What to say to friend having trouble conceiving?

Tracy1011

A good friend of mine has been TTC for over a year, and she just texted me saying she started her period.  She was almost a week late, so we had high hopes this was her month.

I can almost hear the tears in her text. I wish there was something I could say or do to make this easier, but I know there's not.

She said she's going to ask for a referral to a specialist, and I hope that works for her.  I am just at a loss on what to say. I wish I could make this easier.

I'll probably dd this because who knows?  Maybe she lurks here, but I just wanted some thoughts from anyone with experience with this.

Thanks.

Starr_Mom

I could tell you what not to say, but it sounds like you are very supportive. Basically, just be there for her. Tactfully try to suggest some activities you guys can do to take her mind off of it. GL to her and kudos to you for caring.

summerbrideDC

Just let her know how sorry you are that this month wasn't it and that you'll keep her in your thoughts. ?It's so sweet of you to try to say something to help her, but there's little anyone can say. ?it's just an awful feeling. ?Just offer your support and hugs.?

Hooray2005

I agree with pp's suggestions - often just a simple "I'm so sorry this was wasn't the month - know I'm always thinking of you, and I'm going to let you take the lead to let me know if and when you want to talk about how frustrating this process must be for you.  I'm always here to listen. I don't want to keep bugging you about it, but I also don't want you to think that just because I don't say something that I'm not thinking about you/it."  Keeping it simple and supportive is often the best - that and as FFM said, hugs (if she's that type of person).

There's a million things NOT to say, but the fact that you're asking what to say tells me you're likely being pretty sensitive and that's great - your friend is lucky to have someone like you in her life