OMG...scared to death

SweetTeana826

I just had a "hunch" and POAS tonight and it was positive.  The thing is, I have been on BCP's and have NEVER missed a pill, so how could this possibly happen???  Am I really that 1% or has this happened to you or anyone you know?

According to the sites I used, I am just 4 weeks, so I know anything can happen.  But right now, I am scared sh!tless and have no idea how I am going to approach DH about this.  We were just getting used to the idea of only having our one child, who is a little over year and getting back to our normal lives now that he is older.  We also only have 1 income, so that I can stay at home and would need a bigger house as we only have 2 bedrooms here.  We were just about to look at a house and now I'm afraid we won't be able to afford it with another baby on the way.  I know a baby is a blessing, but HOW could this happen?  Never missed a single pill.  DH is NOT going to be happy and that is going to make me feel even worse.

I don't even know what I'm rambling about right now...my heart is racing and there is no way I can tell him right now.   How long would you wait to tell him?

OMG, I had a drink the other night too and have been taking allergy meds and other stuff.  No prenatals either, of course.

I am so scared right now.  Talk me off the proverbial ledge... 

rjade9

CALM DOWN!!! lol first of all CONGRATS!  I have known people that have gotten pregnant on the pill, maybe you took it a little late one day?  It does happen, I  understand the income too, and do not worry about the alcohol its fine! I would tell dh asap because you need that support.  It would be really douchey of him to be mad about it im sorry but it would be.  Scared yes, but mad would be ridiculous so im sure he will be a little nervous just as you are!  were you planning on any more???

SweetTeana826

Thank you.  We were pretty unsure about another one and were leaning about 75% towards no more, so this is beyond shocking...

And no, took the pill at the same time, every day, like clockwork.  I can't believe this....

What about the fact that I've been taking BCP's- can that hurt the baby or cause m/c? 

rjade9

no lol! you will be fine! a friend of mine didnt find out until she was about 3 or 3 1/2 months pregnant and was taking b/c pills and her boy is 3 now!  Call your dr in the am.  There is a reason for everything so this baby was obvioulsy meant to be lol.  And if you are only 4 weeks you are fine that is when most people find out and A LOT of people are on b/c...IDK how often you are on here but there are a couple that are pregnant right now on IUD!  Do you think you will tell dh soon?

cabbage5215

I am on the Mirena IUD and I have gotten a false positive.  They don't happen very often.  After the positive result I researched "chemical" pregnancies and I am not sure if that is what happened but I had a negative a couple of days later.

 So, take a deep breath and no matter what happens it will be for the best.  If you are congrats and everything will be okay.  

LoriFalce

My sister gor pregnant on the pill three times. I think the stats may be...optimistic. As to harm from the BCP, with #3, she found out at 7m. She'd been taking the pill the whole time.

I hope the situation resolves in a way that works for you.

cabbage5215

Also, I know some meds make it so birth control pills are not as effective.  Not sure if allergy pills are one of those meds..

rjade9

Reese1717:

Also, I know some meds make it so birth control pills are not as effective.  Not sure if allergy pills are one of those meds..

yes true! have you been on any antibiotics?

SweetTeana826

Yes, I was on an antibiotic, but the doc assured me that they no longer warn against those interfering with the pill.  He said there was only one kind they recommend you use a backup method with and I wasn't taking whatever antibiotic that was.  That has to be it though.  OMGOMGOMG.

LoriFalce

I think your doctor should be paying child support. He may be at least as responsible as your husband for getting you KU.

meggiekins

It'll be ok. Give it a few days to sink in, and then start working on a plan. And Congrats!

Oh, as for the pill, my MIL got pg on it with BIL. No antibiotics, no late pills, no missed pills. It just failed. It happens. It sucks that it happened to you, but it does happen.

And you aren't sharing a blood supply with the baby yet if you're only 4w, so it will all be fine. Good luck!

rara855

LoriFalce:

I think your doctor should be paying child support. He may be at least as responsible as your husband for getting you KU.

