Thisclose to giving dh an ultimatum

*blondie*

He can't go one night without a drink. If he drinks all his beer then he'll have a glass of wine. It is really getting ridiculous!!

If this keeps on going I'm going to say beer or bunny & I. You can't have both!!

sammiekc

Ugh, that sucks. I hope he makes the right decision and everything works out.

jillianfries

That does't sound healthy. I hope he stops for his family. Good luck.

patrickandkim

I am sorry.  Definitely something needs to be done before it is a problem.  GL.

MrsWanee

aw, i'm sorry. can you have some of his friends or family help you stage an intervention?

lizrenee06

stand your ground, honey!! good luck!

deeanneharris

Have you talked to him about it before? What does he say?

*blondie*

MrsWanee:

aw, i'm sorry. can you have some of his friends or family help you stage an intervention?

No one else sees it the way I do. He doesn't get drunk, it's just drinking every.single.night.  I grew up in a house where my parents had 1 or 2 during an afternoon of watching football and wine with dinner on special evenings. That was all. Dh's family is VERY different. My mil will buy dh a CASE of beer for every night she's here.

penguinem

Have you guys talked about this? Maybe he doesn't even realize how much, it maybe he is having difficulty coping with something in a healthy way. Good luck!

SheriBT

I hope everything works out for you.  Good luck!

ktallman

FI's father is an alcoholic, and his family sounds similar...

Asking MIL to babysit means he runs to get her a bottle of wine. Uh- I'd rather she watch our baby without the wine? Anyways he went through a phase of having a drink every day and I finally had to tell him it was really concerning me...he stopped and now only has a drink socially when we're out...

Hopefully he'll be open minded when you bring up your concerns...

SoonToBeTabor

Im sorry that really stinks. Im curious what he has to say about it. Have you talked about this with him before?

GL

*blondie*

deeanneharris:

Have you talked to him about it before? What does he say?

Yea I've talked to him about it. Numerous times. He generally seems to agree with me and says he'll stop drinking every night but it never lasts more than a few days.

It truly is getting to the point though where I am almost ready to leave him over it. Obviously we have other issues as well

stephelias

I'm going through the same thing with DH... I know exactly how you feel.

Feel free to PM me if you ever need someone to talk to about it. 

*blondie*

stephelias:

I'm going through the same thing with DH... I know exactly how you feel.

Feel free to PM me if you ever need someone to talk to about it. 

Thanks! and {{hugs}} it's a shitty situation to be in.

suscq

FWIW--my grandfather would have a glass or two of sherry every evening (even had a RX from the dr for it)  When he broke his hip and had to go into the hospital, he had horrible withdrawals from it.  The dr in the hospital said that even if you only have ONE glass a day, your body gets used to it and can have withdrawals when you stop.  Just wanted you to be ready that he may have a rough time the first few days. 

 

Mrs Kittle

good luck! like PP said, I hope he realizes his family is WAY more worth a few beers after work.

 

deeanneharris

*blondie*:

deeanneharris:

Have you talked to him about it before? What does he say?

Yea I've talked to him about it. Numerous times. He generally seems to agree with me and says he'll stop drinking every night but it never lasts more than a few days.

It truly is getting to the point though where I am almost ready to leave him over it. Obviously we have other issues as well

I'm sorry! I hope the talk goes well.

Shlei

Wow, that is very frustrating.

Chrysallys

Good luck with that, hun. If it's a real problem it sucks. I've been there and sadly (well, not sadly I have DH now) the ultimatums didn't work.