So if you knew about the crazy shiit your parents did

Impatientgal

did it impact your decisions?

PearlGirl519

Yes and no.

Mistyl

Most definitely. I saw the heart ache that came from consequences to her choices.

Fish4Fun

My parents are prudes.  Super prudes.  It's not even a lie.

me&mymonkey

Not really.  I knew about most of their crazy exploits but I was still a goody goody in high school.  College was another story but I blame that on dh's influence and not what my parent's did.

GASuzuki

Yes. I don't drink hard. I didn't marry the guy who called me thirty times a day. I don't stand for liars and I wouldn't cheat on my spouse.

RaphSandra2005

Fish4Fun:

My parents are prudes.  Super prudes.  It's not even a lie.

This.  Well, mostly my mom.  She put the fear of God in me about anything sexual.  Led to a lot of guilt, or at least soul-searching, when making my own decisions about sex.  Will do same with my kids, probably.  LOL.  I think it made me make more carefully thought out choices.

busygal

Is this about the parents who tried to potty train before 12m?

betsnup

Yes!  My mother was pregnant and married when she was 16 - she had a newborn by April of her junior year of high school.  I never wanted that because my parents divorced young and I saw how hard it was for her to raise 2 kids alone.  As soon as I started having sex, I went to my mom so I could get on birth control.  It was awesome to have that relationship with her that I felt comfortable (well, I was terrified, but still, I knew I had to do it) to go to her.

LOL, she always said she beat her message into my brother and me too well though, because she was beginning to think we'd never have kids.  Silly!

pkate98

My parents were big, fat, liars to me as I was growing up!  I honestly grew up thinking that they saved themselves for marriage.  I learned later that was a joke - oh and they smoked out with my aunt on the back patio after we'd all gone to bed!   And somehow, they kept two affairs secret from us!!!

Sheesh!

I guess I'm glad I didn't know that when I was little.

pkate98

Fish4Fun:

My parents are prudes.  Super prudes.  It's not even a lie.

LOL!  I thought that was my parents until I got old enough and learned differently!

EcoBaby

I think so. I knew about my dad and his druggie days so as long as I didn't do anything as bad as him - I felt like they couldn't really get mad at me. My dad was my mom's first, so that always made me want to wait (longer than my friends anyways - lol).

exhausted_bride

Yes, and I guess it did help me but I think they shared too much too soon. They were pretty much open books. I know I will be open with DS because it's important to me we have a good relationship and that I'm honest with him. It's just hard to think of telling him these things when he's not even 1 right now. But our relationship will evolve, I understand that.

bnljane1988

Also yes and no.  And, some in a good way and some in neither a good nor bad way.

EcoBaby

My parents also had several friends who died from drug over doses, so those stories scared me from doing anything too bad or smoking anything from people I didn't know. I have my own friends who have died from OD'ing, so I will probably share that info with my kids, as well.