to my fellow former smokers...

mrgn

(I probably should have saved this for tomorrow and made it a FFFC... but flame if you plz).

Do you ever crave cigarettes worse than ever before? I haven't even been near a cigarette in months, but some days it's just like UGH I WANT. Obviously, I would not allow myself to cave in when it comes to that particular craving. But it definitely is hard not having my former favorite coping mechanism to lean on with all this baby stress! I know it's best for me and LO that I quit, I'm really proud that I did, and I won't go back to smoking after she's born like some women do. But I really LIKED smoking. And I'm sure part of my significant weight gain during this pregnancy was partly the quitting smoking. Boo!

mandaphilly

I just started to smoke again, i'm so pissed about it too.

mrgn

mandaphilly:

I just started to smoke again, i'm so pissed about it too.

I just felt a pang of jealousy, seriously. This is where I should be saying, "bad girl!"  But you know it's bad. You don't need me tellin' ya.

nikalina

Flame me----- I smoked 2 cigs yesterday

ablou

I am right there with you, babe.  The "gotta have it" days are fewer and fewer, but they still happen.  When they do, I just remember how that first cigarette after quitting tastes - blech - and it passes.  

I also promised myself when I started smoking (literally, half of my life ago when I was 15), that I would quit when I had a baby... well, that time is now, and I don't want to go through the hell of quitting again after the baby is born.  

But I am totally there with you... I hope that it will pass... for both of us.  

seniah_05

For some reason this week I've been ACHING for a cigarette.  I don't know why.  I'd been fine up until about Sunday.  I've even got the "quitting headache" I had from back when I quit. 

armourall

While I'm not a smoker, I've been around DH when he's trying to quite... seriously nicotine is harder to quite than heroin.

It's really awsome that your able get through those cravings. Great Job!

Smileygirl75

I fight with it EVERY DAY!!  The worst part is that DH just doesn't get it.  He thinks that it's over and done with.  I tried to talk with him about it a few weeks ago and he looked at me like I was talking about doing cocaine or something after the baby comes. I'm thankful that he's never smoked, and I wouldn't want him to have to go through what I've gone through to quit, but I just wish he would get it...

 

It'sPB&JTime

I quit smoking almost a year ago. I knew I was going to be starting IVF and I knew it was the best thing for me to do if I ever wanted a baby. I quit on New Years Eve and havent looked back since. Yes, in the beginning, it was very hard, (I was not pregnant yet, I was just starting IVF). I really loved having a cig too! But now thats its almost been a year, I am completely ok. I have a lot of family member that smoke or smoked. My mom, Aunt and grandma quit when I found out I was pregnant. My DH and I are just trying to get his chain smoking mom to quit too. Anyways, I really hope I dont pick up smoking again after the baby is born. You just have to be strong and think 'well, ive come this far w/o a cig'. I now find the smell so gross and I dont like to be around people who smoke and I love the money I have saved by not smoking. It is very hard, it is an addiction but you can do it!

skylined21

I quit before we even got married, almost 2 years ago. This week was one of those weeks were I was DYING to have a cigarette. If I was not pregnant I would be smoking right now. I'm not sure why but I just really wanted one, It will pass, I'm sure. Whenever I felt the need this week I would have a halloween candy (I normally don't eat chocolates)

mrgn

It'sPB&JTime:

I quit smoking almost a year ago. I knew I was going to be starting IVF and I knew it was the best thing for me to do if I ever wanted a baby. I quit on New Years Eve and havent looked back since. Yes, in the beginning, it was very hard, (I was not pregnant yet, I was just starting IVF). I really loved having a cig too! But now thats its almost been a year, I am completely ok. I have a lot of family member that smoke or smoked. My mom, Aunt and grandma quit when I found out I was pregnant. My DH and I are just trying to get his chain smoking mom to quit too. Anyways, I really hope I dont pick up smoking again after the baby is born. You just have to be strong and think 'well, ive come this far w/o a cig'. I now find the smell so gross and I dont like to be around people who smoke and I love the money I have saved by not smoking. It is very hard, it is an addiction but you can do it!

I am envious that the smell bothers you so much! It is comforting to me. ):

fisha25

I agree it's super hard. Since i'm on bedrest i i feel like every 3 sec i want one just cause i can. What have i replaced it with? cause they say you never quit a habit but only replace it with another?....candy damn the weight gain. It's something that my Dr has even said thay rather me smoke than to have the stress that somes along with me not trying to smoke. But so far i've been good and they have been very proud.

