42 and just had a miscarriage at 8weeks

knottiec8591f0f3d1bfa5b

My SO and I have been having unprotected sex for the last 12 months. We were not doing anything special other than not using protection and figured I we were to have a baby at my age then it would be meant to be. One my 12th cycle I became pregnant. I was immediately excited and wanted the baby. I then miscarried last week. Since then I have been obsessed with the thought of getting pregnant again and having a baby. I have been reading anything and everything about improving my chances. It took us 12 months last time. I just don’t know why I had such an easy going mindset about it before and now it’s all I want to have a baby. Do you guys think since it took so long in the first place and my age that I probably won’t get pregnant and if so carry to term? I am going to continue my prenatal vitamins and get my BMI into the healthy range as right now I am overweight.

Edit: I also wanted to add this is the first time in my life I have tried to get pregnant and my first pregnancy.

shey829

Sorry for your loss. It could be a number of factors, including just to the right timing. After trying for 12mos they always advise to see a doctor. It's actually 6 months after age 36. 

knottiea9cb6cc4809b7777

I understand where youre coming from, my miscarriage ramped up my desire for a baby too. So were you actually trying fir 12 months, like being sure to have sex during your predicted ovulation window and/or tracking ovulation?

littlestepss

Hi, I’m sorry to hear about your journey. For women 35 and younger, it’s recommended to try for 12 months before seeking medical advice. However, for those over 35, that timeframe shortens to 6 months—meaning if pregnancy hasn’t happened within that period, it’s a good idea for both partners to see a doctor for testing. It’s also important to remember that male factors contribute to infertility in about 40% of cases. Running tests will give you a clear picture of where you stand and what steps to take next. Websites like Fertility Road and My IVF Answers have a lot of helpful information on both female and male infertility, as well as ways to improve your chances. But testing should always be the first step before exploring treatment options.

HopefulMamax4

Definitely seek help... fertility clinics aren't the one answer, but they can monitor your cycles and prescribe progesterone support, check your egg stores, make sure neither of your tube's are blocked, test sperm function, etc... if it's not one of those problems move on to a different type of dr as a fertility clinic mainly focuses on the ovaries.