give mehope...

lillyn22

okay yesterday i had a m/c at 7 weeks and 1 day follwoing an ectopic pregnancy six months ago. i am 38 and all the dr could tell me is that this happens and it is mostly due to my age.  i am tryin to keep my head up b/c he says we can try again as soon as i my cycle starts but i do not know how i am going to make it through this again.. any suggestions? i do not want to give up, but these first weeks are torture and i want to know i am doing everything possible to hold a a baby if i am lucky enough to get pregnant again Help!!!  

Lisa10e

I am so sorry for your losses. I know that right now the future looks so dim, I have so been there. Our first loss was an e/p as well. I thought ok well it just got stuck in the tube and we'll be fine next time. Then I had my second loss, and third loss and forth loss. I'm not writing this to scare you, I'm telling you this to give you hope, because somehow here I am. Dont give up!! There were so many days I felt it was never gonna be in the cards for us and I wanted to throw in the towel because I was so scared and didnt think I could handle another loss.

But my longing for a baby still outweighed my fear of another m/c. I did have to take a few months off here and there just to keep myself sane. Do whatever you need to do for you right now. Huge hugs hun, and cant wait to see you over here soon.

 

KateAndMark

I'm so sorry for your losses. I don't have any answers for you but Big Hug!

ketamarie

I am so sorry for your loss. I just want you to know that I had three m/c's then had my beautiful son! It really did make it seem worth it in the end. I am pregnant again a year later and so far no complications. I am 37 years old and will be 38 shortly after I deliver. It is heartbreaking to go through a loss but don't give up. If I had I wouldn't have my son and I couldn't imagine my life without him. Stay strong. Take some time off if you need to. Just know it can happen and you are not alone! My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Peach&Fireworks

I can't fathom going through multiple losses.  Just one was traumatic enough.  I'm so sorry you are dealing with this.  Perhaps you could visit an RE to get some answers and perhaps a little more help with TTC and keeping a healthy pregnancy.  I know that many women here have suffered multiple losses and beat the odds and have gotten pregnant and had/are having healthy babies.  It will happen for you - just don't lose faith!!

jen-dale

I'm sorry you are going through this again. Please know that there is still hope. I am on my 3rd pregnancy and am feeling like I might be on my way to getting my baby. It takes so much strength to go through what we do. Let your body and your spirit heal. Try to take the best care of yourself that you possibly can while you are healing. You will get your baby,. Don't lose hope! (hugs)

mrshutch

I'm so very sorry for your losses. I know this is such a terrible time, and with my last loss, I couldn't imagine how I was going to get through those initial weeks, and I'm one of the fortunate ones who had a healthy child in b/w losses- a second loss was heartbreaking but I knew how lucky I was to have my DD.

There are so many reasons to be hopeful- whether it's continuing to try on your own, with a little intervention, or working with a RE, there are so many options out there these days. Very best wishes to you moving forward.