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jday1229

Are you expecting a present from your SO on Mother's Day?

If so, have you told him outright or do you just expect him to know?

CariannelovesTim

No, I am not expecting anything but I am looking at what to get or do for him father's day!

Ivana_Stolichnaya

No

TiffanyHenning

Husbie just pointed out to me yesterday that a gift is in order for me this year, then promptly reminded me Fathers Day is in June.

BlairWaldorf

umm, I don't expect gifts at any time.

water-fairy

No, I'm not expecting anything. We give each-other presents every now and then, no need for special days. I don't even know when Mother's day is.

water-fairy

BlairWaldorf:

umm, I don't expect gifts at any time.

Agreed.?

FutureHardings

To be honest, yes, I expect something. Not exactly even a gift... but a card, or a romantic dinner... just something to say 'thanks for carrying my child' would be nice.

HapaLisa

You know, my DH is so very clueless, I am not expecting anything from him.  sigh.  It would be really sweet though.

I've thought about dropping not-so-subtle hints but then I feel if I have to tell him to get me something it wouldn't be as special.  I guess I'll just have to wait and see! (and keep my fingers crossed in the meantime)

dreamscometrue*

Nope. My mom got me a mother's day present early - took me maternity clothes shopping. We're going to brunch for Mother's day with my parents, but I'd be shocked if my DH actually bought me something. I kinda don't think it counts yet...I haven't really been able to "mother" yet, still in the "hosting" phase

allowry

CariannelovesTim:

No, I am not expecting anything but I am looking at what to get or do for him father's day!

This!

yale

No, not expecting anything.

gumiberg

I've already let him know that I am expecting a back massage and I will politely remind him again (and again and again because he so easily forgets!)

RJHarmon

Dh mentioned this to me yesterday.  I can't wait to get him his first father's day present either!

ivs112

I'm not expecting a gift but I know I will get a really nice card.

ericaelaine2

I hadn't even thought of it....I would be pleasantly surprised but I'm not expecting anything.  I think if you are expecting or want something then you should drop hints or tell him you would like something that way you don't set yourself up for disappointment...just my opinion...

Ivana_Stolichnaya

Just because you're expecting, you shouldn't expect a gift. Period. Our husbands are not obliged to buy us sparkly things just because we decided to bring a new life into this world. There's something sort of shallow and crass about that, isn't there?

Danse

No.

annieandryanfloyd

i guess i forgot about mother's day! we usually do something with my family, im sure my mom will get something for me. i can see dh getting me flowers and going out to dinner after we're done at my family's...we're not really 'gifty' people.

FutureHardings

Ivana.Stolichnaya:

Just because you're expecting, you shouldn't expect a gift. Period. Our husbands are not obliged to buy us sparkly things just because we decided to bring a new life into this world. There's something sort of shallow and crass about that, isn't there?

It's shallow to want our husbands to appreciate us? I don't think that's shallow at all. Mine especially is very clueless to everything that I'm going through and it's really frustrating. So, YES I want him to do something special for me this year... and I will do the same for him on Fathers day.

Don't call me shallow and crass.

Almost Married

I don't expect anything but it would be a nice gesture. I'm getting him something for father's day! Yay I'm so excited about it. Of course it's baby related! LOL

Breezer80

I don't really ever expect anything, but my DH usually loves to do little gifts like this ... we'll see. I won't be disappointed or anything if he doesn't do anything ...

zoieglow

Ivana.Stolichnaya:

Just because you're expecting, you shouldn't expect a gift. Period. Our husbands are not obliged to buy us sparkly things just because we decided to bring a new life into this world. There's something sort of shallow and crass about that, isn't there?

I agree with this and with Blair. I never expect gifts. We rarely exchange them. We took the money we would have spent on Christmas, birthdays and Valentine's Day this year and spent it on our baby and a small getaway for us before the baby is born instead.

MrsBro6116

BlairWaldorf:

umm, I don't expect gifts at any time.

I am with Blair on this one

AllisonLeigh

No even if DS was already here I still wouldn't expect a gift from DH

BlairWaldorf

There's also a difference between expecting a gift & liking a gift.

Those who would like a gift would find it touching, but wouldn't go out of their way to suggest a gift, ask for it, & they won't be dissapointed if one isn't received.

