Update to yesterdays post about whether people change or not

axh2277

DH and I talked last night about his sister's email and decided to accept her friend request and try to slowly mend fences and put everything behind us with at least her.  Unfortunately she told their aunt about her email to us and DH got a horrible venom filled email from his aunt this morning telling us what horrible people we are and that we should just tell DS that side of the family died on the way home from our wedding.  DH sent his sister an email this morning telling her that up until we got the email this morning we had been ready to move on, but the email from his aunt just opened old wounds again and that he would never subject DS to that type of hatred and that he wants no contact with anyone in his family.  She responded and thanked him for responding to her and that she wanted to see us and build a relationship with us and DS and that wasn't dependent on the other family members, but DH feels that it would be just a matter of time until she would start pressuring us to see his other relatives which he has no desire to see. 

Ironically his aunt said that they thought after we had a child that we would reach out to them to make amends, but after the email she sent this morning that window has been slammed shut,

SpecialWife

I'm sorry you guys are going through this. I hope you can some how have a relationship with SIL with appropriate boundaries.

Lucky_Dragonfly

well you can take the small steps to have a relationship with SIL at your own pace but you don'tt have to include the aunt. some people just plain suck at life.