Do those that are so critical of this board go to

otc

the LGBT board and tell them they should just go to the regular boards and get over it already?  Do you go over and ask questions about no male role model, or female role model, argue and bicker about everything?

Seriously, why is this so difficult for others to live and let live?

I can over here happily, to avoid unsupport.  I am tired of being told that I need to wean, CIO, etc.  Yes, I know that's what works for you, but I am unwilling or unable to allow that in my home.

I'm a proud disposilbe diaper using, non hippy who is the daughter of the rainbow movement.

I came here to have my cosleeping family bed, extended breast feeding, non STTN questions answered without having to explain myself.  If this is the only board that fits, happy days to me:)

I guess I'm AP, because that's the only place that the type of parenting I practice is safely discussed.  And by safe I mean without critique or suggestions of doom.

So this is the only group that'll have me:)

 

mominatrix

Manalyzer

I agree, but this is the internet and it is a public forum so there will always be people that come to question and/or criticize. Just overlook it, and concentrate on the rest of us that understand what you are going through and support you 100%.

otc

I was hoping my post made a few rethink their antics.  They would never do that on some of this other boards.  Tell people at loss to get over it, etc.  So why do it here. 

Live and let live:)

HappyHearts

flutiefrostie

I consider myself AP and yet I wonder why this board is necessary. The posts I've read make it seem like women on the other boards are anti-AP, but I've never gotten that feeling. I've seen plenty of women suggest baby wearing and haven't seen suggestions to CIO. Maybe I just haven't looked hard enough? But also, if there's going to be a board for one parenting belief, shouldn't there also be boards for Ferber, Babywise, etc?

Hippinski

flutiefrostie:

I consider myself AP and yet I wonder why this board is necessary. The posts I've read make it seem like women on the other boards are anti-AP, but I've never gotten that feeling. I've seen plenty of women suggest baby wearing and haven't seen suggestions to CIO. Maybe I just haven't looked hard enough? But also, if there's going to be a board for one parenting belief, shouldn't there also be boards for Ferber, Babywise, etc?

Oh...there is plenty of push for CIO on the other boards.  And comments that those that choose not to CIO are raising brats and that those that co-sleep are being unsafe and terrible parents.  Sure it's not everywhere...but it's there for sure.

And I am all for boards for Babywise or Ferber if people want them. If people as a group want a board then should take it up with the Nest Gods.  The AP mommas really wanted a board so they asked, and asked and then found an unused board and started posting there.  The Nest didn't just create this board out the blue to piss people off...they did it because there was a request and a want for it.

I think there should be a single mom board too.  And a formula feeding one if people want one.  I see no need for the Nursery or Baby Shower boards...but oh well.  I just don't post there because they don't apply to me.

otc

flutiefrostie:

I consider myself AP and yet I wonder why this board is necessary. The posts I've read make it seem like women on the other boards are anti-AP, but I've never gotten that feeling. I've seen plenty of women suggest baby wearing and haven't seen suggestions to CIO. Maybe I just haven't looked hard enough? But also, if there's going to be a board for one parenting belief, shouldn't there also be boards for Ferber, Babywise, etc?

You obviously aren't me, then.  I asked a simple question about separation anxiety/cosleeping and got slammed without a single answer to my question which didn't involve CIO, weaning and getting his own room.  I felt alone...sad...and knew that their had to be people out there like me, and there is!~ 

mrs.baum

flutiefrostie:

I consider myself AP and yet I wonder why this board is necessary. The posts I've read make it seem like women on the other boards are anti-AP, but I've never gotten that feeling. I've seen plenty of women suggest baby wearing and haven't seen suggestions to CIO. Maybe I just haven't looked hard enough? But also, if there's going to be a board for one parenting belief, shouldn't there also be boards for Ferber, Babywise, etc?

Probably not so much on the 0-6 month board, but the 6-12 month board is full of Feber/CIO posts. It didn't bother me at first, but after awhile it seemed like every other post was about sleep training.

flutiefrostie

otc:

flutiefrostie:

I consider myself AP and yet I wonder why this board is necessary. The posts I've read make it seem like women on the other boards are anti-AP, but I've never gotten that feeling. I've seen plenty of women suggest baby wearing and haven't seen suggestions to CIO. Maybe I just haven't looked hard enough? But also, if there's going to be a board for one parenting belief, shouldn't there also be boards for Ferber, Babywise, etc?

You obviously aren't me, then.  I asked a simple question about separation anxiety/cosleeping and got slammed without a single answer to my question which didn't involve CIO, weaning and getting his own room.  I felt alone...sad...and knew that their had to be people out there like me, and there is!~ 

Wow, sorry you got such poor responses. I haven't really had sleep questions yet so I haven't paid attention to those posts. This makes me glad this board is here!

ljlkm

otc:

I was hoping my post made a few rethink their antics. 

It won't.  Nothing you can say will help.  They'll eventually get bored if you don't engage.

lanie26

This isn't the first time I've seen attachment parents truly believe they identify with marginalized groups such as those on LGBT parents. It's a  leeeeetle unfortunate if that's actually the case.