I PPH you... just saying. 

goodheartedmommy

First, congrats. You'll be fine! Sure it will be tough at times, but in the end, it's always worth it.

Second, don't rush into a house you can't afford. A 2 bedroom home will work fine...you can make it work! Lots of people have 2 kids in a 2 bedroom house. We had 2 in a 1 br apt for awhile...and we survived!

lanie26

SweetTeana826:

I just had a "hunch" and POAS tonight and it was positive.  The thing is, I have been on BCP's and have NEVER missed a pill, so how could this possibly happen???  Am I really that 1% or has this happened to you or anyone you know?

According to the sites I used, I am just 4 weeks, so I know anything can happen.  But right now, I am scared sh!tless and have no idea how I am going to approach DH about this.  We were just getting used to the idea of only having our one child, who is a little over year and getting back to our normal lives now that he is older.  We also only have 1 income, so that I can stay at home and would need a bigger house as we only have 2 bedrooms here.  We were just about to look at a house and now I'm afraid we won't be able to afford it with another baby on the way.  I know a baby is a blessing, but HOW could this happen?  Never missed a single pill.  DH is NOT going to be happy and that is going to make me feel even worse.

I don't even know what I'm rambling about right now...my heart is racing and there is no way I can tell him right now.   How long would you wait to tell him?

OMG, I had a drink the other night too and have been taking allergy meds and other stuff.  No prenatals either, of course.

I am so scared right now.  Talk me off the proverbial ledge... 

Well the allergy meds and drink are really not a problem at this stage so no worries. You haven't done any harm. It's still so early. Hop over to the pharmacy to pick up some prenatals and make your first appointment to confirm it. 

This sucks man. I'm sorry. You have lots of options and whatever you choose, with some planning, things will be ok. If I got pregnant like that I'd be horrified too! It isn't your fault. And your husband will know that.

There are a few posters on here who got pregnant using birth control, so do a page out and see what kind of helpful suggestions you get.

Good luck! 

lanie26

SweetTeana826:

Yes, I was on an antibiotic, but the doc assured me that they no longer warn against those interfering with the pill.  He said there was only one kind they recommend you use a backup method with and I wasn't taking whatever antibiotic that was.  That has to be it though.  OMGOMGOMG.

OH my. I had to take antibiotics last week and my mom had come to the doctor with me to watch Jo. I must have looked 12 or something because he took me aside and whispered "if you take this on the pill, it reduces its effectiveness greatly so you have to use :looks around: OTHER PROTECTION. " Bahahhahaa.  Particular antibiotics are more interfering than others apparently.  Sorry man. That SUCKS.

BetchySprout

LoriFalce:

I think your doctor should be paying child support. He may be at least as responsible as your husband for getting you KU.

 

Uh, no my doc says the same thing. There are several new studies showing that the interaction is not what was originally stated. My mom has also told me about it from reading her medical journals.

 

Momma.Brown

I want to know who's AE this is. because this is?definitely?and AE (see post history in bio).

either way, sorry for your situation. if its real, i hope it works out whatever way is best for you and your family.?

Echowysp

Congrats!  Don't worry, you will work it out.  And don't worry about the drink and meds.  There's no connection of blood until 6 weeks anyway.

divakat

First, it will take some adjusting, but your DH will eventually get used to the idea and then I'm sure he will be very happy and excited. Second, why do you need a bigger place? Tons of children share rooms. They certainly don't need their own room. Even if the second one is a girl, they can still share a room for a few years when they are little. Also, if you are getting by on one income with one child then you will be able to do it with 2. The expenses don't go up that much by adding a second LO (at least in my experience). You will just need to find ways to save like BF, not eating out as much, etc. As far as the prenatals go, I didn't take them with either child (I had serious issues with them) and both of mine are fine. Just start taking them now and it will be ok. The best thing is that your children will be closer in age, so they can grow up together and will hopefully be very close to each other! Your older one will now have a friend for life!

kbs0929

Momma.Brown:

I want to know who's AE this is. because this is definitely and AE (see post history in bio).

either way, sorry for your situation. if its real, i hope it works out whatever way is best for you and your family. 

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