WTF Wednesday

kboydbowman

jhysmath

I planned a fun activity for my students, we just learned about inductive reasoning to start our proof unit so I thought doing escape rooms would be fun. The first group were all butt heads and just spammed their buttons until they got the answers instead of thinking, it makes me never want to do anything fun with them and just force notes and worksheets because they never actually participate. 

trapperkeeper87

@jhysmath That's gotta be so annoying as a teacher. Could you maybe have some kind of negative outcome if they get a question wrong, or something similar? I'm having pregnancy brain today, but hopefully that makes some kind of sense.

jhysmath

@trapperkeeper87 I think their negative out come is going to be they get notes and move on tomorrow, and my other class in going to allow them to work together to create their own escape room. It's going to suck not having them at the same place planning wise, but I think my second group would really enjoy that. 

theblondebump

Ok wtf - I am literally 3 days away from the second trimester and my morning nausea is turning into full blown morning throwing up, why am I feeling WORSE and not BETTER? 😩 

komamommy

@theblondebump I’m so sorry to hear this! I think the idea of it ending with the second trimester is not applicable to many women. I think the hormones peak between 9 and 12 weeks and then it takes some time to taper off. I was sick well into the second trimester with two pregnancies. Without medication I was still vomiting at 17 weeks with my daughter. It feels like such a tease to say it ends at 12/13 weeks! 

theblondebump

Ughhhh @komamommy I had extremely minimal morning sickness with my first pregnancy, no actual throwing up, and it was definitely all gone by this point and I felt like my normal self bleh. Not a fan! 

lalarose22

@theblondebump I read that breastfeeding while pregnant can sometimes make the nausea worse. Maybe that's it!? Sorry you are feeling so sick!

komamommy

@lalarose22 Yes! I am breastfeeding my 13 month old and it really does bring waves of intense nausea. 

kboydbowman

So Kaiser in this part of the world is currently back to "no one allowed at appointments, even ultrasounds."  So boy person will not get to be at the ultrasound.  Ugh.

theblondebump

@lalarose22 @komamommy that sounds about right!!! It’s def worst in the morning when I BF the most 

theblondebump

@kboydbowman ugh that sucks! I’m sorry! 

lalarose22

@theblondebump I was fine all day yesterday until I BF my LO after dinner. I felt SO nauseous after. I'm doing the "don't offer, don't refuse" gentle weaning approach with him. I really hope I can continue to let him take the lead and the nausea doesn't get worse! 

jhysmath

@lalarose22 I was in the don't offer don't refuse but I'm just getting so done so if she asks out of our routine I say no it's not one of your times and try to distract her. So if we don't go home after work she misses out on the afternoon nursing and we only do bed time. I really was hoping to nurse until she was 2, I only made it to 22 months with her sister because I needed a break before having her. I don't think I'm going to make it that far with this one. I think once I know this is viable I will look at complete weaning because I'm just getting so touched out, which I didn't believe was something I would have ever thought possible. 

trapperkeeper87

@jhysmath I had to stop completely with my daughter less than 2 weeks before she turned 2. My cycles weren't regulating (I'm falling going from fairly regular before I got pregnant with her to about 60 days long) and I was about to start my period, so the extra sensation was just way too much for me and was making me angry. My body is hyper sensitive to everything - smells, feelings, energies, sound, etc. ‐ and I honestly hate it. I didn't even get my period back for 16 months after she was born! 

komamommy

I am so relieved to hear I am not alone with breastfeeding and being pregnant. I feel so torn between my 13 month old who LOVES nursing and my need for space. At this point I already associate nursing with nausea which leaves me not looking forward to it. If we wean I want it to be really a gentle process though. Right now nighttime is the hardest because he will cry in a way he doesn’t usually, it feels like his world is ending! Anyone have any tips or experiences?

jhysmath

@komamommy night time was the first I had to wean when I got pregnant with my second. I couldn't sleep through her nursing anymore and neither of us were getting any sleep. It was a tough first week, but I brought a sippy cup of water to bed and applesauce and offered that each time. 

With my second I chose to wean at night after not getting pregnant despite 6 months of perfect timing. I figured we'd get more sleep and if I did get pregnant I would be a head of the game. I started by stretching the time between feeds. So instead of giving in every 2 hours so I could just go back to sleep, I would rock and sing to her and see if I could get her back to sleep that way. I was able to get it down to a midnight and 4 am feed. Then I used my husband. My husband was much more useful this go around and I put myself in bed with my older daughter and he kept the 1 year old.  He cuddled her an snuggled her the best he could until she gave up. If it went on too long I went and saved them and sometimes just me snuggling worked other times I had to nurse her. When we cut out the midnight nursing she would end up needing me most mornings around 4 to nurse her and would be up for the day after that. I started trying to get her to eat some yogurt instead of nursing as the apple sauce trick didn't work for her and she just threw it at me. It required us to get out of bed which I think is why she thought it was now time to get up. We went probably 2  months where she never slept past 5 and it was such a struggle. I then decided to eliminate the morning wake up nursing because I thought maybe she'd sleep later if she wasn't nursing. It seemed to have worked for a bit, and if I know she didn't eat a good dinner I'll get applesauce and she'll eat  that and fall back asleep. We ran out of apple sauce packets this week, so I'm a little tired and need to go buy another giant pack. I got her to sleep until 7 this past weekend with the apple  sauce, though she didn't really nap the day before because we were busy. 

komamommy

@jhysmath Thanks for sharing your experience and giving some tips! We tried last night me sleeping in a different room and he woke once at midnight and I did have to nurse him, but otherwise he slept. I think we might keep doing this and hopefully he will adjust!

jhysmath

@komamommy only one wake up! You've got this. Being in another room helped the most for me. We cosleep though so she needed my husband to snuggle her still. 

lalarose22

@komamommy I read this blog post by Dr. Jay Gordon and found it really helpful. It’s a very gentle way to night wean once baby is over a year old. Here’s the link if you’d like! https://www.drjaygordon.com/blog-detail/sleep-changing-patterns-in-the-family-bed-most-popular-topic-fzb6w

komamommy

Thanks @lalarose22!

kboydbowman

Why is being on call great? 

