Children and Nudity

sweetfrogy

So, I've had a heated debate with a friend of mine (one without children I might add) and I'm pretty irritated.  Apparently it's appalling that sometimes my 4.5 year old DS is around when I take a shower.  Yes, in an ideal world, it would be fabulous if my bathing needs could always coincide with sleeping children, but sometimes that just doesn't happen.  I really think she expects that I just lock him in his room while I'm in the bathroom.  Half the time he's playing/watching tv in my room, or just entertaining my 9 month old DD in her chair outside the shower.  It just really pi$$es me off that she made something sexual out of something so ridiculous.  He's a good kid, but I'm just not comfortable with him being in a different area of the house when I can't really hear anything.  What if someone came to the door and he forgot the rules and opened it?  And really, what preschooler is ok with being alone when his mom and sister are somewhere else in the house.  I'm frustrated that I even felt the need to explain myself, because then it comes off like I'm guilty of something.

ali2005jason

Eh, like you said, she doesn't have kids. My DS was also around at times when he was that age. Now that he is almost 7, I do not allow it. But understandably. Just don't let her get to you. She will probably feel much different when she has kids...

EXL311

Yeah I would be bothered by what she is saying too.  My DS is 4.5 also and still comes in the bathroom with me when I'm using it and sometimes when I shower.  If I let DD come in the bathroom with me but told him he's not allowed he would be very hurt and upset.  I know we're getting closer to the time when he needs to not see me naked but I'm not going to force him into feeling weird if I'm not clothed around him.

JOEBunny

Whatever.  I was made uncomfortable by a 4 year old who was getting dressed in the living room with many people and started to pleasure himself and his parents laughed about it, but I see nothing wrong with a child seeing his own parents nude at 4.5 years.   Maybe at 12...

Snowbride02

Everyone has a different level of comfort about being naked in front of their kids.  The fact that your friend doesn't even have kids means that she has no idea of how she would really feel.  Based on posts I've read on here, some people are comfortable with their kids of the opposite sex seeing them naked until they are in late elementary school and some people want to stop the exposure when the kids are 2.  You should do what you are comfortable with and don't worry about people thinking you're a pervert.  I probably wouldn't talk about stuff like that with your friend anymore though.  Just to avoid hearing her less than informed opinion.