Anyone of "advanced age"??

kelly_mom_mimi

Hi, this is my first post. I am 9 weeks 6 days as of today and due 10/4. I had my betas checked for 2 weeks to watch the numbers rise. I had my first scan the first of Feb and a sac was visible, a week later there was a heart beat of 122 at 6 weeks 3 days. I had a positive at home test a week before I turned 46 years old 😱. To say I was shocked is an understatement as we definitely were not trying and considering our age didn't think it would happen after 1 time lol. We have 3 grown kids 27,22,21. We have a 4 year old grandson and my oldest and his wife announced a few weeks ago they are expecting their first get this..... Oct 3rd.
I am still trying to get used to the idea this is real, aside from constant nausea, bloated, sore and elarged breasts reminding me daily 😁.
I have my q-natal test this Friday and another visit and ultrasound the end of the month.
Is anyone else considered "advanced maternal age*?
We haven't told many not even our kids yet. 

krysnicole1022

I'm 36. I'm technically AMA according to my doctor. This will be my fourth baby. My others are 8,5, and almost 4. I'm due 10/18.

merostomata

@kelly_mom_mimi I just wanted to say congratulations and that's an amazing story! And SO special that your grandchild would be born right around the same time as your new baby. I can't wait for you to tell your kids...let us know what they say 

rin_dancing

I’m technically in here too at 38. I’ll be close to 39 when the baby is born (assuming all goes as planned!). My partner has two kids from previous relationships (both preteens) and really wanted a third in a stable relationship where he didn’t have to negotiate custody or lose out on days and weeks with his kids. He absolutely loooooooves being a dad so that’s very reassuring. So anyway, we thought we’d try to see what happened and BAM pregnant on the first try. I’m about to enter week 8 and still shocked. Plus my symptoms are fairly mild which makes it easy to believe I’m not *really* pregnant no matter what all those tests said…… lol. I wanted to be a mom all throughout my teens and 20s but when I turned 30 and then turned 35 and wasn’t in a serious relationship at either milestone (met my partner about 5 months into 35) I gave up on the idea. My family tends to marry young and have kids young so I have no familial models for “older” motherhood. But here I am!!! So wild. Trying to stay positive amidst all the negative stats and remember that I am not a statistic. First US is in a week and a half and I’m just hoping for all good news!!!! 

And all good news for all of us in these “geriatric pregnancies” (which is honestly the worst name…😂). I totally understand not telling people yet. We haven’t told our parents, kids or siblings either. I feel like I want to settle into this new reality myself first before being bombarded with other people’s feelings and hopes about it. 

longawaitedbfp

Hi all! I'm 9 weeks and 3 days... And I'm 39 yrs old. First pregnancy. I'll be almost 40 when the baby is due, baby is due 10/8 and I'm 40 on 12/02. I didn't want to wait this long, it's just what God's plan was i guess. We were ttc for 10 years so... Can't tell you how blessed we feel... Or how scared! But all is good so far. My OB wants me to see a high risk doctor because we conceived thru ivf and my age... I get it. I honestly don't think anything is wrong. I really hate being called geriatric! I wish they had another term they could use that didn't make me feel like a grandma. 😂

EmilyE13

I’m 39 and will be 40 when this kiddo arrives. Sounds like we have a good set of AMA moms in this group!

And if any OB or OB nurse refers to me or my pregnancy as geriatric, I will lose my sh*t. 

bows22

I’m 38 and will be 39 when the baby is born! I was 33-34 with my last baby so I’m curious to see how things will be different this time. So far my RE hasn’t made a big deal about it at all. 

Heathereaddy

Hi! I’m 37 and will be 38 when the baby is born! We had our daughter at 32. 

lenita76

Hi! Yes! I am 45 - turning 46 this month. Have our first Ultrasound scheduled for Thursday at 9 weeks. 

We have a 3 year old (turning 4 next month) that I had a month after I turned 42. 

