Omg Bonjesta is a game changer. I can eat again! You know when you finally start to feel better after being really sick and you realize how sick you really were? I wasn't going to start it on Friday night because I thought I was functional. But my husband was like no tonight is the best night to try it. In the morning I made it to the park, Target for child's new fall/winter clothes that she actually had to try on and then took that 5 year old on the weekly grocery shopping trip without my husband and all before noon. No vomiting!
So I got some energy yesterday and did a big closet purge plus warm to cool weather clothing swap. Carried five small to medium boxes and one big bag of stuff out to my van to give away/donate. Figured up my daughter needed some leggings and a jacket but the boys were fine. Good deal.
Came back in after loading everything up, sat down exhausted in my living room, and realized that all I had to show for my efforts was a pile of mismatched socks still sitting on my coffee table. 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
Anyone ever forget they’re pregnant?? 🤦🏻♀️ I flopped belly first onto the bed after work today totally forgetting I’m pregnant until I felt the flop in my belly! Hope this kid’s durable!
Ugh my dad called me and his situation is just - there's no good solution. He's 75 with late-stage Parkinson's. He's burnt every bridge with every person in his life over the years (including me). But he's now in a position where he can't care for himself, it's not safe for him to live alone, he makes too much money (small pension and SSI, not a ton of money by any stretch) to qualify for Medicaid which would pay for services, but he doesn't make enough to pay for services himself. Medicare doesn't pay for the custodial care he needs. We're in a very high cost of living area so all the services are really, really expensive to pay privately, and we can't afford it - and I'm not sure I would be willing to because it would mean sacrificing our own ability to save money for our own retirement, etc, thus destining our own children to pay for this kind of isht for us. He lives like 90 min away so it's not an option for me to go care for him, especially not with kids. He's been mostly absent my whole life. He wants my mom to let him move back in, but they've been divorced more than 20 years after he cheated on her, ruined her finances, made her life miserable, etc. Like, absolutely not. I mean it's just - I feel bad that he's in this position. I feel bad ANYONE is in this position. But there's no good solution. Ugh. Getting old is scary, folks.
@doxiemoxie212 I’m sorry you’re going through this. I have a couple family members who have burned bridges that need end-of-life help, and it’s so difficult.
He could consider selling any assets and moving into an independent living facility in a low cost of living region. Less expensive than assisted living facility, but you can usually get a la carte assistance at lower rates. Things like meals and cleaning are included. My grandfather suffered from Parkinson’s and even without burned bridges, there were many tough care decisions. The side effects of L-dopa made him occasionally delusional and violent, and he needed a caregiver strong enough to physically restrain him.
@doxiemoxie212 that sounds awful. It might help to reach out to a Parkinsons support group to see what they recommend. There are a lot of resources out there but it's impossible to know how to get them when you need them. I'm a firm believer in family is the most important thing but no one owes anything just because they are related. Don't feel guilty that you can't or won't help. I hope that you can figure something out that puts your mind at ease.
@doxiemoxie212 Huge hugs! That’s so much on your shoulders, and I don’t think it’s wrong at all for you to consider the long-term impacts of how helping would affect your family. I hope he can find a lower cost option!
I finally got into a teledoc today (I’m going to skip my huge rant about the current state of our healthcare system), and it turns out that my swollen eye is a stye that’s unrelated to the headaches I’ve been having. So that’s good I guess? FX these drops start helping quickly.
@doxiemoxie212 I agree with @robbenson that a support group can be extremely helpful in providing you with resources. You’ll likely be able to find some local groups online that could help you even if it’s just through messaging with them. They may have resources and contacts for a social worker or case manager or similar worker to take the burden off of you and help him with his options. Sorry to hear you have to go through this right now. Try to take some time today to do something you know is a stress reliever for you to try and relax, or maybe take a nap! Sending you hugs!❤️
@minnie_yoga_mama I've searched but can't really find any local ones - just general California ones, and California is huge. I've spoken with the social workers at the senior care dept in his county, and they said there really is no option like that. I assumed there must be, but there just isn't. So I do feel bad for my dad, but I also more broadly feel absolutely terrified for the future of the aging population at large.
Every time I open up the Bump app it says, "On this day, your baby is the size of..." and it's always something small and I get it, it's cute but I want it to say, "your uterus is the size of a I don't know baseball". Because at least when I read that I can account for my tight pants and the desire to eat all the carbs in my house.
Agreed about how inconsistent and small the sizing seems to be. I want facts about how big it’s grown, not how tiny it is. Or maybe tell me about what part of the body is developing right now?
I thought I was in the clear. 🙈 I was so good for a solid couple weeks and starting eating most foods again. Then starting this week, I took a huge nosedive after trying to eat the chicken I prepped for my lunches and now it’s back and lingering around with me allllll dayyyyyy. 😓 Ugh I thought I was past this! And how weird that my nausea went away and then came back!??? Can eating a food you’re having an aversion to really do that??
@minnie_yoga_mama I also thought I had turned a corner, but yesterday proved otherwise. The exhaustion and all day nausea has lightened up but I'm definitely much more gaggy/nearly puking a lot more. So weird.
