Hormone overload!

kayteatrudeau

I'm rather miffed tonight. My husband and I moved from WA a month ago and had no intetion of buying a house right away because we spent every cent we had getting here. Well, he found a house he wants and although I disagree he's moving forward with the bank and purchase. Ugh.

The bank approved him, his father is contributing money, and my husband is cashing in his retirement savings for the deposit.

And I'm angry because I'm seeing all this money go to the house and what happens when the baby arrives? It is very clear between the two of us that I will be off work from 7 months (we move again in April to the town he will be posted for his job - he's currently in training for four months in the city we are living in now).

I think he's nuts! He thinks he's clever.

I'm so mad i have a headache.

Am I missing something here???

nooniesgal

Wow, that is definitely a purchase you should both be on board with. 

MrsAmyB

Ditto nooniesgirl.

I wanted to say though, you should join the Seattle bumpies board.  Its very active and the ladies there are very tight-knit and helpful.  It may really help you adjust with living here.  Are you on the east or westside of the mountains?

rodgersonmumma

Wow. The fact that he would move forward with a purchase like that without your approval speaks volumes. Im not sure what advice to give you, but that is very much not okay.

scottsbride379

This is wrong on so many levels. First and foremost, he's using all your savings to buy a house you don't even want. Second, why would he buy a house now if you're moving in 4 months? You won't get any equity out of it and what if you can't sell it when you move?

The biggest problem by far is that he doesn't care that you don't want to buy a house. You should definitely both be in agreement on something that big. I think you need to talk to him right away about why he's dismissing your feelings on the whole thing.