DH time off work when baby comes (came)

jensneb

How much time did your DH take off when you had your baby, or if you're expecting, how much time does he plan on taking off.  My DH wants to stay home 3 weeks. I think that's a lot but I'm grateful.  Just wondering how this compares.  He's taking 10 days vacation and the rest unpaid using FMLA.

I think honestly he just needs a break, he's a full time student and works a full time and part time job too.

fabbate13

My DH and I were just talking about this.  If/when the time ever comes for us, he'd like to stay home for 2 weeks.

KatelynRae

I DH is a Marine a would be getting 2 weeks off if he weren't going to be deployed

lecooke

As many sick days as has saved up.  Not sure how many though.

YoLinds28

Dh took Friday thru Monday off. But he works for a small company that doesn't qualify for FMLA and doesn't have sick days either. So we simply couldn't afford for him to take off anymore time.

Thusadeedoo

Dh's company gives him 5 days paid paternity leave. He also has 2 weeks vacation each year that he would use if/when we get KU. So 3 weeks total.

leslie13510

Military = 2 weeks. 

I would have liked an extra week because I was still in so much pain, but it is what it is.

sugarfingers

My DH took off a week then worked for two weeks and then took two weeks off.  But I had my baby in mid-November so we wanted him to take off time around Christmas.

The first couple days you'll need him but then anytime in the first month to 6 weeks will be equally helpful, I think.  If he has 2 weeks available to him I would suggest splitting it up so he can be home right away and then in couple weeks so he can see your baby when she's a little older since they change so quickly.

BravoBravo

DH will get 10 days including weekends.

angiegail78

He's taking two weeks off.

DesignsOnYou

He took about a week off.

My mom came over daily for the next week.

Around two weeks, I was feeling better anyway and didn't need someone to always help me.

Honestly, that sounds a bit much but I guess if he wants to take that time, then great. I would just rather save the time-off for holidays, etc.

robinsokj

DH wants to take a couple weeks off, but if I do make it until the end of April, that starts busy season for him so who knows how long he'll actually be able to take.  My mom is retiring in Jan so I'll prob have her around for quite a while, which will be nice.

FiremansWife2009baby

My DH has a different schedule than most (48hrs on, 96hrs off). He was home with me pretty much all through bedrest, I went to my parents when he had go to work. That lasted about a month. Then he was home until Logan was about 2 months old.

Him taking one shift off gives him 10 days off in a row, so sounds like a lot but wasn't that much time actually away from work. I loved it though!

armandos_girl

He was officially off for a week, but he works from home, so he was available if I needed him for something.

idavis

DH took 6 weeks FMLA off. It was wonderful.

mmk3742

I don't know an exact amount, but it wouldn't be much if/when the time comes.  My dh doesn't get paid time off.  So he wouldn't be able to miss much time at all.  Maybe just the time I was in the hospital and the first day home.

Lambie.

I honestly don't see DH taking any time off.  Any time DH takes time and doesn't actually leave town he ends up working.  Even when we go on vacation he still takes calls and such.

Anna&Matt

DH can take upwards of 12 weeks fully paid if he wants to (6 weeks paid paternity leave plus he has over 50 vacation days accrued). But I think he will take 4 when the baby comes, another couple when I go back to work and then sporadic days when the baby is sick.

sweetpea7628

DH took off a week.  My mom came for the same week (which was stupid but whatever).  He wishes he could have taken off more time but he was just not able to.

As far as help, after about the first week or so, you don't really need a lot of help.  Newborns sleep a ton.  More than likely all you will be doing for the first week is sleeping, eating and sleeping some more.  But if he really wants to take off, let him!  My DH ended up playing video games becuase he got bored!  lol

pmarie33

My husband only has to work about 6 days in December.  Between furlow and vacation days, he is going to be home a lot during the first month.

 

charlies-angel

I think my husband will take 2 weeks. I want him to save his other time for holidays, baby sick days, and random days in the summer.

mjs_pmk

For my DH it all depends on which year this baby decides to make his entrance.  DH has 3 vacation days left for this year.  If the baby doesn't come before Christmas DH will have to use the 3 days the following week or lose them.  If the baby comes after New Year's he will probably only use a day or two in case he would need them later in the year.

My DH's employer sucks though, so all of that is dependent on whether or not anyone else already has any of those days off.

Kriszta

My DH was home two weeks, but almost one of those I was in labor (5 days).  With that and the inlaws coming the first week, it wasn't enough for us.  I think 3 weeks is great!  You're lucky and you'll be happy he is there to relieve you to take naps.  You never know... you could have a fussy or colicky baby.  If you don't then you can enjoy the time together!

tri047

He only took a week.

ETA: Christopher was born on a Thursday, so he took that day (obviously) and Friday off PLUS an extra week.

DNK777

I had DD on Saturday and DH had to go back to work on Wednesday.  He has just started a new job and was unable to take off any more time than 2 days.  It was hard and I almost had a breakdown somewhere between 2 and 3 weeks pp.  DH was a big help in the evenings and helped out a lot at night on the weekend, so it wasn't too bad.  I'll admit that most days I waited for DH to come home to take a shower though.  Once I hit 3 weeks I felt a lot better and was able to get out and about more.