I thought I'd be overjoyed -- but I'm more worried than happy!

Lapsfam

Is this abnormal? I try to relax and bask in my good fortune of getting pregnant right away - which I am so grateful for - but instead I keep thinking of scenarios - what if the baby is sick? What if I can't go back to work? What if we don't have enough money? What if I get no sleep and get sick myself? What will change in my life? What if I can't cope? Etc. I know it's irrational and I should just be happy, but sometimes I just drive myself into a panic! I think it is because it did happen right away - I assumed I'd have more time to "prepare" - not to say I am not happy that it did happen easily. I know I should be damn grateful. I'm just like, OMG. It's suddenly REAL. A month ago I was swilling wine and spending money on shoes; now I'm monitoring my bank account like crazy and puking!!

Jaimie01

 The first couple of weeks I was really worried something was wrong or  I would have a m/c. This past week I have relaxed a lot more I think with time you will become relaxed and not so worried.

Garnetbaby09

Awww hun!!  Don't worry so much!  I know, easier said than done.  I did the same thing.  My biggest worry was not getting enough sleep.  I'm useless when I'm sleepy.  But it is so true that your mommy instincts just kick in and you KNOW what to do and how to handle things.  You make it work and you're the best person your baby can have doing the job.   

 

ToBeMcInerney

I think it's normal to have those thoughts. I know that both DH and I have. Especially because he is in construction we never know what his work is going to look like but we are strong believers in everything happens for a reason and keep positive and try not to stress because that isn't going to help anything!

Wedding on the Beach 2008

Totally normal.  Me and DH got pregnant right away too...I had only stopped taking my birth control to see what my body was like without it and we just didn't use any other protection.   I had one regular cycle and then *poof* I was pregnant.  We have been very lucky to be having a great pregnant *knocking on wood*.  Just take every day for what it is and you will be fine.  This goes by so much quicker than I ever thought it would.  Good Luck!

willowcormar

I started to read your post then started getting sick with worrie! So I stoped reading. My advice is try to calm down and know that what ever happens is going to happen worrie about it or not. Try to meditate.

Caryssa8

I feel the exact same way!! Anytime I get too excited, I tell myself that something bad could happen and I shouldn't get my hopes up too much! But I know this is crazy and I'm just going to try and enjoy this time!

SimDoh

I'm exactly in the same boat. This happened for us on the second cycle and we are thrilled but I'm terrified of a miscarriage. I can't stop myself from reading about all types of miscarriages and when they typically happen. Last week I convinced myself I had an ectopic preg, now I'm worried about a 6 week miscarriage.

I try and remind myself that worry serves no purpose and what's going to happen will happen and there is nothing I can do about it, but sometimes my mind and internet research is out of control.

Tomkat8403

You will worry about all of these things right up until that baby is placed in your arms. Suddenly nothing will seem like a big deal in comparison to the joy you feel over every little thing he or she will do.

I actually thought I would RESENT having a child because of all the things I couldn't do once she was here. I was actually even worried I might not love her!

But honestly, no one can explain to you how you will feel once he or she is here. It's a feeling that can't be described. Good luck, and everything will be fine!