Hi everyone!! My husband and I are starting the conversation on when we want to start TTC. I am a teacher, and while I know every district/state is different on protocols for maternity leave, I was wondering if any fellow teachers had advice on the best time to have a baby as a teacher or what worked for them! Any advice would be helpful or any personal experiences
Re: Best Time to have a Baby as a Teacher?
And take it from me as someone who took over 4 years to have a progressing pregnancy... no matter what you think, there may never be a best time or any time will be a good time if you end up taking much longer than expected. DH and I have a commitment with a high school extra curricular that has it's busy time in the winter months so we always agreed that having a baby between January-March would be a terrible idea. I'm due in July and having very little time to work on our registry, getting the nursery room cleaned up and ready for baby furniture, or do baby classes right now, I'm not so sure a summer due date is any better!
TTC #1 since 7.2017
Dx: low morph (1%), ANA positive, low decidualization score, high TSH and testosterone, histone antibodies
IUI #1-3 | all BFN
IVF #1 | 6.11.19 | 24R, 17M, 15F, 6B, PGT-A tested - 5 normal, 3 girls & 2 boys
FET #1 | 9.10.19 | BFN "I know you, but we've never met. I'm with you, but I don't know your name"
RPL, Receptiva, & ERA testing | all normal/negative, recommended going on gluten and dairy free diet for next FET
FET #2 | 3.31.20 | Opted to cancelled due to pandemic, continued diet and tried naturally over the summer
2nd Opinion with another RE | 8.20.20 | Not immune to measles (received 1 dose); SA results similar to 2 years ago; decided to move forward with FET #2 redo at start of next cycle
Surprise natural BFP! | 9.22.20 | MC 10.23.20 at 8 weeks
TTCAL naturally | starting 11.22.20
Initial consultation with Reproductive Immunologist | 9.14.21
Decidualization score biopsy | 10.1.21 | abnormal - low score of 1; endometrial scratch recommended and progesterone supplementation
Saline sono | 10.15.21 | normal
Bloodwork | 10.21.21 | high TSH, high testosterone, positive for anti-nuclear antibodies and histone antibodies
BFP! | 11.3.21 | EDD 7.14.22 | biopsy provided same effect as endometrial scratch; added supplemental progesterone and estrogen, prednisone, levothyroxine, and MTX to maintain pregnancy
DS born 7.19.22 after induction
TTC #2 begins in 2023
Consultation with RI | TBD
My 1st was end of Nov—sucked because I had to start the year very preg and then come back to the same kids after a sub had been there for months and get the classes back on track. It was good because Nov, Dec, Jan are packed with free days off so I got some extra time during the holidays that I didn’t have to pay or use sick leave for. Also by the time summer rolled around I had a 6-7 month old who was more active and fun!
My 2nd was the end of February—this was overall better because I was able to just not come back so I didn’t have to deal with picking things back up BUT you are pregnant the entire year you are teaching which is exhausting. I also felt like I missed out on the scheduling and planning for the next year and got screwed on room assignments and some other stuff just because I wasn’t there to advocate.