I don't remember exactly when, but I know sometime during DD1's first year of life we developed into a nice schedule with a morning nap, afternoon nap, BFing 6-7x per day at times that were predictable. Now with DD2 I'm having the hardest time. She's actually an easier baby than DD1, but I have DD1's life to deal with too and, as a result, DD2 is in no real routine.
She takes a morning nap only if we're out and about and she falls asleep in the car. Otherwise she falls asleep BFing sometime in the morning and then when I put her down to tend to DD1, she wakes up and that's the end of that nap. After DD1 has lunch and I get her down for her afternoon nap I BF DD2 and she falls asleep again, but only stays asleep is I hold her until she wakes up. I usually try to do that just so she gets some daytime sleep, but I'm quickly losing patience with that because I never have any downtime and I can't get anything done. By the time DD2 is sound asleep for the night it's usually 9 or 10 and I can put her down and she stays asleep. That's when I can finally do chores, have any personal time, shower, etc. As a result, I end up being awake until 1 or 2am and then the whole thing starts over a few hours later. I'm beyond exhausted. She's in no routine and not getting enough naps so she's cranky. I'm at a loss for how to get her into some sort of routine when DD1 occasionally has playdates or (soon) preschool, we have errands to run, etc.
What did you do for your second or subsequent children? I'm desperate!