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New Here....a little long

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Hi!  My name is Heather.  I"ve been lurking on the knot and then the nest for over 5 years and this is my first ever post.  I had a mc in Nov at 8w3d, my 2nd pregnancy..I have a wonderful, beautiful 2 1/2 yr old son.   I was ok after the mc, cried a little, but accepted it or so I thought, but recently some sadness about it has begun to creep back.  I always had these ideas of what I wanted in life, actually expected...2 kids who are at the most 3 years apart, both before I'm 35, spring babies, etc....when it didn't work out that way I was actually shocked.  I never once thought that it was possible that I wasn't going to get everything I wanted.  I learned a very difficult lesson after the mc, one that i needed to....life doesn't always work out the way you hoped or planned it.  I normally only share these feelings with those in my close circle, but I find all of you women quite inspiring after reading many of your stories and felt compelled to share mine.

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  • bebebluesbebeblues

    Welcome to the board. I'm very sorry for your loss. I have a 2 1/2 yr old dd, and we thought the same thing--- 2-3 yrs apart, no more than 3 yrs apart......that's not happening.

    I hope you feel you can post here. Lurkers miss out on getting to know a lot of really awesome women. Hope to hear from you more. Again, I'm sorry for your loss.

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  • jennsadye1979jennsadye1979
    Sorry for your loss, but glad to meet you! There are a lot of lovely women here, and they have all helped me through some dark days. Welcome!
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  • SonadoraSonadora member
    I'm very sorry for your loss, but welcome to the board and out of lurkerdom.
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  • Ehoff33Ehoff33
    I am so sorry for your loss...this board really is great...just lurking you get an "idea" of how great these ladies about but if you post more you will see just how great they are! Welcome!
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  • ShemicoShemico member
    Welcome. I'm sorry for your loss. I also have an almost 3 yr old and had the desire to have 2 kids no more btwn 2 and 3 yrs apt. Things unfortunatly didn't work out that way.
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  • HeidiseanHeidisean member
    HI and welcome! I have a 3 1/2 year old. We wanted our kids 2 1/2 years apart and tried for that and got pregnant and had 3 mc's since. So needless to say our kids will be at least 4 years apart or more....Life does not work the way we always wanted it to. However, it does seem to work for my friends the way they want;(     (((((HUGS)))))
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  • ACM1616ACM1616 member
    Welcome to the board.  I am so sorry to hear about your losses.  I'm glad you came out of hiding.  These ladies were my rock after I went through my m/c, and got back into TTC.  I hope you find lots of love and comfort here.  Just remember to post lots!
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  • rjl07rjl07
    I'm so sorry for your loss.
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  • grr_aarghgrr_aargh member

    Welcome.  And I'm sorry for your loss.  And I understand. 

    After a lifetime of being told I could have whatever I wanted if I just worked hard enough for it, this year has been a pisser.  .  .  but these ladies are the best foxhole buddies a girl could ask for in hard times, so you're in a good place. 

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  • butterfly843butterfly843
    Welcome to the board. So sorry for your loss.

    Jenn

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    Missing our twins Zachary and Madison, lost at 19 weeks on 11/13/09, edd 4/9/10

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  • lovethebosoxlovethebosox member
    Welcome. I am very sorry for your loss. I also have a 2 1/2 yo. We started trying for #2 when he was just a year old, and have had 2 m/cs. I am starting to worry he will end up being an only child! (That isn't a very encouraging welcome, is it? Sorry.)
    Mommy to Alden, born May 19, 2007 - best birthday present ever! natural m/c October 20, 2008 at 8w1d BFP April 4, 2009! Missed m/c discovered May 1, 2009 D&C May 12,2009 BFP March 3, 2010 Chemical pregnancy BFP May 25, 2010 Elias Derek born January 26, 2011! Surprise BFP October 24, 2012 Missed m/c confirmed Nov 26 D&C Nov 30 Surprise BFP February 13, 2013
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  • superlupersuperluper
    Welcome! I'm sorry for your loss but I hope you enjoy your time here. 
    oh please. not KU. effed up.
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  • denise_mdenise_m
    I am so sorry for your loss :(
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