ELPB

Sometimes I want one... but not all the time- mostly, when I take my dog outside to pee or if I'm around friends who are smoking. I liked it too. I gave it up quickly, and I'm glad I did- no regrets there. But it's kind of weird to me that I don't smoke. Part of me wants to have a ciggy after she comes out, but I feel like I will regret that big-time. Who knows what will happen...

nealbl

First of all congrats on quitting. I quit 3 years ago and I have never really craved one since. I just up and decided one day I wasn't going to anymore it was very weird. My DH quit when I got pregnant and I am so proud of him. he occasionally has a dip, yuck, but I have to pick my battles. Hang in there it will get easier with time.

madeleines_mommy

Good job for being strong and not smoking.  It's sad when women don't put it down for the safety of the baby.

Stick to it and don't start back.  If you have done without for this long... you don't need it.  Think of all of the things you can buy your LO with the money that you spend on cigs... not to mention it's horrible for you and down right disgusting.

 Keep up the good work!!

mrgn

nikalina:

Flame me----- I smoked 2 cigs yesterday

I can't flame you for that. It would be hypocritical. I didn't successfully quit until I was 4ish months pregnant... right around the time I had my second ultrasound... whenever that was.  It was really hard! I have a coworker who is due two weeks after me who is still smoking the same amount as she was before she got pregnant. I can't get upset with her for it because it's her choice (even though I don't agree with her choice, it's her's to make) and I know how hard it is to quit.

mrgn

smileygirl75:

I fight with it EVERY DAY!!  The worst part is that DH just doesn't get it.  He thinks that it's over and done with.  I tried to talk with him about it a few weeks ago and he looked at me like I was talking about doing cocaine or something after the baby comes. I'm thankful that he's never smoked, and I wouldn't want him to have to go through what I've gone through to quit, but I just wish he would get it...

 

I wish BF would quit. I'm not with him, but if he is going to be caring for her, I really want him to quit. I am afraid he would smoke around her... even though he says he won't. He was the one at the beginning who was literally yelling at me in the parking lot of a doctors office about quitting... and here he is still smoking a pack a day! Oy!

Lost4words

I only smoked when I drank, so quitting was really easy on me. I just hope that after LO comes and I do have those occassional drinks that the craving does not sneak back up on me and it become a habit when I drink again. But I fear it is prob going to happen

skmarler

It must be something about this week because I really want one too.  I can't stand the smell of it now, but that hasn't stopped me from wanting one...

mrgn

ablou:

I am right there with you, babe.  The "gotta have it" days are fewer and fewer, but they still happen.  When they do, I just remember how that first cigarette after quitting tastes - blech - and it passes.  

I also promised myself when I started smoking (literally, half of my life ago when I was 15), that I would quit when I had a baby... well, that time is now, and I don't want to go through the hell of quitting again after the baby is born.  

But I am totally there with you... I hope that it will pass... for both of us.  

I actually promised myself that too. I was very vocal about it when people would nag on me about smoking. I got a lot of shiit when I didn't quit immediately after getting my positive pregnancy test. It was completely unplanned, which I'm sure had something to do with the difficulty I had. But I got here! And, really, my mindset is definitely that I've made it this far, I can keep trucking!

lilbit923

I used to smoke and I have those same urges and wants...I can smell the smoke and miss lighting up but I have to resist. If I did give in then I would feel like the years of not smoking would be for nothing.

tlquist

My last cig. was 8/27/07 (the day I got BFP for DD#1) and not a day goes by that I don't want one!! It does get easier, but it still sucks! I crave them even more when I'm stressed or anxious...and with the holidays coming...yeah...I want one in the worst way.  A good friend of mine is going through treatment with her mom for lung cancer. I have seen the heartache that she experiences with every ounce of bad news, sleepless nights and the physical pain her mom is going through. I never want my daughters to have to go through that. So crave..I will. But I will NEVER give in to it....my girls mean too much!

Good Luck!  Twizlers became my new addiction!!!

skylined21

I must add though that at $8 a pack I don't miss it enough to start paying that much to smoke again.

Bonzer

I crave it sometimes, I dream about it more than I crave it though.

Not only because of the absolute horrible things it does to your LO's lungs when you have them, but because of the price, I will never smoke again.

I waited my whole life for my son and DS2, There is no way in HELL I'm going to pick up that habit again

mrgn

fisha25:

I agree it's super hard. Since i'm on bedrest i i feel like every 3 sec i want one just cause i can. What have i replaced it with? cause they say you never quit a habit but only replace it with another?....candy damn the weight gain. It's something that my Dr has even said thay rather me smoke than to have the stress that somes along with me not trying to smoke. But so far i've been good and they have been very proud.

My OB actually told me this too at my first appointment. I was sort of... surprised by it. I mean, it makes sense. Her thing was, if you quit in your first trimester, you significantly lower the risks for your baby than if you continue into 2nd or 3rd. And those who smoke and cut down ARE doing some good, whether people find it okay to say that or not. The less you smoke, the less you expose LO to any of the toxins etc. I kept at it into the very beginning of 2nd tri, but once I was diagnosed with SUA (which can cause low birth weight and increases the risk for stillbirth), I really felt motivated to control what I could when it came to LO. It was the kick in the pants I needed!

