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laminahk
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TW - Pregnant 1 year on from Missed M/C
laminahk
Just Joined
Hello everyone!
Please be aware of the potential trigger warning, as I don’t want to add to anybody’s potential anxiety.
I’m almost positive a lot of people will have gone through the same situation I’m in, so I’m really hopeful people could share some words of advice / comfort.
Last year I had a missed miscarriage. I only found out at 13 weeks at the first dating scan - which was something we had been so excited for.
We waited until I was 12 weeks before we told friends / family the news, as I knew the first trimester held some risk of miscarrying and 12 weeks was usually the point to share the news.
I had NO signs something was wrong. I had morning sickness & a small bump growing. I never had any pains or spotting. I was taking all my vitamins / supplements, living / eating a healthy. balanced lifestyle and diet. As far as we were aware, everything was fine.
To be so blindsided in finding out that our baby had passed away a few weeks before was an indescribable pain. I also felt a lot of guilt and confusion. My body still thought it was pregnant.
It took a lot for us to move on from.
1 year on, I’m delighted to say that we are now expecting again. :smile: We waited around 8 months before trying to conceive again.
However this time, I am riddled with anxiety and constant fear. It’s something I cannot get over or stop thinking about.
There is nothing I can do (other than take supplements, eat a healthy balanced diet, no smoking, alcohol, caffeine, etc) that can avoid a potential M/C again. I really looked after myself the first time around and I am so scared to go through what we went through again.
I’m struggling to enjoy any part of it, even though I know stress will not help my baby.
We have booked to get an early 8 week well-being scan, for peace of mind.
But I constantly feel like I am just waiting to hit that date and see the baby; I’m not enjoying myself or living in the moment.
Is there anybody else who has gone through something similar who can offer some advice or comfort? Did you end up having a healthy baby the second time around? What can I do to help feel better about things?
Thank you so much in advance and I hope this hasn’t made any first time expecting mothers feel concerned. Xx
Please be aware of the potential trigger warning, as I don’t want to add to anybody’s potential anxiety.
I’m almost positive a lot of people will have gone through the same situation I’m in, so I’m really hopeful people could share some words of advice / comfort.
Last year I had a missed miscarriage. I only found out at 13 weeks at the first dating scan - which was something we had been so excited for.
We waited until I was 12 weeks before we told friends / family the news, as I knew the first trimester held some risk of miscarrying and 12 weeks was usually the point to share the news.
I had NO signs something was wrong. I had morning sickness & a small bump growing. I never had any pains or spotting. I was taking all my vitamins / supplements, living / eating a healthy. balanced lifestyle and diet. As far as we were aware, everything was fine.
To be so blindsided in finding out that our baby had passed away a few weeks before was an indescribable pain. I also felt a lot of guilt and confusion. My body still thought it was pregnant.
It took a lot for us to move on from.
1 year on, I’m delighted to say that we are now expecting again. :smile: We waited around 8 months before trying to conceive again.
However this time, I am riddled with anxiety and constant fear. It’s something I cannot get over or stop thinking about.
There is nothing I can do (other than take supplements, eat a healthy balanced diet, no smoking, alcohol, caffeine, etc) that can avoid a potential M/C again. I really looked after myself the first time around and I am so scared to go through what we went through again.
I’m struggling to enjoy any part of it, even though I know stress will not help my baby.
We have booked to get an early 8 week well-being scan, for peace of mind.
But I constantly feel like I am just waiting to hit that date and see the baby; I’m not enjoying myself or living in the moment.
Is there anybody else who has gone through something similar who can offer some advice or comfort? Did you end up having a healthy baby the second time around? What can I do to help feel better about things?
Thank you so much in advance and I hope this hasn’t made any first time expecting mothers feel concerned. Xx