DH not so darling

ceraann

So I have only posted here sporatically as I'm new and still getting the hang of it, but had to vent just a little.  So the story is we have our consult on the 19th to discuss fertility testing and what not.  We have been TTC actively since Jan 2008 but I've been off BC for the last 3 years.  I had an ectopic the end of last year.  So asked my DH what his thoughts were with the appt coming up as he tends to not say much.  I knew I would get mad when he starts with "you're not going to like this but the truth is..."  then tells me he thinks its not needed as he thinks lots of people try for many years with no interventions and get pregnant (totally wanted to say who the hell are you talking about as I don't know these people he speaks of)...then says he will not be happy if we spend all the money and all the tests come back with no problems....grrrrrrr.  Usually he's not like this and it hit a nerve

pmarie33

22 cycles here.  He's not totally out of his mind.

murphyec

But wouldn't the aggravation of not knowing if there is something wrong be worse?

Nikki1007

murphyec:

But wouldn't the aggravation of not knowing if there is something wrong be worse?

This. Yes it happens that people try wit no intervention for years and then get a miracle BFP. Several of the girls here are an example. But I would want to know that the problem is. Maybe just give him some more time to warm up to the idea.

yogisunam

Maybe remind him it's just a consult and you're just trying to figure out if there is a problem. If nothing is, then you can talk about what and when treatments are right for you.

I'm currently in the unexplained camp, and it is frustrating. But not nearly has frustrating wondering about all the things that could be wrong.

ceraann

I am in not such a b**thy mood today.  I understand the whole how crappy it would be for us to spend all the money and have nothing wrong..money isn't exactly growing on trees lately for sure..but I would rather know than have something wrong and than not know.   Plus when I went in for my yearly physical I did a check with my doctor as to how much longer we should wait to check things out since she knew my history and what not and that's how we based setting up a consult.  I know he's just trying to stay positive that everything is fine and we will soon be expecting.  But thanks for the comments:)