Anyone else feel "greedy" when registering?

pharmernicole

I feel strange about it..hard to explain.. just sometimes when I look at my registry I feel weird, like WE should be buying all of these things rather than friends/relatives/etc.. afterall, we're the ones who decided to have a baby ..we're slotted for three (small) showers, what do you think is a good number of "items" on the registry to give people enough to pick from but not appear 'greedy' ?

TIA ...

Worcbride

I don't think you need to worry about appearing greedy.  Register for what you need (BRU will tell you to register for 1 small item and 1 medium per person);  remember you'll also get a completion coupon from wherever you register so you can finish the registry yourselves.  I think you'll be surprised, tho, at all the things you'll get (I was when pg w/DD).  Esp since you're having 3 showers.

ArmyWife123

i feel greedy too!!!!  ive just barely started one and even just thinking about it makes me feel bad!

everyone i talk to has said to not worry about it- thats what the registry is for so to make sure to have enough items in all different price ranges so that people can get something that you really want.... even if you dont get it all it makes life easier on the people shopping for you...

anhella

meh, no one has to buy me anything, I don't expect anything, so I don't feel greedy at all.

I put everything I wanted/needed on my registery so I can use the completion coupon later.

Also the lady at BRU told me to register for a wide variety of stuff, including the large stuff, because people tend to be annoyed when there is not a variety of things to chose from. 

lolo317

It wont look greedy really your giving people a lot to choose from that way if they can spend what they want and get you what you need. People are going to buy stuff anyway this gives them a guide to what you want. 

nickicl

I don't know the answer as to the magic # of items but I want to say that I often feel the same way.  I guess this is compeltely normal for those of us who are responsible and independant. 

Adding a bunch of items doesn't mean you are expecting to get everything on it or even 50% of it.  It does have a benefit in that you give people who want to purchase a gift tons of options and you may recieve discounts on the items you registered for to purchase for yourself later and helps you to keep track of the items you were interested in.

TwoBumbleBees

OH YES!  AND I FEEL SO GUILTY TOO, LIKE I AM BEGGING!  But

TwoBumbleBees

OH YES!  AND I FEEL SO GUILTY TOO, LIKE I AM BEGGING!  But that

TwoBumbleBees

OH YES!  AND I FEEL SO GUILTY TOO, LIKE I AM BEGGING!  But that is

TwoBumbleBees

OH YES!  AND I FEEL SO GUILTY TOO, LIKE I AM BEGGING!  But that is what

TwoBumbleBees

OH YES!  AND I FEEL SO GUILTY TOO, LIKE I AM BEGGING!  But that is what my

TwoBumbleBees

OH YES!  AND I FEEL SO GUILTY TOO, LIKE I AM BEGGING!  But that is what my friends

TwoBumbleBees

OH YES!  AND I FEEL SO GUILTY TOO, LIKE I AM BEGGING!  But that is what my friends asked

TwoBumbleBees

 

TwoBumbleBees

OH YES!  AND I FEEL SO GUILTY TOO, LIKE I AM BEGGING!  But that is what my friends asked for several

TwoBumbleBees

OH YES!  AND I FEEL SO GUILTY TOO, LIKE I AM BEGGING!  But that is what my friends asked for several times, so

pharmernicole

thanks for the input.. I just hope my friends/family view it as "alot of choices" rather that "whoa.. what a greedy chick".....

TwoBumbleBees

oops, I don't know what happened! ...  But time flies, so don't feel guilty, just kick back and enjoy!

Baby428

Yes, definitely feel the same way as you - o'well

rnfromtn

I think your friends and family would rather have insight into what would be helpful to you.  I appreciate registries because it gives the gift giver a foot up instead of worrying that five other people are going to buy the same diaper genie.  Don't feel greedy at all! 

octwed07

If you feel guilty, then don't register.

Just keep in mind since you're having multiple showers that many people will ask where are you registered at, since it's just so helpful to know what you want if someone wanted to buy you a gift.  I love giving gifts to friends/family, and it definitely eases the stress for me soi can do a quick shop to the store, or sometimes i choose to buy something that's not on the registry.

 If it really is bothering you, then don't register!  I i don't look at it like i'm being greedy, which is why i don't mind doing so.

fiftysixty

My MIL mentioned throwing me a shower since I am still new to Canada and don't know very many people yet. I thought it was so sweet! She tries her best, bless her heart.

 But part of me wants to ask her if she's planning on having it before the baby (which I would prefer) or after, or if I could possibly give her number to  a good friend I've made up here who has expressed interest in participating (she doesn't have the $$ to throw one herself, which is why I think she wants to help and not just throw it herself.)

I try to get DH to ask about it, but he feels the same as me, like somehow asking is greedy, too. But it's not! I wouldn't be upset or hurt if she didn't throw it, I'd just like to know.