WWYD if you got an unwanted BFP?

KimboRambo

I am slightly freaking out, thinking I might be pregnant...haven't POAS yet, but I just have a feeling. It may be nothing, but if it is we are NOT ready for another baby yet. We are going to wait at least another year before we try, and now is just terrible timing - my husband's job contract ends next week, and he doesn't yet have a new one, my job is not 100% stable at the moment, and as it is we barely get by. I don't know what I would do having to add another mouth to feed into the mix, not to mention more childcare etc.

I know nothing's certain until it is, but I am freaking out at what I would do and what kind of choices I would have to make. WWYD if it were you?

KMLP

I would accept it.

Amrice78

I'd probably freak out for awhile and then accept it and start planning for a new baby.

KKM

Abortion is not an option for me, but I understand that it is for others and I totally respect that.

LaLaSweets

Dh and I aren't ready for another child yet so I'm back on the pill. Dh wouldnt even touch me lol until I got back on the pill just in case. But i guess lots of times there is never a right time and people just make it work. POAS and rule it out just in case your not worrying for nothing

Erika6504

Deal with it.  Yes, it might not be perfect timing, but it's rare that everything is perfect.

I'd probably have many, many anxiety attacks over it though!

KKM

Also, why dont you test so you know if you need to freak out or not?

KimboRambo

KKM:

Also, why dont you test so you know if you need to freak out or not?

KimboRambo

KKM:

Also, why dont you test so you know if you need to freak out or not?

TMs1stBaby

I think it is hard for anyone to say what they would do in a hypothetical situation.  I know the first thing I would do would be to weigh all my options.  By that I mean, pros and cons of all different alternatives.  Create all different financial scenarios.  And then based on all that I'd sit down with DH and decide what to do.

Nicole731

Hope for the best and buckle up for the ride (which is what we are doing now). In my experience, things happen for a reason, and things work out and God provides (don't mean to offend anyone, but that is my belief). So I took what was given to me and we are going with the flow.

KatieTheMagnificent

Our unplanned BFP resulted in C.  If we hadn't WANTED a child in the near future, we would have terminated the pregnancy.  Probably not the most popular opinion, but ... You do what's right for you and your family. 

Janimal

I think it doesn't matter what anyone else would do.  Only YOU know what is best for you and your family.

But since you asked?  I would start my own religion because G-d had to perform a freaking miracle to get me pregnant without a team of professionals.  That baby would have to be the messiah.

lhuttlinger

cry. then go shopping.

KimboRambo

KKM:

Also, why dont you test so you know if you need to freak out or not?

i know i should! somehow i think if i test, i will be preganant - as if testing or not would change the results! i'm too chicken shiit at the moment!!!

and to the pp, i am also on the pill so this wouldnt be like we weren't being careful. oy!

GabbysMama

Like PP said, I would probably freak a little and then start preparing for the baby.  For me that would be the ONLY option. 

mlf625

I'd panic in your situation as well, but then I'd accept the gift and start planning. ?My parents were young and unprepared and did a fantastic job raising their 3 children, and became very successful professionally while doing so. ?Anything is possible, it just might be very hard and require more sacrifice than you'd like.

JMO. ?My beliefs don't really offer any other solution.?

lanie26

I'd start searching out a family who wanted it.

Toni1019

I have been there twice and just accepted it. In my eyes, once it was done there was nothing I could do about it, but to carry on and raise another baby. I actually cried for 2 days when I got pregnant with DD and now I feel so guilty over it. Things always have a way of working itself out.

NewlywednOhio

I would have the baby regardless. To me-- everything happens for a reason, and I would feel it was meant to be.

Are you on any kind of BC right now?

iris427

Amrice78:

I'd probably freak out for awhile and then accept it and start planning for a new baby.

Ditto.

JLSBWG

If you are on the pill, did you miss a day or two?  I would just POAS.  If you are pregnant, you will find a way to make it work.  Many people do.

tmp-263192375005966

I would get over it...I mean were you preventing it?

 

 

CrazeyJaneyR

I don't think I'd ever feel like a BFP was unwanted.?

missfire

I saw a stat once that around 60% of pregnancies are unplanned -- so you would be in good company! I would POAS first, and if it was a BFP, I would spend some serious time soul-searching about whether the baby was just "unplanned" or truly "unwanted". There's always a logical choice and things to think about, but I'd follow my heart on this one, and work on the logistics later.

o2bme

I would be ok with it.  I would be shocked but it was just meant to be if I did.

mamamoos

there would definitely be some panic and plenty of tears, but in the end we would accept it and start finding ways to make it work -- it would take tons of sacrifice to make it work financially right now. but with 2 surprise babies already, i'm well aware of the fact that it is a blessing is disguise and although it may be tough, in the end it'll all be worth it. 

citygirl_

CrazeyJaneyR:

I don't think I'd ever feel like a BFP was unwanted.

Same with me... I feel like God would only give us what we can handle.  Also, I wouldn't mind having 4 or so kids, so maybe that plays a part in my decision! 

papagena

I'm pro choice, but I would have the baby, personally.  You need to do what is right for you, though.

KimboRambo

amy05:

I would get over it...I mean were you preventing it?

 

 

yes...

KimboRambo

missfire:

 I would spend some serious time soul-searching about whether the baby was just "unplanned" or truly "unwanted".

i like this - will definitely keep this in mind.

kgail11

I don't think what any of us think (regarding this particularly controversial topic) matters... only what you feel is right for your family.  GL!

ManciniMom

Good luck with your results

It would be a no brainer for me

1. Shock

2. Get over it and be happy

3. Deal with it and know everything will work itself out

Ciconrad

Probably freak out for a little while, then get excited.  I am 100% pro-choice, but I don't think I could ever personally have an abortion. 

My parents found out they were expecting my brother when I was just over a year old.  My dad had sort of a dead end job, my mom was working full time and the "bread winner", they were renting a 2-bedroom apartment and were just scraping by.  My parents pretty much flipped out at first.  They ended up getting used to the idea and used it for the catalyst to make themselves a better life.  My Dad went back to college (he stayed at home with us during the day and went to night school until I was 4) and got a graduate degree in a lucrative field.  They found a bigger apartment and then saved and saved for a few years to buy a house.  Looking back my parents really feel like my brother being conceived was what they needed to take the next steps in their lives.

MsLindseyLou

well thank goodness a pregnancy is 9 months, so you have time to plan it out...I'd probably freak out but then be happy. that's what happened w/ DD. we made it work. we didn't have help, we just did it, it sucked, but we made it through.

MegGary

I'd be really happy than I'd freak out about it. I'd end up excepting it though. No way I'd be able to terminate a pregnancy DH & I created. No Way!

 

Also think of it this way. You've probably got some stuff left over from the 1st one. So you won't have to buy that much stuff & thats a bonus.

murphyec

After seeing my son and knowing what a joy he is, I could never "terminate" a pregnancy. 

boo-bitz

If I were to find out I was pregnant right now I would proabably cry first. Then I would be excited. Then me and DH would sit down and figure out what we needed to do to give bothe this child and Madi a good life

IckyThump

Personally? I would freak out, cry, freak out again and then get ready for the baby. But, like others have said, what we would do has no bearing on what you want/need to do.

POAS, get your answer, and if need be, discuss options with your DH after things calm down. It's no use getting upset about a situation that may not even exist.

ManciniMom

murphyec:

After seeing my son and knowing what a joy he is, I could never "terminate" a pregnancy. 

 

exactly

*KatieH*

For me a bfp would never be unwanted. 

But in your case you have options. You don't know if you need the options though until you take a friggen test so go poas already!