Someone who expects a gift will be in here biitching the day after Mother's Day about how their husband is a thoughtless sack of male because OH MY GOD he didn't buy her flowers, a card, & a sparkly thing because SHE IS INCUBATING HIS FETUS, BY HEAVENS.

Pennylane824

I'm certainly not expecting anything. If he thinks of it, great... if not, I won't even think twice about it. I bet my mom is more likely to say something to me on mother's day rather than him.

HeyyRed

Why is this board so obsessed with getting presents? If you want something go out and buy it yourself already.

Sheesh. Cave People.?

madameladauphine

BlairWaldorf:

umm, I don't expect gifts at any time.

This.  And besides that, I don't really need anything (and neither does he, so he won't be getting a Fathers Day gift) so if there is any mention of a gift, I'll make it clear that I'd rather put the money towards the baby or something for us to enjoy together. 

Mrs.Sky_and_Mr.Luke

I'm not expecting anything we usually get eachother random things during the year but not always on "gift holidays"

They do have mommy to be cards for mothers day

gniddew

Yes, but only because DH is terrible at keeping secrets or not spilling the beans about surprises and already told me I am getting something from him for Mother's Day.  It's sweet and I will definitely be getting him a little something for Mother's Day.  That said, neither gift will be expensive or over-the-top - saving money for baby furniture!!!

jday1229

You guys will turn the stupidest things into controversy. It's great entertainment. LOL

Monsieur_et_Madame_Ha

I'm not expecting anything from him, but I would be thrilled if he did something special for the occasion (get me a card or buy me flowers, or prepare a nice dinner, you get the idea...)

jamie7751

We bought each other Phillies tickets for May 10 - Mothers Day and June 21st Fathers Day.

Works for me!

jackie.couturier

It makes me really excited to think about doing something for him for his first father's day.  I don't expect anything, but it would be nice if he were excited to do something sweet for me too.

HeyyRed

jday1229:

You guys will turn the stupidest things into controversy. It's great entertainment. LOL

So be defacto you've just called anyone who has commented on your post stupid.

Way to Win Friends and Influence People. I'm sure you will go far on the Bump.

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sestock17

Having DH with me during the pregnancy is gift enough for me.  What is better than having someone to hold your hand, tell you that you look great when you are bloated, puffy and feeling like crap, having someone rub your lower back when it hurts, to clean the litter boxes for 9 months and to just be there.  I would forsake 1 day expecting a present to being delighted daily with the little things.  Let your kids spoil you on Mother's Day when they get older.  This mother's day you should all be spoiling your mom's and not expecting anything from DH.

jday1229

HeyyRed:

jday1229:

You guys will turn the stupidest things into controversy. It's great entertainment. LOL

So be defacto you've just called anyone who has commented on your post stupid.

Way to Win Friends and Influence People. I'm sure you will go far on the Bump.

Actually, if you want to reread what I posted you'll see I didn't call anyone stupid.

In fact, I didn't even say it was stupid to turn stupid things into controversy, I called it entertaining. If anything, I called my subject stupid, which is fine, because I'm just passing time.

 

sam19

My H does so many things for me on a daily basis. That is gift enough to me. He doesn't need some commercialized holiday to show his appreciation. So no, I don't expect a thing from him. It's not like I'm his mother.

HeyyRed

jday1229:

Actually, if you want to reread what I posted you'll see I didn't call anyone stupid.

In fact, I didn't even say it was stupid to turn stupid things into controversy, I called it entertaining. If anything, I called my subject stupid, which is fine, because I'm just passing time.

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I'm well versed in English and the actual literal commentary you posted was in fact correct. However, in a philosophical twist, you posted a comment that you have determined to be stupid and the fact that people have responded to it defacto implies that either that they are stupid or that you were the stupid one for commenting about it in the first place.

Now I'm not debating or making a reference to either being the case, just that it could be interpreted as such by anyone on here that is capable of reading between the lines or inferring meaning or intent based on the literal expression of a poster.?

rssnlvr

I wasn't sure how he would handle it, but he's been asking when it is, and wanted to confirm that I'm "already a mother, right?" so I think he's got something up his sleeve.