I never realized, until this post, that my significant weight gain is probably from smoking. It makes me feel better about my weight, actually. 

mrgn

skylined21:

I must add though that at $8 a pack I don't miss it enough to start paying that much to smoke again.

They're only at $6 a pack here. (Did I just say ONLY $6?) But amen sister!

Mrs.Keith2B

I smoked for a good 9 years before I got pregnant. I had unsuccessfully attempted to quit several times, but I always said I'd really quit when I got pregnant. And you know what? I did. The second I got my BFP I went to my purse, threw away my cigarettes and lighters and I haven't looked back since. It was so much easier then I ever thought it would be. The first week was kind of rough, but every time I thought about lighting a cigarette, I reminded myself how much smoking increases the risk of miscarriage.

 

My DH smokes and I find the smell oddly comforting. He doesn't smoke in the house and never smokes when I'm in the car with him, but sometimes if I'm outside when he's smoking I catch a whiff of his Marlboro and it's heaven. I wish the smell repulsed me, but it doesn't. Even when I was a little girl and my dad smoked around me, it didn't bother me. I liked the smell.

I sometimes worry about starting again once LO arrives. I know I'll want a drag of DH's cigarette now and then and I worry that'll lead to me buying my own pack eventually. I refuse to let LO be around cigarette smoke, so just the idea of having it on my clothes might be enough to keep me from smoking again. I don't mind hurting my own body but I won't do something that can potentionally harm my son.

Celiarh1

Just a success story for people who strugle:

My mom quit 4 times each time she got prgenant and always went back. About 4 years ago she stoped and she didn't have a cigarrette for soo long we were all so proud! Then my little brother went to the army, my other older little brother got arested and I got pregnant (shes happy now but it was before we got married and before I graduated so it was a shock). Thar was all in the same 3 months, and she started smoking again. Me and my youngest brother caught her one day she was very ashamed. Since then she has quit again and has stoped for about 3 months now. Its something that people can battle with all there lives and is a very powerfull addiction! I know if you want no matter how long it takes can quit smoking, even though it may take years!

CRM724

I quit the day I got my BFP. Like a couple of other posts, I too had always promised myself that I would quit the day I found out I was pregnant, or the day that DH and I decided to start trying- whichever came first. Well, LO was a surprise BFP, so my beloved cigarettes had to go that day.

Most days and most of the time I'm okay. Oddly enough, it was so easy in the beginning (I guess because of the nausea and aversion to smells that quickly kicked my azz) and is progressively getting harder now that I'm a lot closer to the end. Hardest times- in my car, with smoking friends, letting the dogs out to potty, after meals- you know, the typical times for a lot of us. I really enjoyed smoking, and I guess that's why I didn't care to quit before pregnancy. Parts of me still want to  just let myself indulge in ONE cigarette, but I have a feeling that ONE would turn into my old addiction once the baby is born. And I don't want to do that to him or to DH, or to my wallet again for that matter.

But daaammmmmmmmmnnnnnnn, I can't help but want a Marlboro Light every now and then! 

jessloveschase08

I quit the moment I got my BFP. And I didn't crave a cig until 3rd tri. I feel really bad about it, but I'm determined not to go back to smoking.

ocho2002

I smoked my last one right before I took the HPT and haven't wanted one since.  I know when I have my first drink its going to be a challenge though.  I still can't picture having a drink without a smoke : (

cdmassey

I quit smoking months before I got pregnant & I was doing great. I'm not sure why, but now I could eat a pack of cigarettes. My FI thinks I'm crazy & he keeps saying that I'll start back after the baby is here, but I'm hoping it's just a weird pregancy craving that will pass.

littlemaybaby

Wow, so far I've been very lucky.  I "quit" prior to TTC, but would still socially smoke on occasion.  However, my serious repulsion to cigarette smoke was one of my first cues I was pregnant - it happened about a week before my BFP.  And ever since, the smell has killed me.  At first I thought it was due to 1st tri sickness - but even now, just being in the vicinity of smoke triggers my gag reflex.  UGH, it's terrible.  I'm hoping this will stick with me after LO gets here - I really don't want to start again!!!!

michak86

I have to say that I am really lucky to not crave cigarettes at this point. I am done with ciggs forever. I will say, however, that once nothing from my body is going directly into the body of my LO, I will again allow myself to smoke some weed now and then.

WILDEJ

I've definitely had that feeling plenty. I quit in February and smoked once in April (I was 2 weeks pregnant but didn't know it) and haven't smoked since. The thing that keeps me going is just think about how much they cost now. Around here it is over $7 a pack.