@todzillamom. I wish I could tell you. My girls were only 19 months apart and then we had a two year gap before my first boy and then 14mos between the two boys. We've just kind of been winging it.
You do get into a groove with it. Like if I'm changing ones tush, I always check the other before I walk away from the changing table etc. In the early days, we listened to a lot of songs on Mommy's phone to keep them from climbing me while I was nursing the baby. And I baby wore a lot to keep him from getting trampled.
Any Questions? Rants? Raves? I’m a little bit sad thinking about the age gap. My two are best buds. They will be in the same school starting next year. They share friends, clothes, a room and everything. I’m sad this one will have to go through school alone and won’t have a best buddy the way my girls do. Anyone else have this large of an age gap? Any thoughts, suggestions, advice?
How/when do you plan on telling your other kid(s) about this pregnancy/baby? How/when did you tell your kid(s) about previous pregnancies/babies and how old were they? We will probably wait for NIPT bloodwork and ultrasound. My girls are very sensitive and also blabber mouths so Id rather wait until we know we are in good shape and also ready to have others find out.
GTKY: What is one thing you are most looking forward to again with a LO? And least? Baby cuddles, cosleeping, baby smells, having a bigger, louder family. I hate a quiet house and I love when our walls rattle with noise!
least: def the four month sleep regression (which really lasts forever) 😬😬😬
@Ivorytower2 we are also going to have a large age gap. DS turns 5 this Friday 😭
I don’t have a ton of advise but I do have life experience. My sister and I are 4 years apart. We did not get along as kids at all just because of the different in maturity, but as adults we are the very best of friends. My brother and I are 6 years apart. It was enough that he was my little baby brother and I loved helping care for him as a baby. We played a bit growing up and fought less than with my sister. But I think that was more of a personality difference. Now that we’re grown I’m very good friends with my brother and we hang out quite a lot.
Overall I’m not worried about the age gap too much. I would have liked them to be closer, but life got in the way and it is what it is.🤷🏼♀️
@Blondesweety444 Thanks for your comment and glad to know I’m not the only one with a big age gap! My youngest sister is 7 years younger than me. We definitely had some rocky moments during your childhood, but now that we are adults, we are truly best friends and I guess that is the most important thing. But yes, life, global pandemic, etc., are definitely things out of our control!
Hi all! For those with big age gaps between babies, don’t worry so much, there is all kinds of sibling relationships. I think personalities rather than age influence this much more. I am 14 years older than my sister and it’s definitely a different type of relationship, but wonderful nonetheless.
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@queenklau. Thank you for saying that! My 1st and 2nd are 14yrs apart. The baby absolutely adores her big sissy, and the teen is a lot of help. But when I think of the teen heading out to college when baby is only in preschool, I do worry. It's so nice to hear from someone with the same age gap!
@ivory2 FWIW, my husband is the oldest of 4 boys. He hates his brother 18mo younger than him and has since they were early teens. He's fine with his brother 5 years younger than him, and he's closest to his brother 10 years younger than him. I don't think age gaps end up meaning as much as we assume they will past the toddler and early elementary years.
I had a large age gap with my brother (7 years). Truthfully, I’m not super close to him although we get on fine and love each other. On the plus side, I have a really close relationship with my parents. I got a lot of guidance and attention from them in my final years of school, which was awesome.
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You do get into a groove with it. Like if I'm changing ones tush, I always check the other before I walk away from the changing table etc. In the early days, we listened to a lot of songs on Mommy's phone to keep them from climbing me while I was nursing the baby. And I baby wore a lot to keep him from getting trampled.
7+2
How old are your other children?
6,4
How are you feeling?
sick (and tired!)
Any Questions? Rants? Raves?
I’m a little bit sad thinking about the age gap. My two are best buds. They will be in the same school starting next year. They share friends, clothes, a room and everything. I’m sad this one will have to go through school alone and won’t have a best buddy the way my girls do. Anyone else have this large of an age gap? Any thoughts, suggestions, advice?
How/when do you plan on telling your other kid(s) about this pregnancy/baby? How/when did you tell your kid(s) about previous pregnancies/babies and how old were they?
We will probably wait for NIPT bloodwork and ultrasound. My girls are very sensitive and also blabber mouths so Id rather wait until we know we are in good shape and also ready to have others find out.
GTKY: What is one thing you are most looking forward to again with a LO? And least?
Baby cuddles, cosleeping, baby smells, having a bigger, louder family. I hate a quiet house and I love when our walls rattle with noise!
least: def the four month sleep regression (which really lasts forever) 😬😬😬
I don’t have a ton of advise but I do have life experience. My sister and I are 4 years apart. We did not get along as kids at all just because of the different in maturity, but as adults we are the very best of friends. My brother and I are 6 years apart. It was enough that he was my little baby brother and I loved helping care for him as a baby. We played a bit growing up and fought less than with my sister. But I think that was more of a personality difference. Now that we’re grown I’m very good friends with my brother and we hang out quite a lot.
BFP1 04/24/2015 EDD Dec 2015 MMC 10W5d;
BFP 2 09/25/2015 EDD June 2016 MMC 9wks;
BFP 3 03/22/2016 EDD Dec 6th 2016