if your husband is never home

Amanda&Chris

do you ever feel like you are at the end of your rope with being alone and doing everything?  I am having one of those days and I only have one kid this week since DS is at overnight camp.  And now I'm having a big pity party for myself because it's just going to get worse when #3 is born.  Not to mention that MH is supposed to have a trial in CA three weeks after the baby is born.

Please tell me I'm not alone in feeling this way.

Bellisimo

Yep, all the time. ?In fact, last night I was going to post a whiny complaint about it. ?I literally go get myself ready for bed and sometimes go to bed super early as soon as he does walk in the door. ?I feel sort of sorry for him because he's been at work (mass chaos usually) all day but sometimes I've been having a stressful day as well. ?Luckily, we share the duties pretty well and he's understanding when I just need to "clock out" for the day! ?He doesn't travel for work or anything, but he does work 10 hr. shifts that are helter skelter days, overnights and everything in between. ?Sucks!

sarahgcapecod

DH travels every single week Monday - Thursday night.  Yes, I have days like that a lot but I also have many more days that I don't feel that way.  It's been ok for me but it's not for everyone.  He REALLY enjoys his Friday's off with the kiddos and I enjoy my Fridays with no kiddos (I work in a spa that day for 6 hours). It still gives us the entire weekend together as a family.

jorie

No, but he's been gone all last week and all this week, so I'm getting a taste of what it would be like. It definitely sucks.  I feel like a really bad parent b/c I take out my frustration on the girls and snip at just about everything. 

wildflower865

Pretty much DH is never home in the summer.  I do feel like that, but sometimes, like now in the summer when I'm home (teacher) I feel a bit free.  What I CAN'T stand, is doing it all by myself, then him coming home at some point and telling me he doesn't like the way I'm doing something.  He works 24 hour shifts almost every other day, and on the days he is not at the firehouse, he is training or teaching in another town.

LeisureSuitLauren

You are not alone.

When I'm feeling like this, I grab the kids and go visit a friend.  A friend with kids, preferably whose husband isn't home at the time.  Misery loves company. But really, I almost always leave feeling so much better and sort of "re-set". KWIM?

Amanda&Chris

Yeah, normally it doesn't bother me to be alone and I do plan things and go out.  Just having one of those days I guess.

hikerbeth

Absolutely.  My DH travels about 75% of the time.  He actually happens to be home this week (he works from home when he's here) and it's almost worse because I never know what his real "schedule" will be.

He's been getting up at 6:30 am to start working and today he didn't take a break for dinner and didn't tell me he wouldn't be taking a break.  Then I had to deal with a long horrifying meltdown from DD after dinner and he just shut the door and turned off the monitor in the office.  He's been working 'til after midnight most nights too.

And I taught 4 hours of fitness classes today, cleaned house, ran errands, etc.

I'm having one of those days too, sistah.

esposa38

It's the dinner/bedtime hours that kill me.  I am *literally* having cold stone pits in my stomach when I think how it's going to be when #2 arrives.  It makes me wonder WTF I was thinking.

minnasmommy

well, you KNOW l do! it sucks! totally sucks!