Feeling that connection

cpabride

I was wondering how connected you all feel to your babies.  I honestly am having trouble feeling very connected.  I've seen the baby on ultrasound and think that I feel her moving but its still hard to feel like its real.  I feel like I am far enough along that I should feel more connected to this being growing inside me.  Is there something wrong with me?  Any suggestions? Thoughts?

uofibabe

I'm getting closer I think but I'm to the point where I'll believe it when I see it....or should say after he's born.  It helped knowing that it was a boy instead of just "baby" and then of course the ultrasound but it's still unreal to me. 

elliotandnicole

How far along are you?  I remember reading in WTEWYE and it said there are times that you'll feel distant from the baby... maybe this is one of those times for you?

GreekyPie

There is nothing wrong with you. I honestly feel like it is a little alien and I don't feel that mother/baby bond yet. I spoke to my SIL and she said she never did until the baby was born. I have U/S pics that VERY much look like a baby, and even still, I'm having a hard time really processing that!

SkiGirl1080s

Big hugs.  I've definitely been there.  We had a really hard time getting pregnant and I thought I'd be so in tune with my baby when it finally happened.  Instead, I was so worried about losing the baby that I didn't want to try to connect.  Once we got to 10 weeks, I rented a fetal heartbeat moniter.  For the first time, I was able to really connect with the baby.  After a stressful day at work, I'll come home and just listen to the baby's heart beat.  By knowing the baby is right there at that exact point on my stomach is a really cool feeling. 

sammy.k

Nope. I've received a ton of gifts, but haven't but haven't bought anything myself yet. I don't plan to until the big U/S on September 10th.?

jdouglas84

I don't think I started to feel a connection until my m/s started to get better, like maybe during month 4? I just had such a horrible time during 1st tri with m/s it was really hard to enjoy being pregnant. Now that I'm over the worst of the symptoms (I hope) I can enjoy being pregnant and bonding with my little babe!

SeaStar430

I was completely disconnected until I found out it was a girl and started feeling kicks.  Then it's like my connection kicked into overdrive, now I'm obsessed with my baby.

Everyone feels it at different times, some not till the birth, some not till weeks after the birth, no way is right or wrong!