The board is new. People have questions. But this "do you want a WHITE PROM TOO????" nonsense is a little misinformed and assuming.

otc

lanie26:

This isn't the first time I've seen attachment parents truly believe they identify with marginalized groups such as those on LGBT parents. It's a  leeeeetle unfortunate if that's actually the case.

The board is new. People have questions. But this "do you want a WHITE PROM TOO????" nonsense is a little misinformed and assuming.

I am part of the Rainbow family, so yes, I identify with both groups.  People wouldn't be rude enought to say some of the things they are saying to APers. 

When my parents first came out, I got a lot of crap about role models, god and that you're just like me, etc.  Yes, I am, but you don't treat me like it. 

lanie26

otc:

lanie26:

This isn't the first time I've seen attachment parents truly believe they identify with marginalized groups such as those on LGBT parents. It's a  leeeeetle unfortunate if that's actually the case.

The board is new. People have questions. But this "do you want a WHITE PROM TOO????" nonsense is a little misinformed and assuming.

I am part of the Rainbow family, so yes, I identify with both groups.  People wouldn't be rude enought to say some of the things they are saying to APers. 

When my parents first came out, I got a lot of crap about role models, god and that you're just like me, etc.  Yes, I am, but you don't treat me like it. 

I am truly baffled that you compare the two experiences. The experience of being part of a marginalized family experience to a message board about a common parenting philosophy?

I think you need perspective.

Hippinski

I guess I don't see the big deal with having an AP board.  No one biitched when the Parenting over 35 board came.  There are different boards for different things.  No big deal IMO.

prettypinkypeonies

I find this hilarious.  I bet you dollars to donuts that if there was a babywise or "detached parenting" board, most of you guys would be all over that flies on poop.

JMO

lanie26

Hippinski:

I guess I don't see the big deal with having an AP board.  No one biitched when the Parenting over 35 board came.  There are different boards for different things.  No big deal IMO.

No one is saying it's a "big deal." But when people start comparing their victimization as a philosophy to that of those LGBT parents and parents of children with special needs, they need a little perspective.

There is an attitude around here my friend and it has very little to do with those asking questions.

HappyHearts

prettypinkypeonies:

I find this hilarious.  I bet you dollars to donuts that if there was a babywise or "detached parenting" board, most of you guys would be all over that flies on poop.

JMO

Then you would lose that bet. I don't visit any of the boards that I don't find interesting or that don't apply to me, certainly not to waste my time flaming people for things I disagree with. Let's say I had a problem with same-sex households (which I don't but it could be a controversial parenting situation) - I wouldn't go over there and tell them they are all wrong for having kids and their kids would be ruined, etc. So why would I do that on a Babywise board or a "detached parenting" board? I come to the AP board for support/advice in the style I parent. I don't come on here to go to other boards and waste my few baby free moments flaming others for their choices.

Now, if you come to the AP board and ask for CIO tips, sure I'll link you to why I wouldn't do CIO or tell you that you are in the wrong place (nicely) but that's different.

bbowie

prettypinkypeonies:

I find this hilarious.  I bet you dollars to donuts that if there was a babywise or "detached parenting" board, most of you guys would be all over that flies on poop.

JMO

 

I certainly wouldn't.  I might go check it out but I wouldn't post or make trouble.  I'd probably get tired of it rather quickly and stop even going over there. 

otc

lanie26:

Hippinski:

I guess I don't see the big deal with having an AP board.  No one biitched when the Parenting over 35 board came.  There are different boards for different things.  No big deal IMO.

No one is saying it's a "big deal." But when people start comparing their victimization as a philosophy to that of those LGBT parents and parents of children with special needs, they need a little perspective.

There is an attitude around here my friend and it has very little to do with those asking questions.

WHAT?  Being made to feel bad about your parenting choices or your parents choices or my sons special needs is the only perspective that I have.  So my attititude is that I enjoy a place where my questions can be answered as well as asked without guard or flaming.  So the attitude is yours.  I just ask for tolerance and to point out that those that *** wouldn't do it in other places just as I don't seek out and cram my ideas down others throats.  I know what I do and don't believe in and if my answers don't and perpective don't align with yours, I keep my fingers off the keyboard and leave it alone.  That's really not hard to understand.  Why can't others do the same.   

lanie26

otc:

lanie26:

Hippinski:

I guess I don't see the big deal with having an AP board.  No one biitched when the Parenting over 35 board came.  There are different boards for different things.  No big deal IMO.

No one is saying it's a "big deal." But when people start comparing their victimization as a philosophy to that of those LGBT parents and parents of children with special needs, they need a little perspective.

There is an attitude around here my friend and it has very little to do with those asking questions.

WHAT?  Being made to feel bad about your parenting choices or your parents choices or my sons special needs is the only perspective that I have.  So my attititude is that I enjoy a place where my questions can be answered as well as asked without guard or flaming.  So the attitude is yours.  I just ask for tolerance and to point out that those that *** wouldn't do it in other places just as I don't seek out and cram my ideas down others throats.  I know what I do and don't believe in and if my answers don't and perpective don't align with yours, I keep my fingers off the keyboard and leave it alone.  That's really not hard to understand.  Why can't others do the same.   

Oh quit playing a victim here. It's a message board. YOu do grasp that right?