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DaniLovesPink

A friend and I are hosting a shower for a mutual friend in February.  This is her second child, 4 years in age difference and a different gender.  Plus, when her daughter was born, they knew she had a heart defect and thus, several issues right out of the womb, so the shower had a somber tone, we want to be able to give her a care-free shower that she so deserves.  However, it's going to be smaller, maximum of 30 people invited, mostly friends who didn't attend her daughter's shower, etc.

My issue is, my friend and I mentioned to the mom to be that we were planning to do this, and a third friend who was there just jumped right in and started referencing herself as a host.  While I don't want to hurt her feelings (and she tends to take things personally), I don't know that it's necessary to have three hosts on the invitation.  Not to mention, that means there are three people to have to get together and figure out who all RSVPed, who didn't, yada, yada, yada.

WWYD: Let the third friend be involved, including on the invitation to avoid hurt feelings or keep it to being planned by myself and the other friend who originally started planning it?

JordanS803

I would probably let her help since she obviously wants to.  Maybe to keep everything running smoothly you can split up some of the responsibilities and assign a few to each person so that it's not necessarily such a mess to have three sets of hands touching everything.  When I got married I had 6 bridesmaids and I'm pretty sure the only way they managed to throw me a shower without killing each other was to divvy everything up.  For example, one of them is super-organized so she was in charge of receiving RSVPs and tracking expenses.  Another was really artistic so she was in charge of decorations. 

Besides think of it this way - you can split the expenses 3 ways instead of 2! 

Richardsmom_817

I would probably just let her help!  Once everyone RSVP's or doesn't, just assign one person to deal w/ that, ya know?

ShellShockedMama

I would let her help, it seems easier that way and it doesn't seem like that big of a deal. and, to be honest, never once have I ever paid attention to who the hosts are.All I care about is the date and time and the registry information.

And you don't need to get together, just divvy out tasks. Make her pick up the food, or follow up on people who didn't RSVP--stuff you may not want to deal with.