Aside from my spouse, I haven’t told anyone as well. I’ve been pretty quiet and just taking it day by day. Hesitant about getting too excited because everything I read seems to be negative: either suggesting high rate of miscarriage, “poor egg quality” and other issues at this age. I wish there were more positive and inspirational reads out there for women who find themselves pregnant in “advanced ages”. 

Thank you so much for sharing your story! I thought I was probably the only 40+ on here. I don’t feel ‘alone’ now. Stay blessed. 😊

catDec15

Me! I’m 41 and this was completely unexpected. I had my daughter when I was 35, which was already considered AMA. And after a couple of years of having baby fever, I had honestly come to terms- and ultimately happy- with having just my one. 

Given my history of miscarriage (two before the birth of my daughter), age, weight, PCOS, I’ve been bracing for the worst. I had a bleed at 6 weeks but everything seemed okay (they saw a baby and measured a heartbeat!), but my next scan isn’t until next week and I just can’t help but be completely anxious about it. We’ve only told 2 people, out of necessity, but not comfortable with announcing it to the world yet, or even with allowing myself to get excited. Sigh. Such conflicting emotions, adding to the concern of possible complications. 
Also glad to see I’m not alone  

krysnicole1022

I had four miscarriages between September and January. I'm incredibly fortunate that my new OB understands my anxiety and has me coming in for ultrasounds every two weeks. I just turned 36 but for the women in my family reproducing I'm ancient. I'm the only one who has had kids after age 30! I'm incredibly nervous because I had another doctor (I fired her) tell me that I should just go get IVF because I probably have bad eggs. My anxiety is through the roof. I told two of my friends. I had an ultrasound last week at 6 weeks and 6 days and everything was measuring exactly on schedule for now and the heartbeat was very strong. 
 Anyone else considering getting the DNA test for gender early? I did it with my second and third. Not sure about it this time. Since it's my last for sure I might just want to wait until 20 weeks. 

randomoasis

I’m advanced age myself. I’ll be 39 in a week and a half, and this will be our first child.

autumnlore

You ladies are giving me hope! I always wanted a big family, but thought between my age and my PCOS I'd be lucky to get pregnant at all. I'm 10w1d with my very first (also 10/4 EDD), and I'll turn 37 on 10/26. I hope I’m able to give this little gummybear a sibling or two. Congratulations, ladies!

magic_lentil

I’m 38 and will be within weeks of 39 when the baby is born.  This is our first my husband and I are both super cautious when it comes to making big decisions but finally we decided that if want to have kids we needed To stop thinking about it and just go for it, we’ll probably never feel totally “prepared”.  My two younger sisters have both had issues conceiving so part of me worried that after agonizing over whether/when to have kids, we might not even have the option at all.  We were super lucky and got pregnant on the 2nd cycle.  Reading the statistics as far as all the different complications that have higher rates the older you are, it’s hard not to worry.  So glad someone started this thread!

cieren04

Yes! I'm 42, will be 43 when the baby is born. We went through IVF, so it was planned - we'd been focused on our marriage and careers, and only realized that kids were something we wanted in the last couple of years. So glad to see some "older" moms-to-be out there!

kelly_mom_mimi

I am glad to see all of us in here. I have to say I am still in shock and feel like I have already passed so many hurtles that I am not going to focus on the long list of possible more hurtles, pregnancy has so many potential hurtles as it is.  I do know I am definitely more exhausted this time around already hoping that and the nausea eases as the 2nd trimester nears closer.

It looks like a couple of us have the same due date 😁 how exciting!!!

Does anyone have any visits coming up soon? I have my genetics test on Friday and will go ahead and find out the gender. 

Have a healthy and happy day everyone!! 

g_gabs71016

I’m “advanced maternal age.” I’m 37 and will be 38 when this baby is born. This is my third though, my first was at 32, second at 35. I was treated as AMA for my second and they just recommended genetic testing and didn’t let me go past my due date. I agree: please don’t call me “geriatric” hahaha. I think for me this is it so I’m trying to enjoy all the weirdness of pregnancy. We are not planning on another, but I guess never say never after reading this thread!

g_gabs71016

@krysnicole1022 I found out gender early at 12 weeks with genetic testing for my first two kids. It was kind of weird to learn the gender via a voicemail and a lab report. 😂

This time we decided to wait and be team green. It is nice to know but I am also excited to just find out day of.

