when do i tell?

superkaty

i have told a few friends and family members, so i am sure the news has already spread like wildfire that i am pregnant.  but i am curious, when is the "appropriate" time to make this wide-spread news?  we just went off birth control recently to start talking about having kids, and bam!  i'm preggo!  so i guess what i am asking is, when can i feel free to tell anyone and everyone without worry that it is considered too soon? after the ultrasound this week?  after hearing the heartbeat?

 this is our first, so i am kind of new to this...and very excited!

Sept2009Baby

Uh oh.

jhelly77

You should tell on March 28th at 1:25 in the afternoon.

Baby V's Mommy

Oh boy...I wouldn't read further if I were you.  It's ass-handing time.

JCM052707

Do people really think there is some law or rule about this shiit? Tell when you feel like it. Makes no difference to any of us or anyone else.

And you're not preggo, you're pregnant. 

lanabeth86

Let the snarking begin!

BlairWaldorf

jhelly77:

You should tell on March 28th at 1:25 in the afternoon.

This, in accordance with the prophecy.?

JCM052707

jhelly77:

You should tell on March 28th at 1:25 in the afternoon.

 

kimmie321

It is up to you. However, I recommend waiting as long as possible to tell people at work and distant family members. My plan is to wait until 16 weeks to tell everyone. Having been through a m/c, it sucks to untell anyone even family members, so my choice has been to keep it secret.  

roxyu

...if I had a nickel...

 

Quick put your vag up against the screen and Blair will tell you if you're having a boy or a girl.

superkaty

whoa, sorry.  i get it, i get it.  i'm obviously new to this!  no need to continue, i get it.  no more posts for me! 

BlairWaldorf

superkaty:

whoa, sorry.? i get it, i get it.? i'm obviously new to this!? no need to continue, i get it.? no more posts for me!?

dude, just laugh. ?It's meant to be funny. ?If you can hang, we'd love for you to stay.?

Sequoyah Shoars

BlairWaldorf:

superkaty:

whoa, sorry.  i get it, i get it.  i'm obviously new to this!  no need to continue, i get it.  no more posts for me! 

dude, just laugh.  It's meant to be funny.  If you can hang, we'd love for you to stay. 

this.

superkaty

oh i'm laughing - at how even though i thought i had read quite a few posts before asking, i obviously should have waited.  i'm always the sarcastic one in the group, so i guess this is very, very well-deserved.  i knew something was wrong when i read "uh-oh" as the very first response.

i'll just hold off before i ask any other questions for a while - or just read a little bit more first...

orleyl

Telling is a personal decision. So it is really when u feel comfortable, alot of people like to wait till 2nd tri. I told my family and 2 close friends right away, i think I will hold out until I start showing. Dont let people being snarky bother u, its just how it is here. Dont take it personally.

nikkinack1

I am going to try and wait till I am 12-14 weeks

jhelly77

You sound like you have a good attitude about it.  At least you didn't shoot off a second post whining about how evil people are.  And you write legibly.  I think you'll do well here.  Just lurk for awhile.

BlairWaldorf

superkaty:

oh i'm laughing - at how even though i thought i had read quite a few posts before asking, i obviously should have waited.? i'm always the sarcastic one in the group, so i guess this is very, very well-deserved.? i knew something was wrong when i read "uh-oh" as the very first response.

i'll just hold off before i ask any other questions for a while - or just read a little bit more first...

You seem very smart & fun. ?Methinks you will catch on quickly & enjoy yourself on here ?

superkaty

thanks for the advice everyone...i'll stay in lurk-mode a bit longer, may peek out of my shell in a few days.  i'm enjoying the information thus far!

TarheelsInNJ

Just FYI for future, this type of post falls under the "we don't know and can't tell you" category. There are a few like that ("Am I Pregnant?" being the biggest culprit!). 

It's totally fine to ask other ladies what they have done, but as far as what YOU should do, that's really a personal decision. We don't know you IRL so it's hard to say!

Generally speaking, the risk of miscarriage decreases after you hear a heartbeat, and even more after the 1st trimester. But whether you want to tell if it's still "risky" is up to you.