Extra money. 

When is being on call not great? 

When you get woken up at 1:45 to come in to evaluate someone and you have to work your 2nd job the next day. 

If you need me Is, I'll be over here sleep driving my way to work.  At least I'll get a few more hours of sleep once I finish this one.

(If an inmate reports that they have been sexually assaulted, they have to be evaluated for possible suicidality within 4 hours. It's actually pretty rare for these calls to come in after hours. In the 3 years I have been doing on call services for 2 different prisons, I've only been called in a total of 5 times ever prior to this. And every other time the call has been in the evening, not the middle of the night. Oh well. With great reward comes great responsibility or something.  But this sucks hardcore with 1st trimester fatigue.)

jhysmath

Can it be wtfw again? 

My husband has had his 3rd cold in the last 3 months. We tested him last week and it was negative. The kids brought home a stomach bug, he didn't seem to think anything of it when the first kid was sick all night Saturday and told me take Monday off so I could sleep in if I was that tired. Well, then it hit the second kid. Then it hit me and he was a help taking the 1 year old to the toilet every 5 minutes as she had the poops and is newly nearly trained. I think he kept thinking I was overreacting with my symptoms though as I puked, ran to the toilet, and was just blah..... Well he caught it some time over night is lying in bed sleeping again, and has decided this isn't a stomach bug he has to have covid. I swear he's lying there telling me he's dying. He's been saying he can't smell since Friday, but when I asked him if he should get tested again, he said it's just a stuffed nose I was already tested. Today though, he is going on and on about how he can't smell all the puke and poop in this house. That now he has terrible stomach pains, his chest is hurting she he's having difficulty breathing.... I want to have sympathy especially when the last time I told him he was being ridiculous, I caught his cold and it was actually pneumonia, though I didn't cry like he did every day about it. 

I think I'm more annoyed that he's now decided he has covid after not caring about it all week after his negative test, and has been snuggling our 3 year old each night, and not sleeping in another bed like he's done in the past when he's had a cold he claims "must be covid".

Please note, we're both vaccinated and boosted, our 1 year old has a cold, but the 3 year old doesn't. 

whitta1015

@kboydbowman I'm just being nosey, but do these inmates only talk to you about things that are currently going on with them, or do they open up about the crimes they committed (why they did them, etc.). I think that would be so interesting. I was obsessed with that Netflix show "I am a killer." but I'm just weird like that.

kboydbowman

@whitta1015 It's a mixed. Some acknowledged guilt, some don't, and there are some that are truly innocent. Some of them will talk about their offenses and some will not. Our focus is generally not their events though, it's their current mental health issues.

kboydbowman

@jhysmath Have you ever seen the man cold video? If not you should look it up on YouTube. I think you will relate.

jhysmath

@kboydbowman I'll have to check it out. My husband is the epitome of man cold when he's sick. And I've been told I'm over reacting when I'm saying I'm sick and about to throw up. 

kboydbowman

@jhysmath

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gLj7fj-3L78

wiseh

@jhysmath I can totally relate to that too! Ever since my husband has had his first vaccination, every little niggle he is convinced is a vaccine side effect! It's so frustrating. Our daughter had a true reaction to one of the vaccines through my breastmilk (randomly starting having tonic clonic seizures, hospitalised for a week, they found absolutely nothing wrong with her, they spontaneously resolved after ~6 weeks & hasn't had one since) so his complaining is so annoying. 

That's so frustrating that he hasn't been isolating though! Especially if he had prior to this. Fingers crossed he doesn't have COVID!

theblondebump

@jhysmath why are all men such babies about being sick?! Literally I swear, I can be on my deathbed and I’m like, don’t forget to give the dog his heart worm meds and we have to take DD’s 9 month milestone photo and let me just cut her food up the way she likes it! If DH has a tickle in his throat he’s like OMG I think I have a flesh eating disease that’s going to kill me and I absolutely cannot function please please take care of me!! I hope everyone in your house feels better soon @jhysmath and you get some clarity on whether or not DH has Covid (hopefully not!)

kboydbowman

@theblondebump the boy person has been on antibiotics for his prostate for the past month and he read that one of the side effects was "possible increased sun sensitivity." So he immediately convinced himself that if he even looked outdoors while the sun was up he would get a corneal burn.  I wish I was joking.  He literally didn't leave the house during the day time for a month and if he had to let the dogs out he immediately claimed that the 2 second exposure gave him a sunburn (it did not).  He finished the antibiotics two days ago and within hours decided that the sun no longer bothered him.  I didn't feel like challenging him on "that's not how drug half-lifes work."

theblondebump

haha omg @kboydbowman I can't even with these boys.

jhysmath

They are ridiculous. His rapid came back negative. I'm getting his cold now so I went and tested with our school nurse who rolled her eyes and said you all have a cold you're fine (I brought my class with me because 2 of them wanted to be tested for their cold) my rapid was negative too. His pcr will come back negative. He took today off to recover and keep the kids home another day. Thankfully he's playing the wash everything game because of bed sheets have puke and poop on them from the 1 year old. We've used so many towels to clean things up. I feel like our whole apartment smells like sickness.