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BelleBaby

What are the most annoying things people do/say to you when they find out you're having multiples?

One of my favs is that look that people get when I say my due date.  They look at me like I'm doing nothing but eat b/c I'm so big.  As soon as I say it's twins, that look goes away!  I also hate answering "Do twins run in your family?" and "Are you going have a C-section?"  I kind of understand the first question, but the 2nd on is none of their business! 

I know most of them are just curiosities, but they get a little annoying after answering the same questions a thousand times!  Maybe I'm just easily bothered (DH seems to think so!).

Andrea Isaacs

I hate when they say "You are going to have your hands full"  and when they laugh, and say "Good Luck with that one, poor girl"

RoAnt05

Going with what you said about "the look" I hate that I get that look when I say Im due in April and then when I tell them its twins they say "wow your tiny for twins".  Then I hate it when people say "well if its twins you will def. have a c-section right?"  Ummm, WTF would make you think that??

heathb21

Oh I hate those questions too!  Geez. I've had people ask me if I'm going to breastfeed and how that might be hard with 2 babies, because their wife had a hard time with one!  Or they just automatically assume I'm not coming back to work.

pea-kay

kind of off the subject, but "you've got your hands full" makes me nuts. esp like last night, i was in the grocery store parking lot with two boys. i was trying to figure out how i was going to get them in the racing car cart that was across the parking lot without leaving them alone in the car. so i managed to get them both in my arms, along with my purse, and some &$%# woman says "you've got your hands full!" without offering to help or stopping or anything.

let's just state the obvious, woman. because i quite literally had my hands full at that moment. ugh.

jennyvag

The most annoying thing for me is when people say "get your sleep in now, because when those babies come, you're never going to sleep again."

Really?!  People don't sleep after children come?!  Come on...women do it every day.   I'm prepared, but thank you for your concern :-)

#6

I CANT stand the "Oh, Im glad its you and not me"  My SIL says this every.single.time.she.sees.me and I want to choke her. 

Quiet frankly, Im glad it is me and not half the people who make this comment.  Why do people see having multiples as a curse?  People make this comment to me a lot because ds is only 1yr 10days older than the girls.  It just drives me insane.  I love all of my kids and their age spacing.  It wasnt planned but we are just blessed to have 3 healthy kids. 

When ppl make that comment I have gotten to the point where I respond with a snarky "Im glad its me and not you as well" and they get the point most of the time.  One lady apologized.  She said she felt dumb after she said it and actually thought about it.   

Oh and I wont get started on all the dumb questions.  I hate the 20 personal q's about my kids.  Esp the identical part. 

But when I was actually pg with them people would make comments like, "youre too small to be carrying twins, are you sure there are 2 of them in there"  (my answere, yeah, Im not blind, there are 2 in all the ultrasounds pictures) 

Or "you are so tiny to be having twins, I bet they will be sick and spend a lot of time in the NICU when they are born"  (that was the most rude and I jsut walked away.  It was a coworker)   

Then there was "You arent very big, are you sure you are eating?"  (she was implying I was anorexic and actually spread rumors at work that I was)  I made a point to eat all kinds of junk infront of her.  She was on a diet and I could tell she was jealous I was able to eat junk and not gain weight.   I just had a hard time puttig on weight no matter what I ate or how much I ate.  I ran out of room for them and they couldnt grow because of the restricted space.  They were born at 36wks only at 4lbs 8.5 oz each. 

Then a friend of mine said "you cant be having twins, you cant afford the one youve got now"  (yeah, that sent me throught he roof.  I had never once shared any of mine and dh financial info with her.  We were doing fine too.  We had just found out 2-3 days before hand that it was twins and I was showing her the ultrasound.  She is very judemental.  I just turned around and walked away.  Later she asked me what was wrong and I let her have it.  She never has brought up money to me again.  We make it work and its none of her business how. 

I think tha tis all.  I stil get a lot of rude comments and questions.  Most have to do with my size or age.  (only 22 when the girls were born so I had 3 under 13 months at the time of their birth)

 

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I either don't get too many stupid comments- or i'm just not sensitive to them - b/c i fee like the only one i get is "are they natural" or "did you do fertility" or "do they run in your family"?, etc... which I don't mind answering- b/c I'm very open that we took clomid - did for DS, too.  I just say "these are clomid babies".

one time a friend (who also had IF issues) said "twins? all by yourself?" and i was like, uh, no, DH was involved... duh - she meant to say "did you have help/IF, etc" but it came out wrong.

I get asked a lot if they are ID or frat - which we do know. (frat).

I also get asked if it's my first - and then when i say I have a 21mo, too they say "woah!!! you'll be busy!". but are genearlly really happy and sweet about it.

maybe b/c here in the NJ/NYC area IF is sooo common (b/c most women wait until they are older) there are just more sensitive people about it- who knows- i know i never really get annoyed.

shady06

I agree with all of you!  I also like the general "how are you going to manage with three little ones?" and the "you're going to be broke" comments.  Nothing like a little support from people, huh?!?    I also love the "so are you going to try for a girl?" question--um, no.  Three kids is going to keep me plenty busy and I'm glad my son will have brothers.

One thing I hate is when people say "I wouldn't want to be you."  Really?  How tacky is that?  You wouldn't want three little boys who love and adore you?!?  People pray for children every day and I feel blessed that we are fortunate in the family department. 

Empwr

i had all of the abov. omg its like everyone has the same thing to say.one i really hate is did you use IF. firstof all i dont think thats anyone business unless you want to tell them but second im 21.