Just got my period after my third two week wait following IUI with donor sperm. We’ve had four other cycles that have been cancelled before IUI. I’ve had a mix of letrozole, gonal-f, menopur and progesterone. And I’m crushed. The doctors have said that I’m not a good candidate for IVF because of my weight. Mentally, I don’t know how I’m going to go on. I am desperate to be a mom and it just feels like it is never going to happen for me.
This process feels insanely isolating and lonely. I have my partner, but not many others who I can talk to about it. And I feel terrible for being so upset. It’s not like I’ve had a miscarriage or lost a child. So, I feel like I don’t have a right to be this sad. But I just feel so hopeless.
Re: Third Failed IUI & Feeling Hopeless
I would also explore other clinics -- larger ones tend to have rules like that but a smaller practice might be more willing to work with you. My weight was never mentioned (good or bad) at my clinic even though I put on about 40-50 lbs between my last IUI and starting my IVF. I went to a solo practice and my first and second cycles have been successful in giving us our two beautiful little girls.
Summer 2015 - no BFP yet, labs normal, referred to RE
Fall 2015 - Summer 2016 - Further testing all normal. 3 IUI's -- BFN. Recommended move to IVF. Planned cycle for fall 2016.
September 2016 - Surprise natural BFP. MMC @ 8 weeks. RE expressed confidence that we just needed the 'right' embryo.
Fall 2016 - Spring 2017 -- Break from TTC
June 2017 - Started IVF; egg retrieval for freeze all cycle. 9 mature eggs retrieved, 5 fertilized. 2 4BB embies on ice.
August 2017 - FET transfer both embies. BFP. Twin pregnancy confirmed by ultrasound. EDD 4/28/18
September 2017 - Twin B stopped developing; Twin A doing perfectly! Graduated from RE @ 10 weeks
March 2018 - Baby Girl born via C/S due to pre-eclampsia -- strong and healthy!
January/Feb 2021 - Freeze-all IVF cycle
March 2021 - FET of 1 PGS normal female embryo. BFP! Beta #1 156, #2 472, #3 1241, #4 5268 EDD 12/5/21 - Christmas baby!
"When all is lost then all is found."