FPs few questions..

lilmufish

First supervised visit is today, how do you tell your kiddos about the visit? How much notice do you give them, I would hate to get them excited about nothing...

I was thinking about writing a short note to mom with a picture included, letting her know the kids were thinking of her and what we've been doing...good idea, yea or nea?

It's so close to Christmas...we won't know if we will have them, do we buy them christmas presents or wait until the last moment?   Part of me doesn't want to celebrate, because they are so overly stimulated at this point new "beds" "clothes" "toys" etc and are having a hard time dealing with that, I can't imagine bringing MORE new stuff into their lives at this point?!

mom2one

I think you *have* to celebrate Christmas...but it doesn't have to be huge. Ask what they want Santa to bring and get them a few things on their lists.

Cissi64

I stupidly reponded to this question under your "Thank You" post.  You can read my novel there!  GL!

lilmufish

It's not that i don't want to "Not" celebrate...but these kids have never had santa visit, and are unfamiliar with the whole concept. Their caseworker asked them if they wanted to go sit on santa's lap with Jennie, and they seemed confused. I showed them pictures, and they said no.   Plus they have been receiving alot of "NEW" stuff lately... I don't want to overwhelm them too much. Does that make sense?

mom2one

I guess if they have never celebrated Christmas you don't have to...but I can't think of anything worse than being a little kid separated from mom/dad AND not celebrating Christmas. Seems like that would go down in history as worst ever...but maybe its just me. I wouldn't judge a kids excitement about Christmas over whether or not they want to visit or sit on Santa.s lap though...my kids won't do that either.

GBCK

can the christmas stockings be small gifts?

I mean, hell, I still get an orange in mine :-P

But, you know, stuff they 'need' rather than overwhelming stuff they want...cute socks?  school supplies?  etc?

come*on*baby

late to the game so I don't know if you ended up doing it ...

i always try doing the pictures and letters thing. our first placement - it was a terrible idea and I only did it twice because she became her bi-polar bitchy self. the next 2 I did and dad LOVED it and always thanked us for anything we gave even with the language barrier. same with our 3 girls, mom likes the pictures, letters and art work that i bring her that they've made.