Can someone slap my husband?!?

elizatwiz

I am now 8 weeks PG, and my husband has become the biggest ASS!  He doesn't understand that my hormones are going crazy, and that I am exhausted and that the site of leftovers make me vomit!  Last night I asked him to clean the leftovers out of the fridge, because it was garbage day today.  HE. ROLLED. HIS. EYES. AT. ME!!  He said, "I don't understand why you can't just do it...JUST DO IT!  It's mind over matter"  I was so mad at him that I threw a zip lock back of leftover chicken at his head.  I know I probably didn't handle it too well, but I was standing at the refridgerator gagging and getting ZERO support from my husband.  Then, he has the gawl to say to me, "you don't appreciate anything I do, you are a thank-less human being.  Don't you know I worked today?  Isn't that enough for you?  This is exactly what you wanted...you wanted to be pregnant, now deal with it!"  Then he calls me this morning, after I melted down last night about the crumbling status of our marriage, and said, "well, good morning my princess, how did you sleep?" Like, everything was fine...but then he got into it again.  I finally hung up on him, because I was tired of him talking AT me not TO me, and haven't taken a call or text since.  Am I being just emotional or is this legitimate anger.  I know that if his mother or sister or any of his male friends knew he was acting this way, they'd kick his ass for me...but none of them know I'm pregnant.  HELP, I feel so alone!!

2linesin09

I am sorry to hear you are having a rough go of things.  My husband also has a holier than thou attitude about pregnancy in general that is beyond unnerving at times.  Some men don't get it.  They just don't. It is very unfortunate that you have to be subjected to that during what should be a happy go lucky time. Whenever my husband gives me a fuss, I play the I'll tell you're mom that you are being an imbecile card.  My MIL rocks and he knows full well she'd be the first to tell him to shove it.   It's never come to me actually calling his mom or sister about anything, but the thought of it horrifies him so much that I usually get my way. I think this is b/c he sees it through the eyes of his mom as opposed to his own or mine and it snaps him back to reality that he is indeed being a manjerk.  I wish you a peaceful day.  It sounds like you deserve that much today

notelizabeth

1)  update your ticker.

2)  only throw chicken at your DH if it's sealed.  you don't want to create more mess for you (presumably) to clean.

3)  nobody entirely understands m/s, not even pregnant women. 

4)  but he may've realized it was a hormone induced melt down and that's why he was acting nice this morning?  you both could've had a bad day.  next time, leave it in the fridge? 

GL.

 

sunshines baby

your dh sounds like an a$$.  my bf wont even let me help bring the groceries in the house. i try to explain im pregnant not disabled.

S@Bmrsestabrook

I'll slap yours if you slap mine. You're not alone that's for sure. My DH continually says "you're not that pregnant yet." If I gag at the sight or smell of things, or just feel so tired that just the idea of taking our dog out down three flights of stairs makes me exhausted.

Don't hate him to much though. I have older brothers that have a wife and children and from talking to them, they have no clue what women go through. Now that they have kids their attitude has improved, but they admit that guys think we are being big wimps. Additionally I feel like my DH forgets on a regular basis that I am growing our child. Perhaps once I start to show he will have more sympathy. Good luck to you.

Mommy2Gav

My DH didn't "get it" until we went on vacation and he got to witness my 3x daily vomiting. After that, he did a 180 and was a wonderful, understanding husband. ?

elizatwiz

I tried to update my ticker...somehow it didn't work.  The bag was sealed...thank goodness, no mess for me.  And, he is still being an ass today...he just sucks me in to conversation by being sweet at first.  It's his trick...I hate it!!