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Grrr and Arghh!

xcarebearxxcarebearx
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I know this is better suited for the blended family board, but they can be really slow....and I like you guys (not to say I dont like them too lol!)!  DH and I have custody of my 3 SKs.  Their BM is court ordered to pay CS every month...its a trivial amount for 3 growing kids, IMO, but every little bit helps.  So, BM is over a month past due on her CS, but still wants to be all nicey nicey with me.  She will call and say, can I pick the kids up early, drop them off late....all things I have done in the past for the sake of civility.  I know suport and visitation have nothing to do with each other, but I am starting to loose my sense of humor over this.  We only have once income.  It is not possible for my DH to get a ssecond job b/c in addition to working a 45-50 hour week, he goes to school full time (18 credit hours per semester).  If I were to get a part time job, we would have to pay for day care for 3 kids.....NOT CHEAP!  We pay for everything for all 3 of my SKs plus our DD.  She contributes nothing to the kids...no clothes, no insurance, no co-pays ( and there are a TON) no food, no extra fun things...NADA!!!!  She seems to think that we have this endless supply of money and dont need anything from her.  She is supposed to have her CS garnished from her paycheck, but that is not happening.  We have tried to get Child Suppport Services to help us, but they are a JOKE!  We have been back to court over this a bunch of times, but nothing ever changes.  I guess I am really the most upset for the kids.  I was planning on using the CS this past month to do fun things with them while they are on Spring Break...but that will not be happening.  BTW...just so I dont get flammed for being involved in things my DH should be handeling....I am the kids primary care giver.  The courts have recognized this, and I am actually listed in the custody agreement etc.   I am the bill payer in the house too, so I take care of where the CS money goes, and I know when it comes (or doesnt!).  Sorry to ramble and vent, but it just makes me so angry when people have kids and then neglect them!!!!  TIA if you have gotten this far!
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Re: Grrr and Arghh!

  • stillhopingstillhoping
    Contact your attorney and take her back to court
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  • oparcmoparcm
    Hard as it is remain civil (it is in the best interest of the sk and you have their best interest at heart).  Take her to court.   The sk are blessed that you are in their lives and you maintain civil contact with her. 
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  • xcarebearxxcarebearx

    Taking her back to court is a waste of our time and money.  We have spent enough money trying to make her do right by her children.  At this point, we just sit and wait.  Eventually we will get the money...her taxes are intercepted every year.  I really am just venting because she aggrivates me, and it is WAY better to vent to you guys, then for the kids to hear me get pissy about it.  Luckily, they have no idea what I was planning on doing with the money, so they dont know what they are missing.  And I guess I can look on the positive side...when we do actually get a check, we will just go on a shooping spree and get them new spring/summer clothes since they have all grown like weeds!  Gotta find something positive in all this, ya know! LOL

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