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firsttogo

I am so sorry that you felt out of place over on 2IF. Honestly, though your IVF post seemed like you were trying to start a controversy. We are not in to that over there. Some ladies on that board have gone through hell and back for baby 1, and some are only now finding trouble for subsequent babies. I am not sure where your post is where people say no to IVF for fear of multiples. You mentioned it again when you tried to "educate" us on IFV. We do know what that is, we have experience, and we were being nice to your lame post.

Stay over here if that is what you wish. Evidently you need more support as your TTC journey is way more traumatizing than anyone's over there.
 

eyenerd

https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/12947234.aspx

first off i just wanted to say that i was not causing a controversy.  I think this is the post i was referring to.  I think i counted at least 3 posters saying that IVF was not an option because of multiples.  I read the post a bit after it was posted and i just wanted to straighten out that misconception.  I think we IVFers all have some disgust for how the octomom has portrayed IVF.

I am sorry you found my post lame.  I feel that when going through IF we should share information and facts to better educate all of us.  All though it is nice to show support to one another, we also have to correct misconceptions or bogus info.  Your board is great for pep rally's for each other, however, i have found that when people have ???'s about more invasive procedures or protocols, there are few responses.  Therefore i felt you bored lacked information---was more for a novice.  When i was first on TTTC there were so many women with levels of infertility knowledge that i could only dream of.  I didn't find that on your board.  I was in no way calling anyone dumb....just not as experienced or knowledgeable.

I also never said that my journey was more "traumatizing" than anyone else's.....just more complex.  I was just trying to find out if there are more people out there like me...since i didn't see very much of that.  I will let you know that there are ALOT more people out there like me than you think, and they found some of the same problems with the 2IF board as well.  I would have never known that if not for that post, so at least it had one positive outcome.

Finally, the last thing i wanted to do was stir the pot full of controversy.  I had mentioned that several times.  I think if there are any issues in the future that you would like to share with me, it would probably be best to do over a PM.

You incredibly lucky to be pregnant with number two and extremely fortunate to avoid boxes of needles, meds, loans, and the emotional toll that goes along with IVF.  Be grateful for that and don't let something that gets taken out of context upset you the way it has.

I wish you and your family all the best.

firsttogo

Thanks for your well wishes.  I do want to note however that both of my children were conceived after having to access boxes of needles, meds, loans, and the emotional toll that goes along with INFERTILITY in general. Just because one does not complete the IVF procedure does not mean that we can not understand the pain, and cost (emotional and financial) involved.

Our board is a place for women dealing with all stages of IF. I do remember the beginning of our journey, that TTC with infertility is a grieving process. Each step seems like the worst until you get to the next one. Each woman here has felt pain that relative to her life, is excruciating.

Good luck as you try for number two.