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sex...or lack thereof...

ocnfish4ocnfish4 member
in September 2013 Moms
For the last few weeks, every single morning, I have a very steamy, sexy dream. I'm sure it's my hormones going crazy. And the guy who usually stars is a hottie I used to work with, so I'm not complaining. Needless to say, I'm usually pretty worked up when I wake up. Then the rest of the day too. My problem is that I can't get DH interested. I don't even know the last time we DTD. This makes me so sad. I'm in this high sex drive time, and he seems to have lost his completely. Sigh...I'm getting tired of being the only one who will touch me.

No point to this post except to vent.
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BFP #1 8/25/12 EDD 4/28/13 Blighted Ovum, D&C 9/20/12 at 8w6d. I'll always remember the first one. My baby Grace. BFP #2 12/26/12 EDD 9/4/13. DS born 9/7/13. My sweet rainbow.
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  • himymloverhimymlover member
    I'm really sorry. I know it sucks. Since we conceived we have had sex once....three weeks ago. I hope your husband gets his back soon! Have you guys spent much time together outside of the house? Maybe a date night would help. Hasn't helped me, but then again my bf has never had a super high sex drive.
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  • FinallyMrsSFinallyMrsS member
    Hi there I rarely post, but stalk quite frequently.

    I'm having a hard time with this exact topic myself in fact I know that the last time DH and I DTD was when we conceived!!!

    It's been rough to be honest, but I'm trying not to take it personally. My DH has an incredibly stressful job and I think the added pressures with knowing how much our lives are about to change in addition to our plans for me to stay home for a few years are part of the reason he's not interested.

    We're trying to actually schedule a "date" to take care of this... Perhaps if your H is like mine, once he can unwind and wrap his brain sound the thought of getting physical, it'll help.

    Feel free to PM me anytime I feel your pain!!

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  • JLMcWeeneyJLMcWeeney member
    I would try taking him by suprise and try to get him in the mood at an unusual time. Like first thing in the morning or right when he gets off work. The spontaneity of it may make him want to more. Or TMI!!! go down there and get to business before he says he's not in the mood. No man is going to stop you from doing that. after you get him going then you get what you want too. If this doesn't work I guess just give home time to approach you. Not much else you can do.
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  • UpsyDaisy83UpsyDaisy83 member
    My DH and I only had sex twice during my 1st pregnancy. He was just not interested. This time round he can't keep his hands to himself. Men are strange creatures, I guess we'll never know what makes them tick??
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  • michelle7482michelle7482 member
    Lack of sex is normal is pregnancy!! We only DTD like 5 or 6 times last times I preggo. We had sex for the first time in a month on Saturday. I have no sex drive when I'm pregnant, plus being tired from taking care of DD, I'd rather sleep!! DH is very understanding, plus he gets taken care of it other ways! Haha.

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  • ammiddleton3ammiddleton3 member
    Unfortunately for me right now, my situation is the opposite. DH is ready to go anytime, but I haven't had much of a drive. I do feel it creeping back up some so hopefully it's just 1st tri hormones.
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  • NeesieJoNeesieJo
    I was on pelvic rest until last week.  Literally, since Christmas day.  So, when the doctor took me off, we were kind of excited....until we DTD.  It hurt, and I did not enjoy it in the least!!!
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  • SKJandBRCSKJandBRC member
    You are not alone in this battle. My DH told me two days ago that he doesn't desire me anymore. I apparently am always texting, which I only do to say I love you or something sweet, and he said he just needs a break from me, imagine my heart breaking at this point we have only been married for 4 1/2 months. He also made me watch a film on couples losing desire for intamacy with there spouses and wrapped up this horrible conversation with him being tired of taking care of me, which he doesn't really do. So the next day he calls and apologizes for making me upset, he still feels the same way but just should not of said anything. Then comes home wanting to DTD last night after all this!!! So I feel your pain sweetly I really do.
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  • michelle7482michelle7482 member
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    You are not alone in this battle. My DH told me two days ago that he doesn't desire me anymore. I apparently am always texting, which I only do to say I love you or something sweet, and he said he just needs a break from me, imagine my heart breaking at this point we have only been married for 4 1/2 months. He also made me watch a film on couples losing desire for intamacy with there spouses and wrapped up this horrible conversation with him being tired of taking care of me, which he doesn't really do. So the next day he calls and apologizes for making me upset, he still feels the same way but just should not of said anything. Then comes home wanting to DTD last night after all this!!! So I feel your pain sweetly I really do.

    Oh my god this is awful. You forgave him that easily. I would have said eff you and made him show you rather then tell you he was sorry. And I'm not talking about DTD!!

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  • SKJandBRCSKJandBRC member
    No I have not forgiven him. He tried flowers and sweet talking but my conversation with him has been short and I just stay away when he is home. Trust me nothing has been forgiven or forgotten about this. Just wish things were better. Cried all day yesterday and on and off today every time I think about it.
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  • michelle7482michelle7482 member
    imageSKJandBRC:
    No I have not forgiven him. He tried flowers and sweet talking but my conversation with him has been short and I just stay away when he is home. Trust me nothing has been forgiven or forgotten about this. Just wish things were better. Cried all day yesterday and on and off today every time I think about it.

    Sorry you are going through this. Hope things work out for you.

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