2nd Trimester

sil wants to host shower - at my house...

Is that weird? She lives about 2 hours away and the family all lives around me. Including MIL, who has offered to have it at her house but SIL isn't her biggest fan and does not want that.

Personally, if it were up to me, I would want SIL to host the shower at my MIL's house, but I don't feel it's up to me to be making requests since she is doing this for me.

Is this weird? What would you do? Does it look like I am throwing my own shower? Can you tell I read the post below?

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Re: sil wants to host shower - at my house...

  • Ick. I would NOT want to have it at my house-- unless you're doing it after the baby is born. Otherwise, I think it's weird, and I wouldn't want to have to worry about the clean up and everything.
    I think I would just tell her that you'd like to do it elsewhere, because you'll have enough to do, you don't want to have to worry about cleaning, people coming early, etc. If she doesn't want to do it at MILs is there a banquet hall, tea room, mtg room, you could offer up instead?
  • Accept it!!!  Think about it!  You don't have to transport gifts!  The invites will say, "Hosted by" and "RSVP to" so no you wont look like you're throwing your own shower! 
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  • If your house is the location that works out to be the most convenient for your guests, it shouldn't matter what anyone else thinks.

  • I think this situation is different.  I'm "hosting" my own shower at my house but I'm not "throwing" the shower - my best friend and my mom are working out the details together.  It's just that my house makes the most sense, logistically.
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  • it is fine to have the shower at your house...your hostesses will send the invites and 'host' the party (keep things going).  it will be obvious that you did not host it yourself. don't worry.
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  • My BFF wants to throw mine at our house and I'm fine with it, she lives in an apt, downtown KC, and she wants to have a planting party and plant flowers for the baby, I am a huge gardener and love this idea!
  • I wouldn't be too thrilled only because I have a tiny house.  If you have a house that is good for entertaining, then I say do it.  Are you worried that yo'll be doing all the work and don't want to?  And as the pp said, the invites will make it clear that you are not hosting your own. 
  • imageQmommy:
    Accept it!!!  Think about it!  You don't have to transport gifts!  The invites will say, "Hosted by" and "RSVP to" so no you wont look like you're throwing your own shower! 

    This.  My BFF lives out of town, so she hosted my shower for DS#1 at our house.  It was nice, because everyone knew where to go, and I didn't have to transport gifts.

