Naming baby girl after husband?

maple669

I'm 19 weeks now and we just found out we are having a girl! So I am really liking the name Nicolette...my husband's name is Nicholas...so i think it would be really fun to name our daughter with a feminine form of his name! I could call them Big Nicky and little Nikki and i'll be able to yell at two people at the exact same time ;-) haha

I also think it'll help him bond and connect with his daughter better...considering how much he "wanted a boy"...as i'm sure everybody knows what i am talking about!

I told him about my name idea the other night...he thought about it for a day and said we should name her Nicolette Samantha (my name is Samantha)...he said this way we could get both of our names in there!!

So her name would be Nicolette Samantha Squarish ....and i am just wondering how that sounds...I was afraid the name might be a bit too long...i would have preferred a shorter middle name but my husband's suggestion was so sweet and thoughtful....i just don't know!!?

EastCoastBride

maple669:

I also think it'll help him bond and connect with his daughter better...considering how much he "wanted a boy"...as i'm sure everybody knows what i am talking about!

Really?  Your DD needs to be named after him in order for him to bond w/ her? 

 

stargirl11

I'm not crazy about the name combo - doesn't flow very well IMO.

If you're planning to have more children, I would "save" Samantha for the next baby - Samantha as mn for girl or Sam/Samuel for a boy. That way you aren't giving everything to the first baby.

maple669

It's my idea not his (about the bonding thing)....and I figure it can't hurt!

ValentineBB

It has an awful lot of syllables, but it is a nice name.  I will say though, a lot of my friends who were named after their parents kind of wish they had their "own" name.  Just food for thought.

SueandSteve

I like it a lot and the meaning/story behind it.  Do what you feel is right.  Our DD has my first name as her middle name much the same reasoning that you state...plus, I actually LIKE my name.  To each his own, right?

FutureMrs.Steen

I'm not a fan of Nicolette, but Nicole would be nice and it would still honor him. I think Samantha is beautiful and definitely would keep that as the middle name.

K2thaT

I like Nicolette, but i think it is a little silly to use BOTH of yalls names.

My DH?s name is actually a girl?s name in Spanish, but i don?t like it. 

Salome. 

streamtrax41

I think it's a great idea to name her after your husband, if this is what you both want. Nicole, Nicolette, or any other variation you can come up with. I agree with PP that it might be a good idea to "save" Samantha for your next child, if you're going to have another one (or two or three).

My DH happens to think that naming your child (first name only) after you is weird. I've never heard anyone else say that before. LOL  Just goes to show you that everyone has their own opinion. Do what's right for you and your DH.

Chaotickiss

Chances are she'll never be called by her entire full name so I say go for it if you like it.

 

 

wheelenl

1) I think it's silly for your DH to say that he can't bond with the baby without it having a name close to his.

2) I think Nicolette is cute, BUT you can never then have a little boy named Nicholas, Jr. That would just be way too much. I'm not saying you need to, but based on what you've said about your DH I'd at least consider that fact. 

3) Calling the little girl "Little Nicky" would IMHO the reason NOT to use the name, not a reason to use it. 

 

OctoberCAPA

wheelenl:

1) I think it's silly for your DH to say that he can't bond with the baby without it having a name close to his.

2) I think Nicolette is cute, BUT you can never then have a little boy named Nicholas, Jr. That would just be way too much. I'm not saying you need to, but based on what you've said about your DH I'd at least consider that fact. 

3) Calling the little girl "Little Nicky" would IMHO the reason NOT to use the name, not a reason to use it. 

This exactly.  Although I'd amend 1. to say that it's sad that you think your DH won't bond with his daughter unless she has a similar name.  The second point is important.  And the third puts it over the edge.  I like Samantha.  Why not do Samantha Nicole/Nicolette--then you can keep Nicholas Jr. if you have a son and you still get to enforce that your DH should bond with his own child?

cassiedianne

It doesn't flow for me...too may S sounds.  I agree with the pp that if you want both names to be used, maybe you should save your name for the 2nd baby

magsugar13

 also think it'll help him bond and connect with his daughter better...considering how much he "wanted a boy"...as i'm sure everybody knows what i am talking about!

