Will anyone else deliver with no family around?

ShannonLK

DH and I moved to IN a little over a year ago.  All of our immediate family live in NC and I don't believe any of them will be here for the birth of our baby.  My MIL will come a few weeks after the baby is born.  My dad and his wife haven't said anything about whether they will come or not. 

I guess it will be nice to just experience that will DH but it kind of makes me sad too.

Anyone else in the same boat?

superaunt

Honestly I have no idea what will happen but I suspect that it will be just DH and I during delivery.  Maybe some family may come to the hospital or maybe not. I just know DH will be there. : )  And really, I don't want anyone there.  This will be our first born and I just really want this to be Our moment, if that makes sense.  I don't mind visitors in the hospital after I deliver, but I don't think I really care for people to sit and wait.

amoureux

Our parents live across the country so no one will be here for the birth.

Personally, I am happy about that.  I don't need people hanging in the waiting room!   Plus, I def'n want a few days alone at home right after the birth before having people there.

 

Laura Cochran

My parents live about 600 miles away. They are planning to come up for Christmas and stay several weeks (My EDD Dec 27). If the baby comes before then it will be just DH and I. DH's parents are both dead and while he does have a sister in town, she is not someone I would want around at a time like that (very self-centered, harsh, tactless). I'm fine with it just being me and DH, but will be happier if my mommy is here.

katesmom73

My parents will most likely be here (they live in TX and I'm in IL) but they'll be watching my dd.  I'm a private person and only want my dh with me so it works out.

Edit - I read your post wrong! I thought you meant in the delivery room.  This actually happened to me the first time around - I was induced early and my Mom was on her way.  I was OK with that - my dh even left me alone in the hospital to take care of his son but the nurses were great and I was fine.

amjra

No one except for me & DH.  I'm better that way honestly!  Can't deal with all of the emotional drama otherwise.  : )

RaeAnt

Me, but frankly I don't want people there. I am trying to get my mom to fly in, but she would be staying at the house with the dogs so Dh wouldn't have to drive back and forth and worry about them and then to help with the baby for a couple of weeks. Plus, even if we still were in our hometown, there is no way anyone would be allowed in with me other than DH. I've always been adamant about that.

Julie1972

Yes-my family does not live here but I have to say I did not invite anyone to the hospital with my first and won't again with my second.  I love having friends and family around but for me, this was not the time.  My mom will come the night before I leave the hospital (I am having another c section) to help when I get home......

I enjoyed the time at the hospital for me, my DH and baby....Don't be sad, enjoy the time for your family and pick up the phone if you want to talk to someone!!...

Best of luck!

shelby9201

My family is in NY and plan to come to KY about a week or two after her arrival.  My IL's are in SC and will be driving up sometime during that time frame as well.  DH and I are okay with settling into a routine at home for a few days and not having well intended family hovering around at first.

BrideBuddies

Just me and Hubby will be there, and that's the way I'd want it.  Anyone else would probably annoy me to death, but I'm also a very private person. 

My mom isn't exactly the nurturing, maternal type anyway.  She's probably complain that she can't go to the mall and has to sit with me in the hospital!   (eyeroll!)   She went with me to one doc appt and my BP spiked with her just being in the room.

Peppernut

My husband's family lives in France, my family lives in the States, and we're in Montreal.  My mom will come shortly after the birth, and his sister will come maybe in January, but besides that no one will be able to make it.

So yeah, I am with you!

lgndangel

I think it will be only MH and for delivery and possibly have my family and his to visit after the baby is born.  Our family lives more than an hour away and I really do not want to have them staying at the house especially if I am not there.

UTKD

I prefer to have only DH with me in the delivery, and possibly my mom, that's all.  I definitely do not want DH's family around; not sure I even want them at the hospital.....  DH is from a large family (and they all live in the same town or within a couple of hours), and they have kind of a "pack" mentality -- they will crowd and annoy me -- I am more of a private person and really like my privacy.  I would rather spend time with DH and my mom at the hospital, make the transition home, and then see other family a few days later after we get settled in.  But, I doubt it will actually happen the way I want.  I am certain that DH's family will there all the way, crowding me, telling me what to do and think, etc.  Argh. 

Sunsh1ne

Yes, by choice. 

I don't want a circus at the hospital   Just me and dh is fine.  Local friends can stop by.  Out of town family will have to wait 6 weeks.  I need time to get my feet on the ground.

kate&patrick

My mom lives about a mile from me, but will not be present for my delivery.  She works in the hospital where I will deliver, so she will probably check on us once or twice, but I love this time with my baby, my husband and a little rest before we go home.