??? PLEASE ANYONE. Am I miscarrying?

aylababy24

I am currently pregnant after 2 losses. I'm around 4 weeks. We had two First Response positive pregnancy tests(digital and 2 pink lines) on March 29th, 2024. I had a cold at the time(coughing, sneezing, achy, low fever) so my pregnancy symptoms seemed exacerbated... but then suddenly on April 1st I started cramping(30mins) with light bleeding the following evening. Both bleeding and cramping stopped shortly after they began, but I'm TERRIFIED that I may have miscarried, especially because now that I'm over my cold, I no longer notice any of the fatigue, nausea, frequent urination, etc. that I had before the cramping/light bleeding

Any thoughts or experiences you have to share would be much appreciated😥

annemarie96

Symptoms can come and go, so try not to stress about that aspect. I know that is HARD. 
I've had 5 mc, and 4 of them I had significant cramping and bleeding. Like a period, minimum. 1-2 were like extremely heavy periods. I did have 1 mc where the bleeding was much lighter, and that was my latest mc, at 9 weeks. I thought because the bleeding stopped so quickly it was fine. I thought surely if chemicals had been so much more blood then this 9 wk one would be obvious. I lived in China and didn't have medical care, so I didn't know for a long time that the baby was gone. Symptoms can actually persist after a mc too, as hormones go back down. 

I should also say that I've had exactly what you're describing with 2-3 of my pregnancies that never mc! Everything was fine!

I just give that context to say that it sounds like you're good, but please don't just assume so. Definitely go in about 6-7 weeks to confirm that baby is still there. We finally got that loss confirmed at 16 weeks and that was veeerry confusing emotionally. 
That's just my 2 cents! I do think your baby is probably just fine in there and happy and healthy! 

annemarie96

Also, I just want to encourage you. I've had 5 mc and 3 beautiful children that we got to meet and watch grow. It helped me so much in my healing when I realized my grief could be just for me. I didn't hurt the babies I lost. They were snuggled and comfy inside me until they stopped growing. They never knew suffering when they passed. 
So I can grieve for me, and our family, but that is much easier to bear. I don't fear mc so much anymore. I love every baby that I get to hold, even for a short time. 
Of course this mentality is so much easier once you do have a child in your arms to hold when you're losing a later pregnancy. I did have our first son after only one chemical, so I didn't have to go through many before having a healthy baby. 
But anyway, I hope this is helpful? 
I'm so sorry for your losses and all the anxiety that brings. It is very difficult to navigate, and I'm sorry you're in this with us. I hope your sweet baby grows so fat and strong!