Frustrated (ranting)

guckiana

Sorry in advance for the following rant!

I found out that I was pregnant on June 23^rd, and then confirmed the pregnancy with blood work on June 24^th.  I immediately made an appointment at the local OB/GYN?s office for July 8^th.  I was looking forward to trying to hear a heartbeat, and even an early ultrasound. To say the least I was disappointed with my first visit. My doctor did a pap smear, and his exam to feel my uterus. His response was ?yep, you?re pregnant.?  Obviously, this is why I came to you! He refused to do an ultrasound or try to find a heartbeat because he said he wouldn?t be able to find anything. What annoyed me the most was that he based my due date only upon my blood work from June 24^th. (Which at the time said I was at least 5-6 weeks pregnant)

The conversation:                                                                               Doc: ?Well to calculate the due date we go by the first day of your last period, which was on??                                                            Me: ?March 9^th. I have always had irregular periods.?                     Doc: tosses my charts on a table ?Never mind then.?  ?I will guess you conceived on June 16^th, and that would make your due date right around March 10^th.? He then looks at my husband and says ?Were you passing through town on the 16^th?? My husband nods his head, and then begins to shake his head no.                              My Husband: ?I was actually out of town that week on business??                                                                              AWKWARD SCILENCE!!!                                                                                                                                                        Doc: ?Maybe you have slow swimmers??

Just to clarify, the baby is my husband?s, I'm 100% positive.  Like I stated above, the blood work results I received on June 24^th showed that I was 5-6 weeks pregnant. So the question that is bothering me is if I was 5-6 weeks pregnant on the 24^th of June, how did the doctor decide that I conceived on June 16^th? I really feel like the doctor just wanted to get us in and out of his office.  I am so frustrated because I want to know how far along I actually am so I can have an accurate due date.

I also feel like the doctor is talking to me like I am a child. I look young, but I?m not incompetent. I have a degree in Pre Kindergarten Education, and have studied child development. I understand how due dates are traditionally calculated, and I also know that when irregular periods are an issue with determining due dates early ultrasounds are often used. I just feel like my age, and appearance will make the doctor treat me like a teenager that had an ?oops? moment, instead of an educated woman with a husband, and a job.  

I know a lot of people would say to get another doctor, but I live in a small town, and my choices are slim.  My doctor comes highly recommended, and is the only one that is close enough for me to be able to make it to my appointments after work.

I just can?t wait for my next appointment on the 19^th, and hope it isn?t as disappointing as the first one was. 

nlvaden

Firstly, I would change your screen name to something not your email address like it says to when you sign up.  You will be getting porn very shortly. 

Secondly, I would switch offices.

gingerfamily

Well, if you don't want to switch doctors I am not sure what to tell you.  Your due date may fluctuate during your pregnancy so I would not be overly concerned right now.

guckiana

I've been trying to change my screen name, but when I go to edit profile, my username is in gray font and won't let me change it.

I don't know what office I would switch to. All of the people I've talked to have gone to this same office, and same doctor and had wonderful experiences. The main problem is that I don't get off work until 4 PM, and if I move to a different office I worry that I will not be able to make it to appointments. My matternity leave consists of my sick days, so I can't take days off work to go to appointments, or my matternity leave will only be a couple weeks long.

speters83

 I have irregular periods. Judging from my last period I would be due in November but since it is irregular I am due in January. My doctor did an ultrasound early on and said I am due January 10th but when I calculate my due date it is the 5th. I have had 2 ultrasounds confirm the same due date. So while it is slightly off I realize this is just an estimate due date.

   I understand you are venting but if you feel like you are not being treated right by your doctor you might want to start looking around.

 

speters83

To change your screenname you need to make a new account. HTH

guckiana

thank you

aaronica

u know, i had a similar experience too... i thought it was just me that didn't get the heartbeat and ultrasound the first go round...

ElloPoppet

How dare he ask if your husband was "passing through town" that week. Way to insult your patient. He might as well have asked you "Are you SURE you didn't bang anyone else?"

1) switch doctors - maybe you can get early early before-work appointments? My OB has ridiculous hours some days starting I think at 5am, possibly 6am. Maybe you can take an hour off work instead of a day? Also check to see if you are allotted "personal" days in addition to sick days. If you have been at your job for 1 year by the time you give birth, you should qualify for FMLA - definitely double check your eligibility for that.

2) contact bump admins to change your username, they should accomidate you.

dtrigg

nlvaden:

Firstly, I would change your screen name to something not your email address like it says to when you sign up.  You will be getting porn very shortly. 

Secondly, I would switch offices.

Rofl!!

I would get a second opinion.. You don't have to change doctors if you really don't want to. But you could bring in the other doctor's reasoning and if your doctor is still being a butt, then you might have to work out days for appointments.