child.

I also think that the term "push present" is silly. 

mrshutch

BananaSD:

NastyAnnie:

This is exactly what I was thinking...I want to get him something too.  Also, there is no way what he got was a pricey gift...I am sure it was something little...we dont have the $$ to be spending on gifts, but I think he was just trying to be sweet. 

It's really sweet he was so thoughtful. I'm on board w/ everyone else about the entitled thing- that's when I feel bad for the husbands and can't believe that wives would demand presents for something that's part of the union and their lives together. Personally, it still blows my mind that DH spent thousands of dollars for an engagement ring. Obviously the standard in our society (well, the price range varies, but the concept's the standard) but it amazes me. Not that I mind since I will always love my ring

I like the idea of getting your DH something as well- it's not about the money, but it's the idea. I won my fantasy football this year so I'm spending the money on getting DH a plane ticket to go out West for skiing. He's always surprising me w/ little gifts so I wanted to do something for him as well. 

UrbanLe1

Honestly, I don't look at it as an "entitlement" thing at all--just an event that should be remembered.  "Entitled" seems to imply that you feel like you deserve something expensive.  I don't care how much my gift costs, just that he thinks about it.  I felt the same way about my engagement ring.  Or birthday presents.  Or Christmas.  In our circle of family and friends, the baby gift ("push present" is such a bad term!) is just really common, and I've always known I'd get something small and sentimental, probably jewelry.

DH is buying me a watch, then engraving LO's name and his time of birth on the back of it--so I can always remember when our lives changed forever, and how precious all of our time together is.  I think it's a very sweet idea, and it doesn't have to be a Rolex--or even an Anne Klein.  I know lots of women who get silver necklaces or bracelets with the baby's name or monogram on them, or things with their baby's birthstone in it.  

It doesn't have to be anything big.  I just think it's a sweet sentiment, and something to look forward to,  

RadicalDreamer143

It also seems to me that here, if people feel a person is getting an expensive gift, that means the woman is entitled.  No, really, it's just that some people have bigger budgets than others.  The whole, "As long as it isn't anything like a brand new car..." well, that's really no one's concern, and is a perfectly fine gift if the couple can afford it (and they might need it, if they need to make room for LO).

"Push presents" have been around forever, just without that silly name attached.  I know my grandmother received a piece of jewelry for each child she had, and my mother says her friends did as well.  I really don't understand why some people like to judge the whole concept of it - it's nothing new.