@smithaus We usually announce to our parents after the first ultrasound. I always tell my best friend after I tell my husband. This time around, I’m waiting until I graduate from the RE, but my husband told his parents and siblings after our first ultrasound. Other than that, we don’t announce pregnancies. People find out once I start showing enough to tell. With DS2, that was around 16 weeks.
this is our fourth pregnancy but we had a loss at 23 weeks in February so I hated telling then untelling.
So the only people that know right now is a friend who lurks on the bump sometimes and “caught” me lol and another friend I shared with only because she was nervous to tell me she was pregnant because of my recent loss.
I don’t know who my husband has told. Last time he literally told everyone the second we found out. I asked him not to tell people this time and he said he wouldn’t. But I don’t know if he told any of his close friends.
I don’t think I can avoid telling my family by Sept/Oct since we have a family vacation and I’ll be showing for sure by then.
My best friend comes in town in a few weeks and I’ll probably tell her then. Debating telling her now so it’s not a surprise when she gets here for girl’s weekend.
I feel like an idiot cause I should know this and I probably should have waited til 2nd trimester, but how bad is it to get hair highlighted in first trimester? I haven’t seen anything super negative about it via google, but now I’m second guessing it. It’s all said and done, just feel stupid now. Lol
@alylove11 you’re fine! Like most things I don’t think there’s any evidence that it could actually harm a fetus, just advised not to do in first trimester out of a major abundance of caution. I have to sign forms promising I’m not pregnant for like 90% of my beauty treatments so if they aren’t trying to cover their asses how bad could it really be? Enjoy your hair!
@smithaus we agreed we were comfortable with the miscarriage odds after 8 weeks and that’s when we’d start telling people. We’re both pretty private people and were glad we didn’t have to deal with anybody else’s emotions during our last loss. However my sister and her daughters are coming over tomorrow (I’ll be 7 weeks) and I’ve been feeling gross so I might spill a little early to them.
@kaf1788 thanks for the reassurance! It’s been a minute since I’ve been pregnant this far along, so I forget the do’s and dont’s. 🤦🏻♀️ Is Listeria hysteria still a thing? Lol I have my first appointment isn’t until the 14th, so I’ll ask for any updates guidelines.
@smithaus our immediate family knows- but only because we had father's day plans with them at a brewery I love and that was pretty impossible to hide. We won't tell other people until after first trimester.
Oh! My best friend and her husband also know. We told each other before we told our husbands, LOL! And she is due 2 weeks before I am!
@BusinessWife well, it is for the sake of private conversations. Anyone can find this message board, but on FB, my BMBs are secret groups, so they can't be found by searching, you can't see who is in them, etc. So, while I may not share details about my family and personal life here because I don't want anyone I know to accidentally stumble upon it, I can do that in my bmb secret groups.
<blockquote class="Quote"> <div class="QuoteAuthor"><a href="/profile/modoodles" class="js-userCard" data-userid="11681701">modoodles</a> said:</div> <div class="QuoteText">@BusinessWife well, it is for the sake of private conversations. Anyone can find this message board, but on FB, my BMBs are secret groups, so they can't be found by searching, you can't see who is in them, etc. So, while I may not share details about my family and personal life here because I don't want anyone I know to accidentally stumble upon it, I can do that in my bmb secret groups. </div> </blockquote> TB has private groups.
Re: Weekly Randoms 6.28.2021
this is our fourth pregnancy but we had a loss at 23 weeks in February so I hated telling then untelling.
@smithaus we agreed we were comfortable with the miscarriage odds after 8 weeks and that’s when we’d start telling people. We’re both pretty private people and were glad we didn’t have to deal with anybody else’s emotions during our last loss. However my sister and her daughters are coming over tomorrow (I’ll be 7 weeks) and I’ve been feeling gross so I might spill a little early to them.
Oh! My best friend and her husband also know. We told each other before we told our husbands, LOL! And she is due 2 weeks before I am!
<div class="QuoteAuthor"><a href="/profile/modoodles" class="js-userCard" data-userid="11681701">modoodles</a> said:</div>
<div class="QuoteText">@BusinessWife well, it is for the sake of private conversations. Anyone can find this message board, but on FB, my BMBs are secret groups, so they can't be found by searching, you can't see who is in them, etc. So, while I may not share details about my family and personal life here because I don't want anyone I know to accidentally stumble upon it, I can do that in my bmb secret groups. </div>
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TB has private groups.