Side note: I also ended up with so much gender specific stuff from family that I like the idea of not knowing so things are more neutral and can be used with multiple kids. That said I still dress my son in pink hand me downs (coat, boots, pajamas - no way I’m buying that more than once if I don’t have to).

rin_dancing

My first US is the 17th. It’s been a long wait! But excited to get some concrete information soon.

I plan to also be team green. I like the mystery and would much rather be gifted gender natural stuff. That way, regardless of how my kid decides to present their gender as the progress through life, they’ll always have baby pics they can feel a connection too. 💚

marmarrod

I’m 40 and will be nearing 41 when baby arrives. This is our first baby and my first pregnancy. We’ve been trying for two and a half years so I’m still in shock as we had pretty much given up hope. I’m due Oct 7 and so far so good. I’m still nervous with my age and wondering why it took so long to conceive (all my fertility testing came back normal).  I’m getting genetic testing done next week. So glad to see I’m not alone with my AMA!

mamajen1329

I just turned 36 on Tuesday,  when I told my SO that I was considered a "geriatric" pregnancy- he asked if his sister was considered a jurassic pregnancy (my lord 😳)  I told him to never utter those words again and especially not to his sister who is 38... She just delivered her little girl on January 6th. 
I had a pregnancy in my teens that did not go to term.  So this is my first to term baby 🤞 I have manifested the crap out of wanting twins since this will be the one and only time we do this.  My SO has a 17yo that he adopted from his ex wife and a 12yo daughter that we have every other week.  He wants a son to carry his bloodline.  I have Uncles on my mom's side that were twins, and although it doesn't matter for him,  his dad and uncle were identical twins. 
We plan on doing the sneak peek test this next week at 8 weeks. I also have my first US on the 14th. 
For all you mommy's in your 40's - my mom was a week shy of being 42 when she had me,  she did just fine.  I just lost my dad on the 13th of February and found out I was pregnant the morning of his funeral on the 17th. He was 75. I got nearly 36 years with him - your babies will have a great life and time with you ❤ 

kelly_mom_mimi

@mamajen1329 "your babies will have a great life and time with you ❤ "

This is actually a fear I have, especially since we 3 adult children, that this one will not get the best of me and my husband and won't get long enough with us as there parents if that makes sense.

Congratulations to you and you so.

mamajani

Congratulations to all beautiful mama's.
I am 41 and 9 weeks today with my second.
My son is 16 will be 17 by the time baby comes. Suffered through second fertility for 16 years. I couldn't believe it when I saw a positive test. Hoping all will be ok and I will have a healthy baby. My husband and son are beyond excited. We have not shared this news with anyone yet. 

jayc21

I'm 42, still early at 5 weeks, but here for all of it! Like someone said above, it's just so hard reading about everything that could potentially go wrong! I want to hear all the positives, especially knowing that this will be my last time....PERIOD! I had a miscarriage in November, but was always told that the pregnancy after the miscarriage is usually the one to stick. I'm sticking with that. So far, I had 2 quants done. My first was a 241 but my 2nd, 3 days later was 2303. That calmed my nerves a lot. I'm not scheduled for my 1st OB appt until April 4th. I have 2 children; a 20 yo daughter and an 11 yo son. So I'm ready for my baby and really excited. Congrats to all you mamas!!

jayc21

knottie3700e2a15af7343a said:

Congratulations to all beautiful mama's.
I am 41 and 9 weeks today with my second.
My son is 16 will be 17 by the time baby comes. Suffered through second fertility for 16 years. I couldn't believe it when I saw a positive test. Hoping all will be ok and I will have a healthy baby. My husband and son are beyond excited. We have not shared this news with anyone yet. 

