Am I crazy? Tying tubes.

TexasHarmony

Am I nuts to be tying my tubes after Deux is born?  We are both fine with stopping at 2 kids.  I am obviously not the best birth control pill taker (was on the pill, but missed a few in a row = Deux). 

Mostly, I worry about getting pregnant again.  Six pregnancies under my belt in three years is damned scary.  I also worry about it making me crazier hormonally than I already am...

Any thoughts?  I won't be offended.

M&M614

I always say to each his own. You are the one that wants to have children or not... Do what you and DH feel is best. 

My only thought (and this is so morbid, I realize, but it's how I think) is what if anything ever happened to DH?  And I was remarried?  I would want to leave that door open.

I know, I'm crazy. 

mom2ll

DH is having a vasectomy before the baby is born...  We are done...  It's a much easier procedure for him and I hate to say it, but much cheaper..  He brough it up...  I don't think it's crazy..  I think having more kids that you want/can take care of is crazy...

PAGAS

I would have DH do the vasectomy.  He could always reverse it (per those billboards) if you change your mind.

CindyandScott

Yes you are crazy ; )

When we decide that we are done DH is going to have a vasectomy. It's reversible if we were to change our minds. 

What about instead of the pill getting one of the insertable bc's. I can't for the life of me think of what they are called. The mirena things. 

savannah11

Not crazy. ?We are done at two as well. ?DH is having a vasectomy this year. ?If I was having a c-section I'd consider getting my tubes tied since they'll already be in there.

TexasHarmony

DH is open to a vasectomy.  I am just so afraid of hormonal changes making me nuttier than I already am.

Ering22

You're not crazy I kicked around the idea a lot before Max came. I went with the Paragaurd IUD, it is non hormonal and lasts 10 years. I like it so far.

I couldn't do any hormone related BC due to my BP issues so I only had a few options. Throw in that I'm latex sensitive and it was a no brainer.

aprilprincess

TexasHarmony:

DH is open to a vasectomy.  I am just so afraid of hormonal changes making me nuttier than I already am.

Then I'd consider this over the tubes. It has less complications, is reversible and cheaper. It's also a ton easier recovery wise. Some drs say tubes won't affect you hormones, others admit it changes things for most women.

but as far as either snip after two I think there's nothing crazy about that. If you know 2 is your number there's no reason not to

MrsMGR

I'd just be scared because of how permanent it is. What if, God forbid, you lose a child or both children or as M&M said, you lose your husband and remarry and you change your mind? The permanency of it would freak me out too much. I'll probably be on Nuvaring/Meridia (sp?) til post-menapause just because it scares me to think of not being able to go back and change my mind.

TexasHarmony

MrsMGR:

I'd just be scared because of how permanent it is. What if, God forbid, you lose a child or both children or as M&M said, you lose your husband and remarry and you change your mind? The permanency of it would freak me out too much. I'll probably be on Nuvaring/Meridia (sp?) til post-menapause just because it scares me to think of not being able to go back and change my mind.

That is what my aunt says to do.  She lost her daughter about 3 weeks after she was born due to really, really bad heart defects (no idea from the ultrasounds) and she had already tied her tubes.  She had a reversal and has another child, but she is really riding me not to tie mine just in case.

I need to ask more about an IUD at my appointment tomorrow. 

melissa0312

i'd have your dh get a vasectomy. its much easier to reverse if you change your mind, and a much easier procedure than having your tubes tied.

we're not sure of whether or not we're going to have our own "deux", but we do know when we'll try if we decide, and we've given ourselves a cut off date, at which point dh will be getting snipped.

houstonkdw

Hey...when you know, you know.  No flames here. 

KellyMichelle

I think that as long as you feel like your family is complete and are making your decision based on logical thinking then you should do it.  If it is just a fear of another pregnancy too soon or an emotionally based decision then you should give it a year and then have your DH have a vasectomy.

When DS was born (at 26 weeks) I said I was done and would never have another baby.  I asked for a tubal.  While i'm still not 100% sure that I will have another biological baby I am so glad that my doctor didn't agree to do the surgery.

april16

Not at all and I would like to do this.

I am in my late 30's and worry about having any more. It took us almost a year to get pregnant with our first.

I am ok with having just one along with my SS that lives with us and is 12.

You have to do what is best for you and your family.

tzrbug

No you are NOT nuts and certainly not alone! It's a great option but I really don't know much so tell me how your hormones will be affected?

 

I think it sounds great and fool proof and hey if you really want #3, you can retie them I think. If we do have DC#2 and have a c-sec again (which i really don't want to!) then that's my plan to have them tied while he's in there

I think you're due a break from being pregnant again