Moms of 2- starting to get nervous

thatgirlang

I keep asking myself if I am ready to have two kids! It's a little too late for this. LOL. But I thought I was one and done before I got pregnant. I've never really pictured myself with more kids. Even as a stepmom, it doesn't feel the same since SD is not with us full time.

So, as I get close to my due date, I am starting to panic a little.

I am thankful/relieved that DS is as independent as he is- able to dress and undress himself (for the most part), potty trained, etc. So that makes it easier. But... I still feel so overwhelmed.

Please- words of encouragement or advice? Especially if your kids are roughly three years apart. Thanks!

cnybride2be

your older son dresses, undresses and is potty trained?   you have an edge i say!  here is inspiration that it will all be ok:  at Matt's 4 year old check up the doctor asked him who his friends were and Matt stated: Seanie is my friend.  making it so worth the trials of parenting two.  they are 20 month a part.  if i did it over, i'd say three years a part is great.

monchichi

My kids are just shy of 14 months apart and I was terrified. BUT--it was way easier than I thought it's be.  Honestly.  I tried to keep my expectations a little lower than normal (i.e. it's ok if I don't get the beds made and the house vacuumed today), and that kept me sane. I think 3 years will be a great difference because your DS should be able to help, feel involved, and maybe even help keep the baby entertained so that you can get some things done

WhiteOrchid.

I wrote this exact same post last year right before DD2 was born. I was a total mess! I wondered if I could handle two and if I was doing the right thing by giving DD1 a sibling since she was pretty spoiled. You will be just fine! Everyone told me that, but I didn't really believe it. All the worry will melt away as soon as you meet that sweet baby for the first time.

My DDs are almost 3 years apart. I saved myself by planning a pretty strict schedule. We stuck to it for the first three months. I had very specific lunch, nap and dinner times. I highly recommend this if you don't already do it. 

isabella22

OMG, whatever you do - don't read the poem about 2 kids below, I can't stop crying...

Brideofranken

it has been better and more fun so far than I EVER would have imagined.

easier too- not that its "easy" but it is SO not as hard as I had imagined.

I love it. You will love it. the first couple of weeks go quickly, and then you don't remember what it was like before #2 got here.

you pretty much get to start all over with a new baby- but not so much of the CRAZY adjustment or irrational anxiety of #1!!

Good luck!! (you won't need it!)

thatgirlang

isabella22:

OMG, whatever you do - don't read the poem about 2 kids below, I can't stop crying...

I read it against your advice. Holy crap. My heart.

niecy

I won't lie,the first month or two are HARD. And I too have a very independent almost 4 year old. The fact that he can play by himself helped me so much. I don't know how people do it who have other kids that are under 3 etc. I kept DS in preschool while I was on maternity leave and am glad I did. He loves his baby sister and I was worried he wouldn't.

You'll get a routine and it will be fine. Warn DH ahead of time that he needs to pitch in 110%.  DH pretty much handles DS at night while I handle DD. Teamwork is key.