I have to say I think some people are going overboard

jennieliz

Find me someone on here who has never lost their cool with their kids and then that person can be the one to throw the first stone.  Not that I am condoning her actions, but seriously is it really your place to call CPS?  I sent Addie to bed the other night without dinner (she flat refused, threw a fit, was offered the dinner which she likes plenty of times and still refused, so she was sent to bed) so does that make me a CPS case?  I blogged about it so I guess all of you who want to find my address/phone number/date of birth/number of speeding tickets I've ever gotten can get to work so you can send CPS to my house. 

Honestly, the woman is nuts, but that's her problem and the problem of those who actually know her and her children, not the nest/bump/whatever.  And, I think those who can hunt down all that info and are calling are just as nuts.

summerbrideDC

Sending your child to bed one night w/o dinner may not be something I'd do, but it's still a billion miles from using a switch on your child for not saying "Hi, mommy" when you want him to, or switching them for not staying on a blanket when they are 6 months old.?

Andrewsgal

Are you kidding me? She did not just loose her cool...she admits this is the way she "trains" her kids. She beat the child for 30 mintues. That is not okay!

eclaires

I would say it's not the one action - it's not even the one or two swats that's disturbing.

It's all of the actions combined, the reason WHY she was swatting the kid, the way she writes about it, etc.  That is what makes it disturbing, and quite frankly, why I'm not bothered people called CPS.  Would I?  I don't know, because what's CPS going to do... but there's a HUGE difference between disciplining your child (bed w/out dinner) and the way it's written about in that blog.  It's all about the context of it for me... as much context as you can get from a blog.

I said it before, and I'll say it again - the blog comes off very mommy dearest, not mommy struggling and blogging about a rough day with her kids.

MarchMom06

Andrewsgal:

Are you kidding me? She did not just loose her cool...she admits this is the way she "trains" her kids. She beat the child for 30 mintues. That is not okay!

Yeah, this. You really think that's okay? To beat your child for 30 minutes for not saying "Hi Mommy"?

I've lost my cool plenty of times. I've made plenty of parenting mistakes. But I KNOW they are mistakes. I don't blog about how proud I am of emotionally & physically abusing my child & pretend like they are a pet I'm trying to train. All in the name of God.

ETA: I don't emotionally or physically abuse my child, which my previous paragraph kind of sounds like. I meant that I make mistakes.

cooker71

Andrewsgal:

Are you kidding me? She did not just loose her cool...she admits this is the way she "trains" her kids. She beat the child for 30 mintues. That is not okay!

This. 

Mrs.Provost

I'm all for people contacting the right authorities about this. I don't think it's going overboard.

What's freaky is the lady, dunno which Nestie it is but it was posted on 0-6 I think...who contacted every talk show/news show under the sun. THAT is going overboard. 

This crazybitch does not need that kind of limelight - talk about a perfect way for her to spew her crazy to as many people as possible. Yikes.

goodheartedmommy

Completely different. And losing your cool is different from carrying on for 30 minutes or 2 hours or however long it was. In that time, you are aware of what you are doing and have the ability to stop, even if it was initially just a knee-jerk reaction.

wellfleet04

Ditto MrsP.  One call to CPS is fine, appropriate even, just to have someone with the proper authority check up on the kids and take any steps that need to be taken.  Calling Oprah, Dr. Phil, the Today Show, etc?!  Crazy, and taking it way, way too far IMO.

Temp970088312507122

As horrible as I, and all of you, think it is, I really doubt CPS would even DO anything. There are thousands of worse abuse cases that fall through the cracks, and thousands of families that practice this kind of lifestyle and parenting. I doubt hitting a baby with a back scratcher leaves any kind of marks, so if CPS goes into that home, I doubt they would see signs of abuse. People could use the blog as "evidence" but I'm sure it's probably easy to deny internet postings. Sad, but true.

DandelionMom

I could be mistaken but I don't think anyone on this board did any of those things.? I am relieved cps was called and I hope they are able to do something to help that family.? That is what is supposed to be done.??

I haven't seen posts on talk shows?? But that seems pretty out there to me.??

BJKL

Andrewsgal:

Are you kidding me? She did not just loose her cool...she admits this is the way she "trains" her kids. She beat the child for 30 mintues. That is not okay!

 

THIS!

knmommy

What this woman is doing is not just physical abuse, its emotional and in no way is it okay.  That being said, I'm pretty sure CPS won't do anything about it anyhow.  My DS was shaken by his father and still has to see him. 

elm1032004

First of all, you offered your DD dinner and she refused to eat it.  She is old enough to eat what you give her and if she decides not to then so be it.  This lady hit her 2 year old repeatly for 30 mins. with a "baby switch" and then thought about refusing him dinner because he didn't say "Hi Mommy" on demand......so maybe I should go home and beat my 1.5 year old because when I say to him "say mama" he laughs and says "dada".    If you were like this woman you would have beaten Addie for not eating her dinner when you told her to and then sent her to bed hungry after it was over.  I don't think your situation above is anything like the one on this blog.

Kapalua

I don't think anyone here reported or called anyone.  I can't say the same for the 0-6 board, though...apparently they went nutty bananas and called the whole world!

eta: I think what this woman does/did is deplorable...but I'm willing to bet it's not a cps case.

Zenya

You think people should butt out of a 30 minute beating?  Are you serious?  I hope to God you would feel differently if you actually knew these people and that it's just the internet thing that feels removed to you.

goodheartedmommy

Zenya:

You think people should butt out of a 30 minute beating?  Are you serious?  I hope to God you would feel differently if you actually knew these people and that it's just the internet thing that feels removed to you.

I find it sickening that someone wouldn't be concerned about it at all, internet or not. The lack of empathy for another human is sad, especially when the said human is helpless.

Sulla

I guess I'm in the middle.

I found the info, only because I was curious how easily it could be found. (and the answer was: very easily.)

But I did not do anything with it, or make any calls, because while I find this upsetting, I'm not sure it meets the legal definition of abuse. And because it appeared that others had already taken steps to have it looked into.