Anyone else having trouble with the bump app on the iphone? I can't do anything, not commenting, no NEW next to comments, nothing. I've tried uninstalling and reinstalling and nothing.
@Blondesweety444 ugh that is so frustrating! I've been in the app and had to go log in and it almost looks like the mobile web page and it even gives me a pop up telling me to download the app...despite the fact that I'm using the app. The app problems are why I typically don't post on the weekends. I use my desktop during the week.
TTC#1 10/2016 TTC/IF:included medicated cycles, IUIs and 2 rounds of IVF with 1 embryo each. BFP finally in 12/2018
TTC#2 06/2021 planning FET
"Some days are diamonds, some days are rocks, some doors are open, some roads are blocked"
@queenklau that's how I'm on now, I can't do anything from the phone. Which basically means I can only check in with you guys when I'm working. So it will be complete silence and then a million comments all at once.
@minnie_yoga_mama with DS3 I fell into this pattern of being totally useless from exhaustion and nausea for a week, and then I’d have a break for a few days, and then another week on the couch. Which probably doesn’t sound encouraging but once I found the pattern it helped me cope, reminding myself it wouldn’t last forever, I would get a break. And I figured it must be tied to growth spurts or something??
This time I have found my emotions do a play a role. We found some tufts of our cat’s hair in the backyard over the weekend and as soon as I got sad and crying I immediately nose-dived into nausea.
Not sure where to post this so throwing it in here. My hCG went down from the one 2 days ago. MW looked at my US again and she said there is a sac in there so egg was fertilized but baby never developed. I have to go to the early loss clinic and get the pill to remove the sac.
I am sad that this pregnancy wasn't viable but I feel so much better knowing what happened.
I really appreciate all of the support you ladies have given me and am send you all so much love through your pregnancies. ❤️
Kombucha-what does everyone know about that during pregnancy? I feel like we may have talked about it before, but it was my go to prior to pregnancy for just a delish special drink. My small amount of research shows that its the fact that its unpastureized that makes it a problem-as commercial Kombucha has almost no alcohol. I drink unpasturized fresh pressed cider, but I wouldn't drink unpastureized milk (I use it to make yogurt, which pasturizes it). I'm not sure which thing Kombucha is closer to, since you literally leave it out and let it grow living microbes. This IS commercial kombucha, not locally made or homemade. Anyone have thoughts/research?
@SmashJam I really mostly think anything you do pre-pregnancy aside from alcohol and drugs are safe during pregnancy. I'd basically look up what the risk of lysteria specifically is, and if that's not a concern then I wouldn't worry about it.
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So I got some energy yesterday and did a big closet purge plus warm to cool weather clothing swap. Carried five small to medium boxes and one big bag of stuff out to my van to give away/donate. Figured up my daughter needed some leggings and a jacket but the boys were fine. Good deal.
Came back in after loading everything up, sat down exhausted in my living room, and realized that all I had to show for my efforts was a pile of mismatched socks still sitting on my coffee table. 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
My grandfather suffered from Parkinson’s and even without burned bridges, there were many tough care decisions. The side effects of L-dopa made him occasionally delusional and violent, and he needed a caregiver strong enough to physically restrain him.
I'm a firm believer in family is the most important thing but no one owes anything just because they are related. Don't feel guilty that you can't or won't help. I hope that you can figure something out that puts your mind at ease.
Anyone else having trouble with the bump app on the iphone? I can't do anything, not commenting, no NEW next to comments, nothing. I've tried uninstalling and reinstalling and nothing.
TTC#1 10/2016
TTC/IF:included medicated cycles, IUIs and 2 rounds of IVF with 1 embryo each.
BFP finally in 12/2018
TTC#2 06/2021
planning FET
"Some days are diamonds, some days are rocks,
some doors are open, some roads are blocked"
I'll try all these things again.
ETA: I logged out, uninstalled, reinstalled, logged back in but still nothing. It's treating my community page like I'm not logged in at all.
TTC#1 10/2016
TTC/IF:included medicated cycles, IUIs and 2 rounds of IVF with 1 embryo each.
BFP finally in 12/2018
TTC#2 06/2021
planning FET
"Some days are diamonds, some days are rocks,
some doors are open, some roads are blocked"
BFP1 04/24/2015 EDD Dec 2015 MMC 10W5d;
BFP 2 09/25/2015 EDD June 2016 MMC 9wks;
BFP 3 03/22/2016 EDD Dec 6th 2016
This time I have found my emotions do a play a role. We found some tufts of our cat’s hair in the backyard over the weekend and as soon as I got sad and crying I immediately nose-dived into nausea.
I am sad that this pregnancy wasn't viable but I feel so much better knowing what happened.
I really appreciate all of the support you ladies have given me and am send you all so much love through your pregnancies. ❤️
BFP1 04/24/2015 EDD Dec 2015 MMC 10W5d;
BFP 2 09/25/2015 EDD June 2016 MMC 9wks;
BFP 3 03/22/2016 EDD Dec 6th 2016