.02 on judging other moms out in public

Judah'sMommy

If they don't know you're judging them, then who cares?  Like, what difference does it make if you come here all "OMG I saw this mother today doing XXX and I judged the hell out of her."  She continued her day happily, and your panties are in a bunch about whatever it was she was doing/not doing.  I don't get it.  This always confuses me.

msabol2077

LOL and I'm sure that there are MANY people who also judge for everything.

102503Natalie

I've wondered this myself.  I judge other mothers all the time and don't feel an ounce of sadness or remorse about it either.  I'm sure I was judged all the times I put Anna's carseat on top of the basket, but I don't really care. 

fire0513fly

ummmm, because they are perfect parents.

AmyDrinkie

Yes.  It would be a lot better if they said "OMG I saw this mother today doing XXX and I TOLE that betch what a horrible mother she was and she was going to live to regret that!"

Seriously, that would be a GOOD post.  I wonder what kind of responses it would get?

exhausted_bride

This confuses me too and something I've spend way too much time trying to figure out. I hate those "I judged a mother" posts. So, okay, you judged a mother. Move on. Who cares? Are they looking for confirmation? Flames? Don't know.

chrisnj0614

I agree.

I judge all the time and don't really care. I am sure others are judging me.  its human nature.

lanie26

I don't get it either. Especially since this form is entirely about judging. So? Wow you took it off the board? CRAZY.

southernbelle82

People judge left and right.  No one is innocent of judging.  It's a human reaction.  It happens on here ALL THE TIME, of course it's going to happen in real life.  I'm guilty of it and I'll admit it.

 

KellyOsu23

I dont really feel bad for "judging" a mom

I try not to judge people, but if someone does something where to I am judging their parenting skills im IMO its not my fault for judging, its their actions that caused me to judge...

lol

I am sure I get judged plenty of times...

Well in fact I know I do, we goto the pool and I can see moms DD's love for the pool, the fact she likes to throw her hat off and the fact shes not wearing one of those "wetsuit" looking swimsuits like the other kids...lol

Judah'sMommy

lanie26:

I don't get it either. Especially since this form is entirely about judging. So? Wow you took it off the board? CRAZY.

It's not the judging I don't get, we all judge things all the time.  It's the proud, boastful posting about it.  Like "Look at me!  I found someone to judge today!!"  Then again, that is pretty much 75% of the posts on this board, so I guess it makes sense. 

ETA: I totally agree with AmyDrinkie.  Now *that* is a post I want to read! lol

brandonsfuturewife07

they want validation in their perfection, and that yes, the other mom was indeed horrible for doing x, y, or z.

jade_sweatpea

AmyDrinkie:

Yes.  It would be a lot better if they said "OMG I saw this mother today doing XXX and I TOLE that betch what a horrible mother she was and she was going to live to regret that!"

Seriously, that would be a GOOD post.  I wonder what kind of responses it would get?

Now I'm in the hospital because that _bitch kicked my azz for running my mouth!

fire0513fly

brandonsfuturewife07:

they want validation in their perfection, and that yes, the other mom was indeed horrible for doing x, y, or z.

 

So, that is what you are looking for when you post other people's posts from differents boards? hmmmmm...that explains a lot.

FolanMama

If only I could have $0.02 for everytime I judge a mom and make a mental note to tell DH about it later... well, I wouldn't be so scared about my rent going up 30% next month b/c I'd be one rich b!tch.

Whooooooooo cares if I judge in the privacy of my own brain?

Amy Schramm

I honestly don't really judge other parents in public. ?I think that's a big city thing-- I've lived here for over a decade and kind of tune other people out for the most part. ?There is also much more interesting stuff to judge than a 2 year old with a bottle-- I saw a woman last week on the street in a bra and panties LPennie style and there is a woman in my neighborhood who regularly strolls a stuffed dog in a stroller. ?I'd rather give the side eye to that stuff. ?

I think most of my friends IRL are good parents-- they are all older and really wanted to have kids and waited til they were very stable and they know everything you could know about safety, childcare, etc. ?

I judge alot on TN-- mostly because it's what everyone does and people admit ridiculous things on here. ?And people are WAY too open about their lives and issues. ?

exhausted_bride

I thought this post was not about the judging, but about the need to post about it in a way of "look at me, I'm judging a mom..." I get we all judge others.