I just read one of your posts and was wondering how things were going for you. Very glad to see that things are well. Congrats to you!

knottief8005a334bc9f815

Congrats to everyone! Thanks for sharing your stories. I am 39 and will be 39 almost 40 when I have this peanut. It is my first and I’m excited but scared as all heck.. all I think about is high risk it’s paralyzing to be honest. I feel blessed to have been given this gift and I want to make sure I do all I can to have a healthy baby.. any advise on how to not stress out so much I’m open to it all.. we are all blessed and I hope everyone a beautiful day..

mamajani

Thank you. When it happens after so long you are scared everyday. I had two scans so far baby had a strong heart beat both times. Had slight spotting that really scared me. I have my first appt next week. Living one day at a time. I am grateful for this blessing but very scared. Definitely a different experience from my first. 

bows22

Just wanted to share this link since a couple of you still have “knottie” usernames!

https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12765292/change-your-knottie-username

krysnicole1022

@g_gabs71016
 I have two girls and a boy already so I have every possible thing I could need either way.
 I asked my husband's opinion and he was just like "we need to know but when doesn't matter." I might ask the doctor to write it down and put it in an envelope like we did with our second. We waited until later to open it after it proved that the baby would not cooperate during an ultrasound. 
 My daughter suffers from extreme and debilitating anxiety, like so bad she can barely handle birthdays and Christmas so she would need to know anyway. She does not like surprises. 

mlkelly716

I will be 37 when our baby is born. Our kids will be 14 and 10 when they get their little sibling. I’m actually loving the age gap. 

rin_dancing

@mlkelly716   My step kids will be 12 and 13 and I think it’s going to be perfect. ♥️ 

EmilyE13

@mlkelly716 @rin_dancing built in babysitters!!

g_gabs71016

For those of you with big age differences, I was 10 almost 11 when my brother was born and I think it was fine! I was also a built in babysitter I was thrilled to pieces when he came along too.

magic_lentil

What is everyone’s testing plan?  I’m going in for my 2nd dr visit this morning and am at precisely 10 weeks today.  I definitely plan on requesting cell-free dna testing but then am torn on CVS vs amnio.  I like that CVS can be done earlier (like now); but amnio tests for more things.  I don’t know that I want to do both since both have a very slight risk of inducing miscarriage.

bows22

@magic_lentil I’m planning to do the NIPT and I don’t plan on doing anything else unless that would come back high risk. I haven’t really heard of those other tests being done just for being AMA? Did your doctor recommend them?

krthouse

@magic_lentil the NIPT factors maternal age into the odds it gives you, so that can be a helpful indicator to get more testing if your risk is flagged as high

kelly_mom_mimi

I had the nipt q-natal done last week at 10 weeks 4 days. My doctor said they don't recommend the cvs or amnio unless something comes back at higher risk in the blood test. I go again on the 31st for an ultrasound and visit. She did say I will see a high-risk doctor for my 20 week anatomy scan and will return to her unless I am at a risk for something.

magic_lentil

Thanks for the responses!  I had the blood drawn for the NIPT scan and then I think we’ll wait to see how that comes back before doing anything invasive.  I have the nuchal translucency test in two weeks but my dr said it’s taking 2-3 weeks to get results from NIPT scan right now so we may or may not have the results before the NT.  I’m also struggling with pretty severe anemia so looking forward to getting the test results on the vitamin panel to start to see what’s causing it.

quani_love

Same I'm 38 now turning 39 next week, with a soon to be 7yr old. My due date is october 20! Super nervous since my daughter was a 23 weeker. 

Aycul18

I just turned 35 about a month ago, so technically considered AMA. I definitely have way more anxiety this time around than I did with my 8 y/o.

krysnicole1022

@Aycul18 I turned 36 in January. I'm so anxious about absolutely everything. I wasn't like this with my 8 year old or my almost 4 year old. They throw so much scary stuff at you after 35. I was like this with my five year old but she was a threatened miscarriage so that's why.