  • I think it is fine, as long as you are okay with it.  My friends may be throwing my shower at my house.  We have a big house and plenty of space to host a party.  My girlfriends all live in apartments.  I think it is perfectly fine to provide the space for the party, if someone else is the host. 
  • imageQmommy:
    Accept it!!!  Think about it!  You don't have to transport gifts!  The invites will say, "Hosted by" and "RSVP to" so no you wont look like you're throwing your own shower! 
  • imageQmommy:
    Accept it!!!  Think about it!  You don't have to transport gifts!  The invites will say, "Hosted by" and "RSVP to" so no you wont look like you're throwing your own shower! 
  • imageQmommy:
    Accept it!!!  Think about it!  You don't have to transport gifts!  The invites will say, "Hosted by" and "RSVP to" so no you wont look like you're throwing your own shower! 
  • imageQmommy:
    Accept it!!!  Think about it!  You don't have to transport gifts!  The invites will say, "Hosted by" and "RSVP to" so no you wont look like you're throwing your own shower! 
  • imageQmommy:
    Accept it!!!  Think about it!  You don't have to transport gifts!  The invites will say, "Hosted by" and "RSVP to" so no you wont look like you're throwing your own shower! 
  • imageQmommy:
    Accept it!!!  Think about it!  You don't have to transport gifts!  The invites will say, "Hosted by" and "RSVP to" so no you wont look like you're throwing your own shower! 
  • imageQmommy:
    Accept it!!!  Think about it!  You don't have to transport gifts!  The invites will say, "Hosted by" and "RSVP to" so no you wont look like you're throwing your own shower! 
  • imageQmommy:
    Accept it!!!  Think about it!  You don't have to transport gifts!  The invites will say, "Hosted by" and "RSVP to" so no you wont look like you're throwing your own shower! 
  • imageQmommy:
    Accept it!!!  Think about it!  You don't have to transport gifts!  The invites will say, "Hosted by" and "RSVP to" so no you wont look like you're throwing your own shower! 
  • imageQmommy:
    Accept it!!!  Think about it!  You don't have to transport gifts!  The invites will say, "Hosted by" and "RSVP to" so no you wont look like you're throwing your own shower! 
  • imageQmommy:
    Accept it!!!  Think about it!  You don't have to transport gifts!  The invites will say, "Hosted by" and "RSVP to" so no you wont look like you're throwing your own shower! 
  • imageQmommy:
    Accept it!!!  Think about it!  You don't have to transport gifts!  The invites will say, "Hosted by" and "RSVP to" so no you wont look like you're throwing your own shower! 
  • imageQmommy:
    Accept it!!!  Think about it!  You don't have to transport gifts!  The invites will say, "Hosted by" and "RSVP to" so no you wont look like you're throwing your own shower! 
  • imageQmommy:
    Accept it!!!  Think about it!  You don't have to transport gifts!  The invites will say, "Hosted by" and "RSVP to" so no you wont look like you're throwing your own shower! 
  • imageQmommy:
    Accept it!!!  Think about it!  You don't have to transport gifts!  The invites will say, "Hosted by" and "RSVP to" so no you wont look like you're throwing your own shower! 
  • imageQmommy:
    Accept it!!!  Think about it!  You don't have to transport gifts!  The invites will say, "Hosted by" and "RSVP to" so no you wont look like you're throwing your own shower! 
  • imageQmommy:
    Accept it!!!  Think about it!  You don't have to transport gifts!  The invites will say, "Hosted by" and "RSVP to" so no you wont look like you're throwing your own shower! 
  • imageQmommy:
    Accept it!!!  Think about it!  You don't have to transport gifts!  The invites will say, "Hosted by" and "RSVP to" so no you wont look like you're throwing your own shower! 
  • imageQmommy:
    Accept it!!!  Think about it!  You don't have to transport gifts!  The invites will say, "Hosted by" and "RSVP to" so no you wont look like you're throwing your own shower! 
  • imageQmommy:
    Accept it!!!  Think about it!  You don't have to transport gifts!  The invites will say, "Hosted by" and "RSVP to" so no you wont look like you're throwing your own shower! 
  • imageQmommy:
    Accept it!!!  Think about it!  You don't have to transport gifts!  The invites will say, "Hosted by" and "RSVP to" so no you wont look like you're throwing your own shower! 
  • imageQmommy:
    Accept it!!!  Think about it!  You don't have to transport gifts!  The invites will say, "Hosted by" and "RSVP to" so no you wont look like you're throwing your own shower! 
  • imageQmommy:
    Accept it!!!  Think about it!  You don't have to transport gifts!  The invites will say, "Hosted by" and "RSVP to" so no you wont look like you're throwing your own shower! 
  • imageQmommy:
    Accept it!!!  Think about it!  You don't have to transport gifts!  The invites will say, "Hosted by" and "RSVP to" so no you wont look like you're throwing your own shower! 

    This, all of the recent showers I have been to have been at the Mom to be's house so their is no transporting of gifts, we are planning to have our big shower/BBQ at the house for this reason and so everyone can see the nursery.

  • Okay, you are making me feel much better. The invites will be obvious and the not moving gifts around part is pretty sweet. It will give me a good excuse to clean and they can do all of the cooking! I am just going to go with it and not cause any waves!
  • imageQmommy:
    Accept it!!!  Think about it!  You don't have to transport gifts!  The invites will say, "Hosted by" and "RSVP to" so no you wont look like you're throwing your own shower! 

     

    ditto.  i dont think anyone wouldl think you threw your own shower.

  • I LOVED having my bridal shower at my own house!  Id just ask her to please make sure everything is cleaned up before everyone cuts out and leaves behind a mess =)
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  • That is a really great idea.  The no transporting of gifts and showing off the nursery are huges plusses to that situation!  I wish my house was big enough for this.
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  • Another bonus is that you'll get to show off the nursery. I went to a shower at one of my friends houses (hosted by her friends) and it was nice - plus when she got tired/swollen she could crash on her own couch.
  • My friend and sister are throwing me a shower at my house.  My sister is flying in from out of state and friend doesn't live far but both thought it would be a good idea to have it at our house since we wouldn't have to transport gifts.  I don't see a problem with it.  They are kicking me out of the house while they decorate and I'm not allowed to show up until the shower begins.  
  • I would love it. No transporting the gifts and you can show everyone your nursery. It woudl also make me feel like I'm helping out. I'd just do it.
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