would you be upset with DH?

sarahjared

We combined our cell phone plans to one of the family plans where we share minutes.  We are going to have to watch our minutes so we don't go over but we chose our plan to save money.  DH was looking up the minutes we had used so far online the other night.  I asked him how he was able to look up the info (thinking where on the website to find it).  He told me that he would have to change the password.  Um, change the password?  Why can't you just tell me what it is now?  Personally, I don't see a big deal with spouses knowing each others' passwords.  I don't have anything to hide.  With DH saying that, I think he is hiding something.  I said that to him last night and he just got a pissed look on his face and didn't say anything (typical).  I didn't sleep well and am even more pissed off this morning.  Am I overreacting?

Oh, and as a side note, I can't change the password.  DH is listed as primary on the account so we can get his work discount.

Zenya

Does he have a history of lying/hiding things?

It would piss me off but some people are just weird about things like that.  So it would depend on your history whether I'd be very upset.

Jamaica_Bride

I would have just said to him that it is a mutual account. Period. You have every right to have access to it as he does.

 

Does he have a history of lying or hiding things from you? If the answer to that is yes, I would be upset. If this is the first time, no.

bebemama

I think if he had something to hide (like an additional cell phone) that you would see on this site there would be a whole lot of other red flags. ?I would wonder why he was being private and I would probably insist that we go onto the site together. Do you see the bill?

sarahjared

He is going to give me the password so that I can see the site.  I'm the one that writes the bills.  What pissed me off is that he felt like he needed to change the password first.  Like maybe it is a password he uses for multiple things.

wildflower865

Or the password is something like jessicaalbagetsmehard and he was embarrassed.

Jamaica_Bride

wildflower865:

Or the password is something like jessicaalbagetsmehard and he was embarrassed.

 

d.e.a.d

Oh and WildFlower- you owe me a new laptop as I just sip coffee *all* over mine...

sooosie

wildflower865:

Or the password is something like jessicaalbagetsmehard and he was embarrassed.

LOL

kylara111

I would have a real problem with that.

Zenya

wildflower865:

Or the password is something like jessicaalbagetsmehard and he was embarrassed.

lmao!  It actually might be something like that though!  I hadn't thought of that.

4Speedy

So he has is not trying to hide any info about the cell phones, calls he's made, etc.  He just simply does not want you to know what the password is.  It could be anything.  Maybe the password is ILoveMyMommy or something equally as dumb that he would be embarrassed by.  Or maybe he uses the password for other things that he wants to keep it private.  I wouldn't neccesarily want my DH to be able to log on and see the Nest.  Not that I have EVER written anything I would want to hide from him, it's just this is my private space.  (And quite frankly, he would laugh his ass off if he saw some of the stuff that goes on around here, like the drama)  I know ny DH chats on boards about cars and stuff and I don't really thinks he wants me to see the posts where he brags about all the dangerous stunts he's ever tried on the racetrack.  It's not anything bad--it's just his private space to be a guy.

It could be something very innocent--if he's never given you reason to doubt him, I would give him the benefit of the doubt.

amanda&rob

Yes I'd be pissed.  DH and I have and use each other's passwords all the time. Hell, my bff even knows my password and I have her get stuff out of my email sometimes.  I have nothing to hide-would make me question my dh if I couldn't have a password. 

DandelionMom

I'd be a little annoyed but mostly because DH and I share passwords.? ?

sweetie1528

I can't stand sharing my passwords.  I just can't.  but I don't do anything behind his back.  he trusts me and the password thing is a non-issue.  I would get all huffy too if he was asking me for it over and over.  unless you have other reasons not to trust him, I would let it go.