TMI...After dark discussion

AshleyGemini24

Has anyone else had a severe dip in libido? I know increases and/or decreases are normal. But I find myself making excuses not to, then feeling bad about not satisfying DH in the bedroom. Any advice ladies? 

elksamm

I’ve felt pretty much like garbage most of this pregnancy so not a whole lot of action going on over here. I don’t have any advice but you’re not alone. 

fifilala516

I can count on one hand how many times DH and I had sex the entire pregnancy. I've either felt too sick/too tired/too gross/too in pain, and I think DH is a little freaked out that he'll hurt the baby (even though we both know that it's not possible). I feel bad sometimes too about not satisfying him, but he says he doesn't care (TMI, he says "he has a hand" so he's fine.)

katepattsea

My advice is to talk about it, if you haven’t yet. We talk every week specifically about our relationship, both physical and emotional. You might find a solution that works for both of you just through communicating needs, wants, desired outcomes, undesired outcomes, etc. I found, as my sex drive has decreased lately that telling him I need longer and different foreplay, to not lay in a certain position, and for him to communicate with me when to slow down. It took us a few tries to figure out how to adjust, but we got there. 

Lisa3379

I had maybe one week during this pregnancy where I really felt like doing anything in that department. Since this is our third, my husband kinda knows I'm not in that mode so he doesn't even bother asking, haha. Yeah, I feel bad, but it's temporary, and since this is our last one, I'm definitely looking forward to having my body back for good so we don't have these interruptions anymore. 

magalina_h

It depends on the day/week. Some days I'm ready to go almost any time. Other days not at all. We are typically "weekenders" anyway so it doesn't really come up during the week. 

I would echos what others have said about having an open and honest convo with your partner.