You lost me at this!

amoureux

Nicole is much prettier than Nicolette. 

Nicolette is much to close to nicorette gum. 

kennedis_mommy

I too am having a girl and thought the same thing...

my husbands name is kenneth so we are going to name the baby Kennedi. I really like the name that you have picked it flows well... and getting both names in there is a super cute idea...Our full name would be Kennedi Jordyn August...because daddys middle name starts with a "J"... i too feel that it will help my husband bond better with the baby since he too wanted a boy.

Congrats on ur new baby

 

 

AggieDee

I think it is a nice idea.  DS and DH share a middle name (Maurice) which I have often called DH by that name.  DD will have a form of that same name (Reese).  DH teases me that I chose DD's name so that I can yell one name and all 3 heads turn

OctoberCAPA

kennedis_mommy:

I too am having a girl and thought the same thing...

my husbands name is kenneth so we are going to name the baby Kennedi. I really like the name that you have picked it flows well... and getting both names in there is a super cute idea...Our full name would be Kennedi Jordyn August...because daddys middle name starts with a "J"... i too feel that it will help my husband bond better with the baby since he too wanted a boy.

Congrats on ur new baby

Nicely done.  Mean, but nicely done.

ubermoose

I don't see how naming a kid after someone will "help them bond better," unless there are some ego problems present. I mean, if people want to honor people with a namesake, cool, but I don't think it will help foster a closer relationship.

I think if you later told your daughter everything you posted here, she might (or might not) feel a little unsettled about her name. I probably would, to be honest. Yes, honoring people in some way is fine, but kids do need to go into the world with an identity of their own. They also need to feel that their parents are perfectly content with the little boy or girl the are becoming. I don't think naming a daughter after her father to make him feel better about having a girl accomplishes that, good as your intentions may be.

I agree that naming a kid after both parents is not reccommended, for many of the reasons other bumpies mentioned.

And yes, I know what you are talking about, but not every dad-to-be has his heart set on a little boy. Not that it's wrong to have a slight gender preference, but ultimately, people should unequivocally cherish the baby, whoever it is.

broomy

Any father who suspects he won't be able to bond with his child unless they a) have a penis, and/or b) take his first name, probably doesn't even deserve to have the kid named after him.

 Why don't you give your daughter her OWN name and use Nicole as a middle name? (I agree: Nicolette sounds too much like Nicorette... and the nn "Little Nikki" is atrocious). I think some version of Sam would be cuter for your future son's middle name, too.

maple669

kennedis_mommy:

I too am having a girl and thought the same thing...

my husbands name is kenneth so we are going to name the baby Kennedi. I really like the name that you have picked it flows well... and getting both names in there is a super cute idea...Our full name would be Kennedi Jordyn August...because daddys middle name starts with a "J"... i too feel that it will help my husband bond better with the baby since he too wanted a boy.

Congrats on ur new baby

 

Nicely done.  Mean, but nicely done.

 

***How is that mean?? 

maple669

Just to clarify....my husband in NO WAY ever mentioned or considered we should name our daughter after him... it was just something i thought of...Its not that i think he won't be able to bond with our daughter without naming her after him....I just think it can't hurt at all and would be a nice father-daughter connection

I realize not all men want a son....but come on...most do...just like most women seem to prefer a daughter...if even if only by a tiny ittybitty bit!

I wouldn't want to name our son after Nicholas (no jr.)....nor our daughter after myself (samantha)...that's why i think it would be cute to name our daughter after a female version of nicholas and our son (if we have one) after a male version of samantha...like samuel or even salvatore (and nickname=sam)...big sam little sam...big nick little nick

I did think about the nicorette-nicolette connection...but i just think nicolette has such a more sexy feminine power to it than nicole....

sleepingbeauty825

Honestly? I like Nicolette and I like the idea of naming a future son Sam or something, even if it is a little cutesy. I think Nicolette Samantha is a little much.

CarBuck

broomhead78:

Any father who suspects he won't be able to bond with his child unless they a) have a penis, and/or b) take his first name, probably doesn't even deserve to have the kid named after him.

 

ITA.